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Brief summary before I get to the bottom line😉
  1. Deora's have Delhi se chef 🤢 - S's have MJ👏
  2. Deora's have managers + wedding planners 🤢 - S's have Naitik + Akshara⭐️👏
  3. Deoras have booked a 5 star hotel 🤢 - S's have M's group of hotels⭐️⭐️
Ab Munna yeh batao, hum barabar kaise nahi hai? Why is Munna behaving like the 2 maa's, chinta stricken? 😲 Between the hall & the Mandir, Naitik had a shave😆 Shayad Sam ki baate CV's ne pad liya aur Akshara ne Munna ko madad kiya but afsos humhe nahi dikhaya😡 Sorry Sam, but I had to rub it in...🤣

Maa-beti conversation mein, Akshara should have simply stayed out🤢 G3 can control her daughter any way she chooses. Rashmi is not a child, and she had a good defense too. Akshara's intention was honorable, she thought the situation was going out of control but she came in the line of fire

To an extent G3 was right to tell Akshara to stop interfering & this isn't the first time. Akshara kyun nahi samjthi?😕 However G3 should not have uttered the last line. Baar baar shutting Akshara up with that below the belt remark is distasteful coming from an elderly person🤢 Gusse mein ho jatha hai & I expect a maa-beti hug Won't last long, "sorry maa - tum meri beti ho/gusse mein bol diya" moment will come sooner than expected. Kitchen scene scared BM too...🤣 Now it's all making sense, RB's stick to khana funda is for a reason😆 Iss eccentric aurat se panga lene se accha hai, pet puja karo aur khush raho...🤣

Now on to my questions(Sorry Kaumudi, you still have the job😆)
  • How much is too much? As a culture we are expected to respect our elders. Does that mean we cannot speak up when we feel wronged. When have you as a younger person exceeded your limits? Was Rashmi or Akshara wrong in replying back?
  • Do you think G3 needs anger management?🤣
  • If you are defending G3, was she right in saying what she did? Should she take out her anger on her bahu every time?Should G3 let Rashmi chose her clothes at her wedding?
  • Was she right in putting Naitik in a tight spot knowing that she may have hurt bahu, maybe unintentionally?
That ends my bak-bak; put on your thinking caps.😃
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Now on to my questions(Sorry Kaumudi, you still have the job😆)
  • How much is too much? As a culture we are expected to respect our elders. Does that mean we cannot speak up when we feel wronged. When have you as a younger person exceeded your limits? Was Rashmi or Akshara wrong in replying back?
  • No i dont think akshara or rashmi is wrong in this time . first G3 need to stop this ANXIETY . Oh god i never see anyone not even a kid who is this hiper like G3 today😡. and respect of elders is there but elders also have to learn to stay in the limit.
  • Do you think G3 needs anger management?🤣
  • yes i wnated to appoint Sulu to do the classes for g3 but she left😭.
  • If you are defending G3, was she right in saying what she did? Should she take out her anger on her bahu every time?Should G3 let Rashmi chose her clothes at her wedding?
  • NO she cant take out her anger on bahu . just because bahu is taking with smile and say sorry all the time does not give her power to do that. and just before that she just have to think one think that her daughter is getting married and she will be also some one bahu.
  • Was she right in putting Naitik in a tight spot knowing that she may have hurt bahu, maybe unintentionally?
  • At this time i dont think it is unintentionally. she did it before when Dj said that its her and rashmi at fault. but this time she said it on akshara s face and i dont think thats acceptabel. i think G3 found new escuse to get out of all her mistake by blaming aksahrs MC have to do it😡. akshara or anyone is just human. mistake can happen form anyone . they should not repet the MC again and again. DUKHTI RUG PE HAATH RAKKHO GE TO CHEEK TO JARUR NIKLEGI. so now G3 its time for you to face the music 😉. and i want aksahre to say to her MA loude and clear that her MC have nothing to do with anythink and no one have to say this again. she is the one can stop this one sat for all. and naitik have to stay out of this.

That ends my bak-bak; put on your thinking caps.😃

Sari thanks i was thinking all this from the evening but didnt have time 😭.aj jo g3 ne kaha . i liked it that everyone is there to hear. i wish Rb and Dj bhi hote to maza aata. but loved the precape munna ne dil khush kar diya. and akshi walk off from there👏. pari stay that way for atlest one day show your MA that you are also have heart and mouth and they cant treat you like doormat all the time. 👍🏼. i will take my words back if you back off with this pari dont break my HOPE .
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Akshara has crossed her limits several times MAA MAA karke..! But this time even though she shudnt have poked in btween Ma and Beti, I dont think she crossed her limits. Whatever rashmi does, G3 puts blame on akshara...😡 I dont understand why g3 wants akshara to take care of/ guide rashmi..!😕 Bahu, tum samjhao rashmi ko...!! ye kaisi baat hui...?? Did akshara raise her up from childhood...? Beti ne galti ki toh bahu ko daanto... Cant she advice her daughter on her own..? beti gayi nikhil ke saath akele ghoomne toh isme bahu ki galti...beti nahi chahti ki blouse ki design bhaari ho toh isme bhi bahu ki galti...🤢🤢🤢🤢
Accha ye hoga if akshara doesnt return back to her MAA jaap soon. Let Maa also understand her importance. B'day/surprises plan karne se kuch nahi hoga...🤢 Kal toh G3 crossed all her limits giving tough competition to Rj...aise behave kar rahi thi ki aaj hi shaadi hai..😕
Now why is naitik behaving as if they are nothing in front of Deoras..?? 😕

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Speaking from the bench of fringe participants...( a 'Kaumudi permitted' class😆),

On preamble...Obviously the status schism is getting built for future rifts; either complete break-down before nuptials or Rama-Rashmi ruptures in afterward...in this light, Singhania's present tribulations are inevitable torture for viewers, but they can't- (Cvs 'can' do anything though)- show them approaching Maheshwari Hotels, what with previous brouhaha re 'principals' and Maheshwaris' threatening take over of Rashmi bitiya's marriage functions...😕

On Queries...

There ought to be a balance and harmony, as it should be in any relationships...And perhaps Judicious Elders beget true respect, not autocratic ones...They will rather welcome/encourage the younger views and then show their experience ( Dadi...), Here G3 is just decreeing her seniority...In this particular case not even remembering that it was Akshara who was originally delegated with trousseau preparations...obvsly she'd have not minded any interjections from Akshara, if she were to have concurred her views😆...Even worse, in pre cap she is showed manipulating Ntk too...shaming him for interference on wife's behalf...Then why had she herself interfered in their internal hitch at the MC time?...Not a balanced adult she is imaging herself...

But as is their wont, this may sooner turn into a damp squib, a temporary ploy to afford Star channel its due share of striking promotions all though the previous week...
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: --Sari--

Brief summary before I get to the bottom line😉

  1. Deora's have Delhi se chef 🤢 - S's have MJ👏
  2. Deora's have managers + wedding planners 🤢 - S's have Naitik + Akshara⭐️👏
  3. Deoras have booked a 5 star hotel 🤢 - S's have M's group of hotels⭐️⭐️
Ab Munna yeh batao, hum barabar kaise nahi hai? Why is Munna behaving like the 2 maa's, chinta stricken? 😲 Between the hall & the Mandir, Naitik had a shave😆 Shayad Sam ki baate CV's ne pad liya aur Akshara ne Munna ko madad kiya but afsos humhe nahi dikhaya😡 Sorry Sam, but I had to rub it in...🤣

Maa-beti conversation mein, Akshara should have simply stayed out🤢 G3 can control her daughter any way she chooses. Rashmi is not a child, and she had a good defense too. Akshara's intention was honorable, she thought the situation was going out of control but she came in the line of fire



To an extent G3 was right to tell Akshara to stop interfering & this isn't the first time. Akshara kyun nahi samjthi?😕 However G3 should not have uttered the last line. Baar baar shutting Akshara up with that below the belt remark is distasteful coming from an elderly person🤢 Gusse mein ho jatha hai & I expect a maa-beti hug Won't last long, "sorry maa - tum meri beti ho/gusse mein bol diya" moment will come sooner than expected. Kitchen scene scared BM too...🤣 Now it's all making sense, RB's stick to khana funda is for a reason😆 Iss eccentric aurat se panga lene se accha hai, pet puja karo aur khush raho...🤣

Now on to my questions(Sorry Kaumudi, you still have the job😆)
  • How much is too much? As a culture we are expected to respect our elders. Does that mean we cannot speak up when we feel wronged. When have you as a younger person exceeded your limits? Was Rashmi or Akshara wrong in replying back?
  • Do you think G3 needs anger management?🤣
  • If you are defending G3, was she right in saying what she did? Should she take out her anger on her bahu every time?Should G3 let Rashmi chose her clothes at her wedding?
  • Was she right in putting Naitik in a tight spot knowing that she may have hurt bahu, maybe unintentionally?
That ends my bak-bak; put on your thinking caps.😃


Sari, in a society , there r different kinds of people...there r those who choose to remain silent when they think something is wrong...then there r those who speak about it..very few take action ! yes, it's difficult to reply back , but it IS necessary ! don't we correct our mom and dad when we think they r wrong somewhere? without any hesitation? then why this expectation from the bahu that she must not answer back? the point is, if akshara thinks she's right, then why not correct Gayitri ? why sorry everytime? it gives gayitri an ego boost 🤢 that she's always right...it's always the bahu bec. it's a simple logic..Akshara is NOT Gayitri's own blood ! no matter how much akshara does ma ma ma ma, gayitri is first naitik and rashmi's ma...yes, she forgives akshara and they move on, but the difference is that when naitik or rashmi will do any mistake, it will be easily forgotten whereas bahu ki galtiyan will be piled up , i think for the entire life. so it's useless to expect her to treat naitik and akshara in the same way..

as a younger person i have exceeded my limits so many times 😆 n i always repent that i cud not say much 😆 ye bhi keh deti woh bhi ! even if it's a small explanation or a different pov, elders think they r disrespected 🤢 but after a few years, the adjustment comes..we adjust to them and they adjust to us coz we know ek hi family mein rehna hai...kisi tarah time kaatna hai...my mil HAS to take my opinion on every matter, n i try my best to leave everything to her, phir bhi the moment i give my opinion, she's like "nahiii" 😆 kuch galat ho gaya toh mayura ne kaha tha 😆 now i ignore these incidents bec. it's a daily routine for me

gayitri i think is like this bec. nobody can argue with her..not just bahu, she can take out her anger on anybody...she doesn't see whoz in front of her , bma, rajshri, akshara, rashmi, nandini, daddaji, RB, anybody...Gayitri can put roadside bhajiwali to shame when HER mood is not okay ! she's used to getting her way everytime..even daddaji doesn't object to her decisions ...RB is always like "haanji okay" , toh she has this habit apni baat manvane ki...her bahu pampers her, that's why she's like this...ekdum seedhi ho gayi hoti agar uski bahu payal jaisi hoti ! 😆

obviously what she said is wrong..but partially maate is also responsible for this...we should try not to expose our weakness to anyone but maate does it again n again, and it's not bholapan also..ye hai blind trust on mil..blind trust on the wrong person 😳...when she had an argument with naitik , she herself went to gayitri n told her that after mc, uska dhyan hi nahi lagta, kuch bhi kehti hoon kuch bhi sochti hoon ! i dun remember how many times gayitri said this to akshara directly and indirectly ke uska dhyan nahi hai mc ki wajah se but maate aaj hi boli...chalo at least she retaliated 👏

Gayitri should let rashmi choose her clothes or no is her and rashmi's matter 🤢 i dun understand why akshara thinks it's only HER duty to manaofy the upset person 🤢 if gayitri is upset with rashmi or vice versa, why does akshara have to butt in and clear the mu and resume the talks? it's so unrealistic ! let the concerned 2 ppl. talk and clear the air...gayitri mar nahi jaati 1 din nahi khati toh ! see how much encouragement she got...yest. she was telling rashmi "mangni kar li , milne jaati hai"..jo apni beti ko taunt kar sakta hai, uske liye bahu kya hai?

Gayitri is not right in putting naitik in a tight spot but maate hai na..she will never let it happen 🤢
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: --Sari--


  • How much is too much? As a culture we are expected to respect our elders. Does that mean we cannot speak up when we feel wronged. When have you as a younger person exceeded your limits? Was Rashmi or Akshara wrong in replying back?
  • Do you think G3 needs anger management?🤣
  • If you are defending G3, was she right in saying what she did? Should she take out her anger on her bahu every time?Should G3 let Rashmi chose her clothes at her wedding?
  • Was she right in putting Naitik in a tight spot knowing that she may have hurt bahu, maybe unintentionally?
That ends my bak-bak; put on your thinking caps.😃


sarita very nice post 😛
i dont think yest akshara crossed her limits and reshmi too(only yest)...she has the right to choose what she ve to wear on her imp day...so reshmi s points are valid...and g3 should try to understand her daoughter or she can tell her pov in such a manner that make reshmi realise...but idhar tho g3 volcano banke baiti hai...aur akshara ...thank god at last she opened her mouth for the proper reason...g3 khud khethi hai mc ko bhul jaao aur aage bado aur khud mc ki yaad dilate hi rehthe hai😡 ye kahan ke reet hai...shaayad ss ki parampara hoga bahu ko hamesha taane marthe reho🤢 koi bhi nahi sunega ...akshara tho abtak chup thi ...

g3 hamesha apne frustration apni bahu par hi nikalthi hai😡 apni beti ko control nahi kar saktha tho seedha bahu ko nishana banadeta hai😡aur aajkal bahu kis reason se pareshan hai ussi reason ko baar baar unki saamne bolke usse dukh pahunchathi hai...this is not at all fair...akshara ki koi galti nahi hai kal...aur upar se akshi jhagada nahi kiya...she politely quistioned ...which i liked ...she never shouted at g3...it was g3 only created the whole scene...ab tak akshara jo bhi g3 kehthi hai chupchap ji maa...ji ma karke sunte hi aayi hai...tho socha hoge iss baar bhi bahu sun legi ... lekin mc ki baat par akshi ko bhi bura laga actually g3 ko munna ko beech mein laane ki jarurat nahi thi😕 ye tho pure saas bahu dmara hai...iske andar pati ya bete ko lana is 🤢 hope akshara will handle this properly😊aur monday ko hi akshara ka sorry session start ho jayega🤢tho fir baath khatam🥱
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@MB - G3 was a train wreck, totally out of control almost borderline crazy😆 G3 always has been the one in control even in her anger😕. But yest she behaved like she was possessed. What she said to Akshara on the MC issue was totally unacceptable. It's almost like she knows her soft spots & she strikes where it hurts the most Yes, Akshara exposed herself with all the maatagiri but like you said that doesn't give someone the right to to hurt her. Good point, she was fully aware what she was saying too coz she said "mein kehna nahi chahti pur..."👏 I am not sure if she uses it as blame game whenever it's convenient or if she is subconsciously upset that bahu couldn't make her a dadi🤢

@apoorva - you brought out a good point👏 Yes, G3 does tell bahu tum samjao. Why? Isn't that her job as a mother? How much older is bahu over Rashmi? But yest, G3 was blasting Rashmi & Akshara tried to protect Rashmi & calm G3. The ideal thing in that situation would have been to let her cool off, let Rashmi take the heat. Talk to her at a later moment. Akshara thinks that pacifying everyone is her farz 😕 & that mindset is getting her into this mess time & again She needs to learn from her experiences & let people handle it themselves. Also, not pushing back in the past makes everyone think that they can walk all over her & that is exactly what G3 did🤢 In future, if Akshara plays this one out w/o begging for forgiveness in the next few secs G3 will be more careful.
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Lakshmi - Sahi kaha aapne👏 Mujhe bhi yahi baath ka dar hai, that come Mon Akshara will start begging G3 to forgive her🤢 This will only make it worse coz will seriously begin to think Akshara was wrong in answering her back & she was ok to say anything she wanted. Excuse would be, gusse mein bol diya aur bahu ne dil se laga liya🤢 Maa hun...🥱 CV's ka kya kare?😕

Akshara ne ek baath sahi kahi thi, if they just don't try to understand Rashmi's pov she will continue to rebel. Kya patha she will feel that nobody cares for her feelings & ek din Nikilji ke saath baagegi. Deora's won't have a prob with that either😆 Rama be khush hogi, bahu modern hai😆
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Originally posted by: smrth

Speaking from the bench of fringe participants...( a 'Kaumudi permitted' class😆),

On preamble...Obviously the status schism is getting built for future rifts; either complete break-down before nuptials or Rama-Rashmi ruptures in afterward...in this light, Singhania's present tribulations are inevitable torture for viewers, but they can't- (Cvs 'can' do anything though)- show them approaching Maheshwari Hotels, what with previous brouhaha re 'principals' and Maheshwaris' threatening take over of Rashmi bitiya's marriage functions...😕

On Queries...

There ought to be a balance and harmony, as it should be in any relationships...And perhaps Judicious Elders beget true respect, not autocratic ones...They will rather welcome/encourage the younger views and then show their experience ( Dadi...), Here G3 is just decreeing her seniority...In this particular case not even remembering that it was Akshara who was originally delegated with trousseau preparations...obvsly she'd have not minded any interjections from Akshara, if she were to have concurred her views😆...Even worse, in pre cap she is showed manipulating Ntk too...shaming him for interference on wife's behalf...Then why had she herself interfered in their internal hitch at the MC time?...Not a balanced adult she is imaging herself...

But as is their wont, this may sooner turn into a damp squib, a temporary ploy to afford Star channel its due share of striking promotions all though the previous week...


Great insight, typical smrth style👏The pre-cap is a very common occurrence in our culture. Most husbands are ridiculed for speaking up for their wives😕 They are branded either as hen pecked or joru- ka- gulam😆 To prove that he indeed is the one wearing the pants so to speak in the relationship Naitik probably will want to stay neutral in the future even though he clearly feels his wife is probably right That is when Akshara will have to stand up for herself or just be reduced to a nobody like she is being treated now.
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Originally posted by: _charu_

as a younger person i have exceeded my limits so many times 😆 n i always repent that i cud not say much 😆 ye bhi keh deti woh bhi ! even if it's a small explanation or a different pov, elders think they r disrespected 🤢 but after a few years, the adjustment comes..we adjust to them and they adjust to us coz we know ek hi family mein rehna hai...kisi tarah time kaatna hai...my mil HAS to take my opinion on every matter, n i try my best to leave everything to her, phir bhi the moment i give my opinion, she's like "nahiii" 😆 kuch galat ho gaya toh mayura ne kaha tha 😆 now i ignore these incidents bec. it's a daily routine for me


Loved your response, so well written with real world analogy👏 It's very direct & your sincerity touches me; it comes straight from the heart👏 I can tell just from reading your posts that you say it like it is & I'm sure you have gotten in trouble for that same reason😆 I know I have, not once but several times but like Akshara I never learn...🤣

The pre-cap actually made me pause & think. Is it really still a big deal when the younger generation question the older generations judgement or hurtful comments?😕 Yes, growing up we were never encouraged to reply back even to people who grossly misrepresented our thoughts & I still get the same advice from my mother when I am upset over nosy relatives😆


Yes, I have never experienced the mamaji types nor do I have to deal w/in-laws on a daily basis. So the interactions are fewer so I mostly ignore, which angers them even more while I enjoy the fruits over the chagrin written all over their faces😆 Evil, ha? But I'm mostly the passive aggressive type & the message is conveyed loud & clear without even saying a word😆 I pick my battles & when push comes to shove I do speak up & it's definitely not pretty but it's a very rare occurrence coz ignoring has worked wonders😉😆


Akshara is naive if she believes that pyaar se G3 ka dil jeet sakthi hai. If she has not won over G3 in the last 2 years, it's never going to happen. It's time for Akshara to accept this & find a new strategy to protect herself from getting hurt time & again. Woh hur baath ke liye sorry bolna has gotten herself in this mess🤢 Agar galthi nahi hai tho sorry kyun bolna hai?😕Why panic if you are not guilty? She throws in the towel even before the battle has begun & G3 puts her on the defensive due to this very nature Ab Mon ko bhi yahi hoga, she will go and cry on her lap again. Maa, pata nahi kya hua mujhe, mein samaj hi nahi pathi, kya bolo. Aap sahi kehthi hai,mera dhyan patha nahi kaha rehta hai...🥱 This will only empower G3. Akshara, pls prove all of us wrong👏 We will be cheering you on the sidelines👏

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