my thoughts on 2days episode - Page 2

Originally posted by: Nandalala

Interesting thought, Nishita...I only hope that there is no finger pointing at Akshara if Naitik does rebel...this has to be handled carefully...

Anjali, Naitik knows how to deal with his family. He has been getting his way since childhood. They give in to every demand of his irrespective of their own belief (e.g. job vs karobaar). So it is not a big deal for him to take daddaji's permission for the movie or anything else for that matter. It is not the same for Akshara...she is new to the family. She is trying her level best to adjust to the new surrounding and the family is not exactly kind to her. They may be sweet to her at times but there have been occassions where they have treated her like an outsider (e.g. nandini issue...not once did anybody ask Akshara what she said to Nandini..they blindly believed a servant). Not only did they suspect her but they were treating her like she had committed a sin. My heart went out to Akshara when she tried explaining her stand to Naitik. It must have been like hell to be amidst such people (the scene where bhabhima starts complainign to daddaji abt akshara but stops as soon as akshara came in...) is an example. Akshara has been telling Naitik that if anything does go wrong she will be blamed and not him..i dont think he has taken her that seriously. He still does his manmaani (which is very cute) but it lands Akshara into trouble.

Regarding the controlling bit...daddaji is a control freak. They are showing more and more of that these days...He likes to keep everything and everybody under his nose. Naitik didnt mind it all this earlier coz like i said before knows to get his way out but it is difficult for akshara. Going by her character, she will not object (she is such a darling). The problem will arise when daddaji starts objecting to things involving both of them....i feel naitik may start objecting...or for that matter like charu said when akshara starts putting her wishes forward. The elders need to let go...nobody is running away. I hope the story shapes up in a nice way so that we get to see how Naksh manage this aspect of their married life.

Originally posted by: _charu_

i understand dear..but u will get an answer to these questions only when u get married...WHY the buck stops on the bahu? well bec. she's new to the family, they don't know her...the instant reaction is that it's all happening bec. of her...specially when their own son supports his wife against his family....there r a few preconceived notions as well...but as and when she makes her place, their thinking change...ppl. change yaar over the time.....tht's what we call adjustment.....

basically therez a huge generation gap b/w our parents and us and our grand parents and our parents..I will deal with my bahu the way i was dealth with (with caution) but who knows in future, children's demands change completely which we can't even imagine.....

like Gayitri and Bhabhi ma...when they must have got married, it was wired in their minds that they have to look after the house, cook etc. etc. and they expect Akshara to do the same (remember Gayitri saying I never looked back at my maayka but dun know abt aajkal ki ladkiyan) ...anything new is not acceptable to them for the time being......lets see how Naitik & Aksharacan bring about that change! they CAN ! see, no matter how much we crib, INITIALLY the bahu has to adjust more...and later on, she can bring about the changes with the help of her husband ..if they can n if they want...

Originally posted by: Nishitah512

<br><br>Anjali, Naitik knows how to deal with his family. He has been getting his way since childhood. They give in to every demand of his irrespective of their own belief (e.g. job vs karobaar). So it is not a big deal for him to take daddaji's permission for the movie or anything else for that matter. It is not the same for Akshara...she is new to the family. She is trying her level best to adjust to the new surrounding and the family is not exactly kind to her. They may be sweet to her at times but there have been occassions where they have treated her like an outsider (e.g. nandini issue...not once did anybody ask Akshara what she said to Nandini..they blindly believed a servant). Not only did they suspect her but they were treating her like she had committed a sin. My heart went out to Akshara when she tried explaining her stand to Naitik. It must have been like hell to be amidst such people (the scene where bhabhima starts complainign to daddaji abt akshara but stops as soon as akshara came in...) is an example. Akshara has been telling Naitik that if anything does go wrong she will be blamed and not him..i dont think he has taken her that seriously. He still does his manmaani (which is very cute) but it lands Akshara into trouble.<br><br>Regarding the controlling bit...daddaji is a control freak. They are showing more and more of that these days...He likes to keep everything and everybody under his nose. Naitik didnt mind it all this earlier coz like i said before knows to get his way out but it is difficult for akshara. Going by her character, she will not object (she is such a darling). The problem will arise when daddaji starts objecting to things involving both of them....i feel naitik may start objecting...or for that matter like charu said when akshara starts putting her wishes forward. The elders need to let go...nobody is running away. I hope the story shapes up in a nice way so that we get to see how Naksh manage this aspect of their married life.<br>

Nishitah wonderfully said 👏 that;s exactly what i was trying to say then men will never understand how their behavior affects their wife's position in the house...tht's bec. it's a playgame of females only ! this politics is beyond me also...may be i'll understand it when i become a MIL 😕

abhi aaj ka hi example lo...can naitik guess that when he asked them the permission to take akshara for the movie, akshara wud be blamed for it ? when where how???? 😡 koi samajh sakta hai? akshara's name was not even mentioned....so gayitri and bhabhi ma didn't know tht naitik loves to watch movies? rashmi and nandini bhi?

Originally posted by: _charu_

Nishitah wonderfully said 👏 that;s exactly what i was trying to say then men will never understand how their behavior affects their wife's position in the house...tht's bec. it's a playgame of females only ! this politics is beyond me also...may be i'll understand it when i become a MIL 😕

abhi aaj ka hi example lo...can naitik guess that when he asked them the permission to take akshara for the movie, akshara wud be blamed for it ? when where how???? 😡 koi samajh sakta hai? akshara's name was not even mentioned....so gayitri and bhabhi ma didn't know tht naitik loves to watch movies? rashmi and nandini bhi?

I agree. Knowing AKshara she will not even make a big deal out of it. She just listens to bhabhima nad gayatri chup chap. I really want to see a change where Naitik realises this discripancy...maybe not now but eventually. The only person who can bring a change is Naitik himself...I have no personal experience so am quite clueless how women faced with such situations deal with it.