devil's advocate...

But what daadi said was right.................Now that Akshara is married and is away in the in-laws place, it is inappropriate from Mata R's side to keep pestering her like that..............OK, fine, she is her child and being a mother she needs 2 take care of her, but she should understand that at the same time, Akshara is somebody's DIL, somebody's SIL, and somebody's wife...........Anyways, whatever the problem it would be, Mata R will not be able 2 do anything 4 Akshara.........Besides, if Varsha's mother does the same with Varsha, how would she feel................And she felt so bad when Naksh leeft without having food after the tulsi pooja............If Shaurya had gone 2 Varsha's house, with Varsha already there, without Varsha telling anything 2 her, how would have Mata R felt.................especially, if the son had come after a long time? Rajshri is also behaving childish at times............when she called Akshara home when naitik left for Shimla, it was pretty obvious that she would feel bad.................Because Varsha's mother is matured enough 2 understand all these, Rajshri has not faced such a situation................I think Gayathri's point is more justified here............

Originally posted by: yrkkhluvinangel

But what daadi said was right.................Now that Akshara is married and is away in the in-laws place, it is inappropriate from Mata R's side to keep pestering her like that..............OK, fine, she is her child and being a mother she needs 2 take care of her, but she should understand that at the same time, Akshara is somebody's DIL, somebody's SIL, and somebody's wife...........Anyways, whatever the problem it would be, Mata R will not be able 2 do anything 4 Akshara.........Besides, if Varsha's mother does the same with Varsha, how would she feel................And she felt so bad when Naksh leeft without having food after the tulsi pooja............If Shaurya had gone 2 Varsha's house, with Varsha already there, without Varsha telling anything 2 her, how would have Mata R felt.................especially, if the son had come after a long time? Rajshri is also behaving childish at times............when she called Akshara home when naitik left for Shimla, it was pretty obvious that she would feel bad.................Because Varsha's mother is matured enough 2 understand all these, Rajshri has not faced such a situation................I think Gayathri's point is more justified here............

the fact that i like abt RajS is that she gives enough space to both Shaurya and varsha. she encourages them to go out, spend time together etc etc
but this relationship was built because of varsha too, she communicates with her sasuma well, takes care of her need (when rajS was sick gave her medicines), helps her in the kitchen with responsibility.. but all in all her in-laws thinks of her as a BETI, not a bahu coz shes akshara's age and her best friends

gay3 is too sensitive, it seems she doesnt care abt rashmi much..

i was wondering why are we not shown rashmi going to college
lol it will be fun if rashmi falls in love with a guy at her college.. the track may get interesting :P :)

Originally posted by: s4n4

the fact that i like abt RajS is that she gives enough space to both Shaurya and varsha. she encourages them to go out, spend time together etc etc<br>but this relationship was built because of varsha too, she communicates with her sasuma well, takes care of her need (when rajS was sick gave her medicines), helps her in the kitchen with responsibility.. but all in all her in-laws thinks of her as a BETI, not a bahu coz shes akshara's age and her best friends<br><br>gay3 is too sensitive, it seems she doesnt care abt rashmi much..<br><br>i was wondering why are we not shown rashmi going to college<br>lol it will be fun if rashmi falls in love with a guy at her college.. the track may get interesting :P :)<br>

whether someone agrees or not, therez no comparision b/w varsha and akshara...varsha is a perfect grihastan and Akshara has yet to learn the G of grihasti ! she's irresponsible & careless , on the top of it, she's too selfless 😡 she's a kiddo and so is her husband...it's not akshara's fault, it's 100% her parents fault who got her married at this young age 😡 she's actually worse than kids...in balika vadhu, anandi is a 14 yr old bahu, yet she's in a better position than akshara ! being a kiddo, anandi has her opinion about everything, she's more daring than akshara is ! born and brought up in a village, and married at the age of 13 and living under the shadow of ultra conservative Dadisa, Anandi knows the meaning of life better than Akshara ! u know how a child is...they're not scared of anything, unke emotions mein "mixing" nahi hoti..for them, everything is in black and white ! God knows what happens to us when we grow up !

The day Akshara stops seeing her MOM in her saas, prolly she'll be able to keep Gayitri happy..

Thanks Shanta for this thread..i wanna post a lot of things but i'll think over it n summarize it tomorrow....

EVERYTHING Is a reality here Shanta 😭 i HATE the way Gayitri switches frm "bahu" to "beta" while addressing Akshara...ditto happens with me..when my saas calls me "beta" i'm elated ke tdy she's happy with me and when she calls me "mayura" i know something is wrong aaj ke episode mein hi there r lots of things which happened with me..i dun wanna mention them or remember them 🤢

nice post!!

Originally posted by: s4n4

the fact that i like abt RajS is that she gives enough space to both Shaurya and varsha. she encourages them to go out, spend time together etc etc
but this relationship was built because of varsha too, she communicates with her sasuma well, takes care of her need (when rajS was sick gave her medicines), helps her in the kitchen with responsibility.. but all in all her in-laws thinks of her as a BETI, not a bahu coz shes akshara's age and her best friends

gay3 is too sensitive, it seems she doesnt care abt rashmi much..

i was wondering why are we not shown rashmi going to college
lol it will be fun if rashmi falls in love with a guy at her college.. the track may get interesting :P :)

Originally posted by: _charu_

whether someone agrees or not, therez no comparision b/w varsha and akshara...varsha is a perfect grihastan and Akshara has yet to learn the G of grihasti ! she's irresponsible & careless , on the top of it, she's too selfless 😡 she's a kiddo and so is her husband...it's not akshara's fault, it's 100% her parents fault who got her married at this young age 😡 she's actually worse than kids...in balika vadhu, anandi is a 14 yr old bahu, yet she's in a better position than akshara ! being a kiddo, anandi has her opinion about everything, she's more daring than akshara is ! born and brought up in a village, and married at the age of 13 and living under the shadow of ultra conservative Dadisa, Anandi knows the meaning of life better than Akshara ! u know how a child is...they're not scared of anything, unke emotions mein "mixing" nahi hoti..for them, everything is in black and white ! God knows what happens to us when we grow up !

The day Akshara stops seeing her MOM in her saas, prolly she'll be able to keep Gayitri happy..

Thanks Shanta for this thread..i wanna post a lot of things but i'll think over it n summarize it tomorrow....

EVERYTHING Is a reality here Shanta 😭 i HATE the way Gayitri switches frm "bahu" to "beta" while addressing Akshara...ditto happens with me..when my saas calls me "beta" i'm elated ke tdy she's happy with me and when she calls me "mayura" i know something is wrong aaj ke episode mein hi there r lots of things which happened with me..i dun wanna mention them or remember them 🤢

good post Shanta...Its amazing how I ahve said much about my personal life in this forums but on topics like these I can still write paragraph after paragraph...but will spare u all the pain FOR NOW...again, all I can say is that they are showing a lot of realisitic situations...way too much reality!...and the one thing I have thought about but dont think I ever mentioned is that I think atleast one the creatives is a young bahu, who has or is going through all this and this is her story...there are not to many ficticious incidents or situations but everything that atleast of of us can relate to...but my question still is whether I want to see this in the one and only serial I watch??? maybe I have gone through a miniscule of that crap, but do i really want to be reliving those moments??? Do I want my saas to be seeing this and getting ideas???

Originally posted by: aksharanaitik

👏👏👏 golden advice!!!! a lesson i have learned late...but learned it well...

hahahaha....beta bahu swich-a roo ...wow...thats a common one....and the most dangerous line by inlaws...u r not our bahu but beti.....that line is what starts all the confusion and agony starts.....it puts unrealistic expectations on you.....its better ..if from day one...u try not to find a mom in ur saas but accept her as a saas...