Is Varsha suffering from postnatal depression? - Page 3

looks like varsha will throw Rajshri & Shaurya in PND 🤣

Originally posted by: _charu_

looks like varsha will throw Rajshri & Shaurya in PND 🤣

Rajshri will be more than happy taking care of the baby but varsha doesn't feel like being there for ananya..somewhat strange...😕

hey you answer yr own question in yr post to my reply, "MIL offer to help with baby but i was too arrogant to let her" maybe thats what varsha is doing, she dont want her inlaws to think that she is know it all arrogant bahu, first i thought it was PND but i think she wants baby to bond with her Daadi more, just as akshi was more close to her daadi and kaki then her own mother, whats do you think????

Originally posted by: _charu_

really nice to read ur story ❤️ i so much agree with you that taking responsibilities is the most difficult task...living in a nuclear family is not a cakewalk either...it's tougher and more demanding..it has it's set of problems....joint family, if not joint, at least our parents should be with us...for the same reason , i always try to avoid any conflict which might result in division of the family...like our parents r special for us, hubby's parents r equally imp. for him....the influence of grandparents on kids has no parallel ! i didn't have hubby's support in raising the kids 😆 gawd i had to do everything on my own..wake up all through the night n look after 2 kids ....it's sheer torture..first time my mil offered help but i was too arrogant to take it, 2nd time she didn't bother n i came to know the value of it.....i didn't expect any help from hubby either bec,. after a long & tiring day at the office, it's difficult to stay up the whole night..being at home, i can rest anytime of the day when the baby is sleeping.....

it's only bec. of my MIL that i'm living life like a princess 😆 whenever she's around i need not worry abt the servants, housework , kitchen or anything..i can leave my kids with her and go out whenever i want....i hate to leave the kids alone with the maid.........she has her own life so she doesn't expect too much from me either..i've noticed so many times that when she chats with her friends, her mood gets better...enuf of my blabbering now 😆

i'd love to hear ur views on akshara..is she real? bec. u have seen life more than us...u must have met a lot more people.....

i have not met lot off ppl i growup in CHD india with family of 4 mum dad bro and meeven though i have huge extended family from mum dad both side and when merried and move to another country where hubby has broothers and sis its differant but my MIL was very smart woman she incurige her sones to buy propertys with there income so when i got merried there were 2 jethanis there and MIL ask us all 3 to move into our own house, but she was always there to support us she never come and lived with us but she can walk to the houses any time we are on walking distance, and when i have my older son bith my mum and MIL were there for me mum stay 6mths and then go back to CHD. so 2 yrs later i was on my own for younger son. but i mean suportive hubby means he would play with boys after day at work so i can get dinner ready, and just watch them while i am doing other stuff. he never change a nappy or got up to feed the boys, but i was lucky both boys slept through all night, if i was sick or still is he would help me cook and even bahus found it nice that dad can cook as there dads never did and they love sasurji's cookin😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆, as i said i was lucky both girls from same background as us but born and raised just like boys did and they all kept good things from both culture, only thing i am sad about ids sthey never got to know there daadiji, older son was 1 when she passed,
as for akshi??? what i think??? she need to get self confidance like versha has,,, stop being cry baby, if she is bored nothing to do at home why not go to the office and work there. and just stop being a doormat. 😲

Originally posted by: sara_sara

hey you answer yr own question in yr post to my reply, "MIL offer to help with baby but i was too arrogant to let her" maybe thats what varsha is doing, she dont want her inlaws to think that she is know it all arrogant bahu, first i thought it was PND but i think she wants baby to bond with her Daadi more, just as akshi was more close to her daadi and kaki then her own mother, whats do you think????

Serious talks going on. Sorry 4 interfering dont know anything abt PND but varsha irritates me 2 d core. Can't take anything 4rm varsha anymore erghhhh.......

Originally posted by: FLGators

Highly unlikely, she isn't an ideal candidate; even if she has hormonal issues she has a complete support system. PND mostly happens when there is a lack of support system; you have no help with the baby, sleepless nights, weak body & no social life. It's a good track to explore they may try it w/Akshara coz she is the one who is always crying in the show. Varsh's life has been rosy.😊

In Varsha's case, I think she is unable to bond with the child; it takes time for some to get used to the new responsibility. It will take time for it to sink in, tabi bolthe hai na ki maa ka hona bahut zaroori hai after child birth coz maa is the only one who will understand the daughter in such a situation & is willing to put up with her moods.

Rajsri has been really good w/Varsha's pregnancy mood swings; like yest she didn't mind Varsha's attitude coz I think she understands. Rajsri has been a good saas almost unreal; all saas should take a tip or 2 from her. almost forgot, bahu's can take tips from Akshara too but in moderate doses pls....

Originally posted by: xyze

may be u r right ki she is unable to bond wid the child....but it looks a bit strange to me😕

i remember the moment she met jimmy, she did all his work na....giving him food playing with him that too when she was 7 months pregnant......

i am not comparing bringing up a baby to taking care of a pet.....bringing up a child is the biggest n the toughest task for anybody.What i am trying to compare is her attitude in the two situations.....

n i suppose the reason for this is her supporting family especially rajshri....for jimmy she had no support as such so she adjusted to doing all this work but here she has found an escape route in rajshri n she is taking full advantage.

again as i say i find that she is unwilling to learn!like putting ananya tio sleep...theek hai first time she was confused or didn't know to rajshri helped but iska kya matlab hua ki everytime u go to ur saas n say "put my daughter to sleep plz, i will do all the other work"🤢atleast she should try to learn.Here rajshri too shud take the initiative n try to make her learn these things of course calmly n lovingly( anyways she can never be a strict saas 😆)

Originally posted by: _charu_

well what i meant was ke i thought i'll do everything on my own , i don't need anyone's help..it's in my nature, i feel very awkward asking for help..if someone does it on their own fine..but i never ask for it..that's why i can't handle servants also which pisses off my MIL..she says if u can do everything on ur own why r the servants needed in the house 😆 when i had my 1st baby, i got too attached with her....didn't give her to maid also.....my mil can't stay with her doggy n i hate dogs...bec. of fear of infection, i was hesitant to give my baby to her...just in the intial months..uske baad toh she was with her dadi all the time....

BTW I'm also in Chd..married in chandigarh 😛

i think Varsha is not arrogant..nor she has any issues with her MIL ....the fact is that doing kitchen work is much easier than looking after the baby 😆 varsha will take sometime to handle this new responsibility....she's having an easy way out..to hand over ananya to MIL ...ananya has bonded with her dadi coz dadi spends more time with her 😆Shaurya knows that it's difficult for rajshri also...and then, if the mother doesn't take up these responsibilties, she will not get a chance to bond with her baby..so Shaurya is right if he points it out to varsha....

well i Growup in CHD where in chd??? my mum teach me to do my own things no servents, and still every time i visit india like to do stuff on my own like washing clothes cooking etc, what i see thease days is ppl are too dependent on servents thease days but thats there choice. and yes house work is lot easy then looking after kids, remember when rakshri was unwell after akshi's wedding vish was forcing her to do everything, eveyone in family thought it was weird, and once versha was told by vish why he was doing that she did the same, maybe she has same thing on her mind as she must have seen signs, or she is suffering from PND.

Originally posted by: sara_sara

well i Growup in CHD where in chd??? my mum teach me to do my own things no servents, and still every time i visit india like to do stuff on my own like washing clothes cooking etc, what i see thease days is ppl are too dependent on servents thease days but thats there choice. and yes house work is lot easy then looking after kids, remember when rakshri was unwell after akshi's wedding vish was forcing her to do everything, eveyone in family thought it was weird, and once versha was told by vish why he was doing that she did the same, maybe she has same thing on her mind as she must have seen signs, or she is suffering from PND.

Lol, yeah, after last night, I don't really think she's depressed at all!