DOTW - 28th march:fragile ego of elders.. (CLOSED) - Page 2

Originally posted by: moonlight08

1. there's a difference between self-respect and ego.. what is it.?? when daddaji separated naksh.. what do u think came into play then.. his self-respect or his ego.??

2. "Confronted by outstanding merit, there is no way of saving one's ego except by love."

how true is this statement in case of naksh.. or akshara in particular.?? is she trying to treat daddaji's and gayatri's bruised ego by love or is she lowering her self respect.. as said by many here.?? what do you think you would have done in this case.??

3. what are the possible reasons for daddaji's and other members of singhania's such high standards of ego.. does generation gap have a role to play in it or it's just that since daddaji's authority was never questioned that his ego is so much fragile.??

4. naitik too has ego.. what difference is there in his ego and egos of other family members including nandini.?? how has his ego undergone a change after his marriage to akshara.??

Originally posted by: _charu_

very nice discussion topic Kamudi 👏

firstly i think every person has ego, the degree might differ..this is what gives us a distinctive personality....

if we talk of that instance in particular, i think daddaji was right in his position..he is very egoistic but in that case , his self respect played a major part in taking that decision....and then, it was not that 1 instances but many such incidents where he felt naitik wants to do everything his way , he doesn't wanna live under their shadow ! in a way his thinking was progressive..such incidents wud have occured again n again toh he put a full stop to it ! akshara and naitik knew very well that daddaji does not want to accept any help from vish toh they should have respected his wish, no matter what the consequences might have been....daddaji wanted it that way...if it was naitik & akshara's personal matter, they had the freedom to do whatever they like !

yes, ur right.....therez no other way of saving one's ego but by love.....we often underestimate the power of love..love can conquer one and all ! can't say she's lowering her self respect..may be..sometimes...but then if she didn't act that way, it wud have made the matters worse & increase the misunderstandings...the good thing is that nobody can blame her for not doing her bit...u know naitik is supporting her & is with her bec. of this trait only...i think so..

the third question..i'll go with the 2nd option..nobody has questioned daddaji's authority hence the inflated ego ! he thinks only he's right , everybody follows his orders..naitik dared to cross the boundary line 😛 of course generation gap plays a vital part..it is a reality which can never change..everyone has to face similar problems...the solution is not universal..it depends on person to person..some elders r more adjusting, some youngsters r willing to adjust..i think the right balance is achieved when BOTH of them bend a little...the sad part is that "how much adjustment & how much restriction" is not known

Naitik changed a lot after marriage & Akshara's love changed him....i said the same in one of my msgs a few days back..prolly those 2 incidents change him..when he was separated from akshara & when sneha came into his life...he loves akshara from the bottom of his heart ..he has mellowed down but i think the change is temporary....well, he's not willing to give up his self respect totally but we've seen that he too goes to any length to please his family......his perspective & Akshara's perspective is right individually but they clash when they're together ! he has maintained a delicate balance but can't say for how long it'll continue 😛

i was a bit sceptical about this topic as the discussion.. as i wrote earlier.. it looks like an exam question paper to me.. but u liked it.. omg.. im on cloud 9 abhi.!! i felt charu di ne lyk kia.. bus.. ab to mera discussion topic bahut hi accha hai.!!!

Akshara is a very plain & simple girl who has led a very sheltered life. She never thinks anyone can ever do anything wrong. A very endearing quality is her bholapan & this very bholapan makes her think that everyone is selfless like her. She lacks self confidence & always thinks maybe she herself has erred somewhere & ends up blaming herself. Daadi has been a very influential person in her upbringing but surprisingly I have not seen her applying any of Daadi's philosophies in her personal life. Instead she has chosen her mother's philosophy; be a bahu, a binding force to keep the fly glued. She has repeatedly hurt the one person she loves the most, her husband; accepted others mistakes as her own instead of standing up for herself. She is so selfless that matters like ego & self respect never even occur to her.

Her bholapan & her selflessness are very endearing to Naitik & to most men😳 Naitik loves her to pieces and he expresses it beautifully😍 He forgets his ego when he is with her😉 CV's haven't expressed her side of it in the same passionate sense. I am sure she loves him as much or more but is unable to express it because of her shyness or maybe she is mindful of the elders around her. All in all they balance each other very well; although I would still like to see him show his egoistic side when he needs to. A little bit of ego in men is necessary to ward off people like DJ. I wouldn't want him to completely go the Akshara way; it may work at times settling kitchen politics but not in the real world. I hope the man in him rises up to the occasion from time to time.

DJ's case has been all about ego in this track. Yes, initially it was about self respect but his ego took over when he made the batwara decision w/o consulting anyone. If it was just about self respect he would have accepted the apologies, returned the money & gone to jail. He took his time returning the money coz he knew his hands were tied. He never once thought about his bro or the mothers feeling in this case. Sub consciously he knows Vish is like a bro & hence the bhaangwala invite. A sound decision as the head of the family would have been to consider the consequences of his decision; did the punishment fit the crime? Combining all past minor issues & blowing it out of proportion does not make it a crime😕 The decision was taken in haste and was a direct consequence of his ego being hurt; his authority being questioned. Even if he has realized he was wrong he will not take it back coz his ego won't let him. G3 is a tantrum queen - ego or self respect? Kya farak padtha hai?😡 Nandini, does anyone really care?🥱

Originally posted by: FLGators

Kaumadi👏 Fab questionnaire & here is my puraan to bore you🥱.....Oops sorry, you brought it on yourself girl. So read my endless blabber....Can't stop once I get going🤣 tho bhogtho....

Akshara is a very plain & simple girl who has led a very sheltered life. She never thinks anyone can ever do anything wrong. A very endearing quality is her bholapan & this very bholapan makes her think that everyone is selfless like her. She lacks self confidence & always thinks maybe she herself has erred somewhere & ends up blaming herself. Daadi has been a very influential person in her upbringing but surprisingly I have not seen her applying any of Daadi's philosophies in her personal life. Instead she has chosen her mother's philosophy; be a hahu, a binding force to keep the fly glued. She has repeatedly hurt the one person she loves the most, her husband; accepted others mistakes as her own instead of standing up for herself. She is so selfless that matters like ego & self respect never even occur to her.

Her bholapan & her selflessness are very endearing to Naitik & to most men😳 Naitik loves her to pieces and he expresses it beautifully😍 He forgets his ego when he is with her😉 CV's haven't expressed her side of it in the same passionate sense. I am sure she loves him as much or more but is unable to express it because of her shyness or maybe she is mindful of the elders around her. All in all they balance each other very well; although I would still like to see him show his egoistic side when he needs to. A little bit of ego in men is necessary to ward off people like DJ. I wouldn't want him to completely go the Akshara way; it may work at times settling kitchen politics but not in the real world. I hope the man in him rises up to the occasion from time to time.

DJ's case has been all about ego in this track. Yes, initially it was about self respect but his ego took over when he made the batwara decision w/o consulting anyone. If it was just about self respect he would have accepted the apologies, returned the money & gone to jail. He took his time returning the money coz he knew his hands were tied. He never once thought about his bro or the mothers feeling in this case. Sub consciously he knows Vish is like a bro & hence the bhaangwala invite. A sound decision as the head of the family would have been to consider the consequences of his decision; did the punishment fit the crime? Combining all past minor issues & blowing it out of proportion does not make it a crime😕 The decision was taken in haste and was a direct consequence of his ego being hurt; his authority being questioned. Even if he has realized he was wrong he will not take it back coz his ego won't let him. G3 is a tantrum queen - ego or self respect? Kya farak padtha hai?😡 Nandini, does anyone really care?🥱

Originally posted by: FLGators

Akshara is a very plain & simple girl who has led a very sheltered life. She never thinks anyone can ever do anything wrong. A very endearing quality is her bholapan & this very bholapan makes her think that everyone is selfless like her. She lacks self confidence & always thinks maybe she herself has erred somewhere & ends up blaming herself. Daadi has been a very influential person in her upbringing but surprisingly I have not seen her applying any of Daadi's philosophies in her personal life. Instead she has chosen her mother's philosophy; be a bahu, a binding force to keep the fly glued. She has repeatedly hurt the one person she loves the most, her husband; accepted others mistakes as her own instead of standing up for herself. She is so selfless that matters like ego & self respect never even occur to her.

DJ's case has been all about ego in this track. Yes, initially it was about self respect but his ego took over when he made the batwara decision w/o consulting anyone. If it was just about self respect he would have accepted the apologies, returned the money & gone to jail. He took his time returning the money coz he knew his hands were tied. He never once thought about his bro or the mothers feeling in this case. Sub consciously he knows Vish is like a bro & hence the bhaangwala invite. A sound decision as the head of the family would have been to consider the consequences of his decision; did the punishment fit the crime? Combining all past minor issues & blowing it out of proportion does not make it a crime😕 The decision was taken in haste and was a direct consequence of his ego being hurt; his authority being questioned. Even if he has realized he was wrong he will not take it back coz his ego won't let him. G3 is a tantrum queen - ego or self respect? Kya farak padtha hai?😡 Nandini, does anyone really care?🥱

Fabulous post kaumudi…👏 n as usual Awesome views Charu di n Sarita di… I must admit that u ppl have seriously becoming an inspiration for me day by day..👍🏼 it seems im too late to comment as every1 had already said wat I wanted to post..😭 But still heres my pov…

the conclusion of Batwara is a sheer EGO of Dj more den his self respect.. coz in a way he knew Naksh weren't totally wrong at their place. i mean in that crises situation ders no other option left for them BUT to take help from vish.. but since the problem is solved now its very easy for him to compensate by saying ki "Aise koi mane jail main na daal sakta".. 🤢 btw i didn't got the logic of dj for his behavior towards vish..he could take help from his friend but not from his samdhi .. y??

i agree LOVE is the only solution n option to kill any1's Ego...😊 as i myself believe in gandhigiri...n i personally believe, apply n achieve it too in my daily routine..No matter how rude the other person is but we should always reply dem back politely..😃 n I don't think it lowers our Self respect…I agree the process is too long but in the end Akshi is always get praised for her "Sehansakti".. n to an extent it also depends on persons nature.. n since akshi has got that nature to forgive n forget.. I don't think its wrong..infact this theory makes the person more calm n compose n in a way this attitude helps decreases MU n increases respect for herself…😊

no matter wat Gen gap will always be der n also its consequences n as charu di said it just depends on how much a person can bend but in the end der should be a balance from both side..it should not be one sided as we see in the show always DJ has his saying n rest of the family members just act like a puppet..

naitik's ego or anger has decreased for the better.. infact kal hi my mom was saying that our attitude changes once we get married.. Our ability to tackle problems, to think from others perspectives, we learn automatically how to bend down to maintain peace n happiness at house..😔 naitik has changed completely wat he was before marriage..now he understands akshi's emotions . the reason behind her deeds, her helplessness, her efforts to keep their family united as compared to earlier wen he used to yell n question her "Aapne aisa kyun kiya".. n also akshi has changed after her marriage completely,, although her change in attitude is not for good.. 😕 coz now she wants always naitik to understand family perspective she keeps saying aap kyun nahi samjate.. hume sabke sath rahena hai.. sab kya sochege n all.. I think her character was strong before her marriage where atleast shes got the guts to raise question when required but now she is not coming from her MAA ka jaap…🤢

Originally posted by: gutky

Fabulous post kaumudi'👏 n as usual Awesome views Charu di n Sarita di' I must admit that u ppl have seriously becoming an inspiration for me day by day..👍🏼 it seems im too late to comment as every1 had already said wat I wanted to post..😭 But still heres my pov'

the conclusion of Batwara is a sheer EGO of Dj more den his self respect.. coz in a way he knew Naksh weren't totally wrong at their place. i mean in that crises situation ders no other option left for them BUT to take help from vish.. but since the problem is solved now its very easy for him to compensate by saying ki "Aise koi mane jail main na daal sakta".. 🤢 btw i didn't got the logic of dj for his behavior towards vish..he could take help from his friend but not from his samdhi .. y??

i agree LOVE is the only solution n option to kill any1's Ego...😊 as i myself believe in gandhigiri...n i personally believe, apply n achieve it too in my daily routine..No matter how rude the other person is but we should always reply dem back politely..😃 n I don't think it lowers our Self respect'I agree the process is too long but in the end Akshi is always get praised for her "Sehansakti".. n to an extent it also depends on persons nature.. n since akshi has got that nature to forgive n forget.. I don't think its wrong..infact this theory makes the person more calm n compose n in a way this attitude helps decreases MU n increases respect for herself'😊

no matter wat Gen gap will always be der n also its consequences n as charu di said it just depends on how much a person can bend but in the end der should be a balance from both side..it should not be one sided as we see in the show always DJ has his saying n rest of the family members just act like a puppet..

naitik's ego or anger has decreased for the better.. infact kal hi my mom was saying that our attitude changes once we get married.. Our ability to tackle problems, to think from others perspectives, we learn automatically how to bend down to maintain peace n happiness at house..😔 naitik has changed completely wat he was before marriage..now he understands akshi's emotions . the reason behind her deeds, her helplessness, her efforts to keep their family united as compared to earlier wen he used to yell n question her "Aapne aisa kyun kiya".. n also akshi has changed after her marriage completely,, although her change in attitude is not for good.. 😕 coz now she wants always naitik to understand family perspective she keeps saying aap kyun nahi samjate.. hume sabke sath rahena hai.. sab kya sochege n all.. I think her character was strong before her marriage where atleast shes got the guts to raise question when required but now she is not coming from her MAA ka jaap'🤢