DOTW:(05/11):How Far Should One Go..??

Originally posted by: shriya_naksh

ummm to hide so big thing 4m in-laws is nt gud😆 cz aftrall u hav to live ir life wid only dem

akshi shud nt do dis n she is so understandable hw she could😲 nd in her life no value for munna too keep g3 happy she is showing all is alright🥱

if she want all to be alryt why she dun solve d all probs wid munna😕 nd bechara munna to yahi soch raha he k akshi ne use maaf kar diya😭 soo poorr😭

nd rain seq🤣 in dat kya akshi ki yaddash chali gayi kya?🤣 bad me sab yaad agay🤣

hw cvs could show dis

btw

ps thnx manu 4 d topic😃

Originally posted by: moonlight08

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gayitri also needs to realise this fact very soon ki her son is now a married man n he has a lyf of his own.. she can just enquire abt his well being but.. she cannot interfere in his lyf as before.. moreover she expecting akshara to tell her everythng and not her own son.. whom she has brought up.. very wrong on her syd.. when naitik came home after that song sequence.. gayitri shud hav confronted him.. she shud hav asked him abt this.. after all.. it is he who is involved in this matter.. she needs to noe truth from him.. and not from his wife..

Originally posted by: manasi_31

The immediate reaction of Akshara, when she learns about her MIL being unknown about her and Naitik's outing together, was that she got extremely worried about what Gayatri MIGHT be thinking about her and her irresponsibility!😕 She just couldn't think anything beyond that. The next day she gets to know from Shankari Tai that Gayatri already knows about the Sneha issue. She gets panicked and starts thinking of ways to start manaofying her Maa! In response to this, she leaves her Maayka that very moment without thinking much, whereas she is quite adamant to stay back when her own husband asks her to do the same.🤔

so many questions manasi :D it'll take me 1 hr......naitik ki karni and sneha ka dukh she cannot forget, hence she needs time..however,she enjoys gayitri's rude behavior and the fact that she misudnerstands Akshara all the time never hurts her ! all this she doesn't even remember ! the same rules are not applicable to naitik !

Back to her Sasural, and now she goes on to 'show' her Maa HOW happy she is with Naitik and HOW much she cares for him!😲
The question lies here is How far should a you go to please your in-laws, to keep them happy by showing them all is well between you and your better-half, even when the relationship between you both is still shaking, due to lack of mutual trust and understanding?

i wonder if Sneha's case was a reality, Akshara wud have reacted in the same manner? the way they were giving examples of Kavita, wud Akshara have taken the same step? or do this idiotic natak and acting like a stranger with naitik? or forgive naitik just bec. she cannot live without his mom? if Naitik actually fell in love with some girl, will Akshara do normal hone ka natak & one fine day announce it to everyone that she's filing for a divorce?

the wost of all..now that gayitri knows the truth, akshara is creating more and more misunderstandings by stopping gayitri frm talking to naitik ! why? bec. she'll prolly lose gayitri's sympathy? CRAP !

Should one just do it for the sake of in-laws or do it because you actually love and care for your spouse? Shouldn't one also give a second thought to the feelings your spouse might be going through? In this situation, we could see Naitik to be so delighted with Akshara's sweet and caring approach towards him,though for a very short time span, which she was merely showcasing for Gayatri!😕 He'd be equally upset again when Akshara would start being the same 'I-need-more-time-to-get-over-it' as before. How hurt would he be then?!!🥺 Shouldn't a wife think about this aspect when she thinks about showing all to be goody-goddy to her MIL? Or is it right on Akshara's part, going by the traditional approach towards handling such issues, to keep her in-laws in an illusion and display to them that we both have no issues between us anymore?

what is traditional and what is modern approach towards this problem dear? she should have taken this ridiculous step much earlier, when Gayitri was in dark ! why didn't she think abt all this at that time? and why now?

How much should one sacrifice his/her own happiness for the sake of family?
How far should Naitik go to please Akshara? It is quite understandable that Akshara IS upset with whatever has been happening, but isn't there any certain limit to asking for time to move on? If yes, how much time does one need to overcome the bitter past events and think about the present?

akshara leaving her sasural, naitik asking her to get out from his life, naitik blaming her for ruining his sisters life , zero undertanding b/w husband and wife, naitik not asking her to come back ..these bitter moments were forgotten in a few minutes ! but she needs time and more time to forget an incident in which she's convinced that Naitik is innocent and it was a MU !!!! ny logic here? how far should naitik go to please akshara? certainly not too far..he's done what he cud do..tell her everything as it is..it's upto her to believe him...if she's not then he cannot do anything abt it..he must stop trying and ignore her for some TIME ! constant apologies will prove him guilty !

For how long sould someone try to pacify things and try to resolve every dispute, when the other person is not really making any forward move? Should he continue his efforts to manaofy her? Or should he patiently wait for her to calm down and give her few more days, as she desires?

therez a limit to everybody's patience...i dun know why naitik is still trying...doesn't he feel irritated? why so much guilt when he knows he's right??? CV's r dumb..

How far should a MIL always keep 'expecting' from her son, and moreover from her DIL? Though she has a certain unsaid right to know about some things going on in the her beta-bahu's married life, is it justifiable to keep thinking thet they HAVE TO tell everything, eventhough they might not be quite comfortable to speak up about it, or maybe they need some more time to open up?😳

i think manasi, akshara or rather, naitik should have told everything to gayitri before sharda came to their house...that's bec. when the 3rd person knows , 5 more ppl. will know and frm some or the other source, the truth WILL be known to everyone..what's the point in hiding it then? gayitri is right , she should have known bec. the issue went too far...if it was b/w naitik and akshara only then it was justifiable ke it's a private matter...certainly not ! so many ppl. close to them know abt it in one way or the other..the whole maheshwari clan knows..ST knows...Sharda, her close friends, sneha's friends everyone knows...

How far should one keep hiding things from in-laws, though with a concerned intention to not hurt them? How far should one keep lying about the true face of his/her relationship with their spouse, simply to keep making others, and esp in-laws, feel happy and keep them worry-free?

plz these things happen only in serials....for how long can the truth be hidden? and for how long can one fake ? and why???

Originally posted by: _charu_

having sex with naitik is okay , hence the rain dance...before and after that, akshara needs time buddy..plz understand !

Originally posted by: _charu_

ab toh this complaint is useless right? she cud have known the truth from naitik but akshara doesn't want her to talk to naitik 🤬 what bullshit !