Vishaka or naina - who is important

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Posted: 6 years ago
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Sameer's mom asked him to choose mein ya naina?

Whom do you think is more important?

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Posted: 6 years ago
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For sameer his girlfriend...as his mom has other priorities
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Both are important with time both can understand eachother
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Sameer's mom and somani was responsible for him to be able to write supplementary exam. They have played a major role in his education after a big mess
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Posted: 6 years ago
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For any kid, they need both mother and girl friend and different stages of their life. But in Sameer's case he need Naina more than mother. Only one thing that Sameer needs in his life is unconditional love. His mother is not able to provide that as her love comes with lots of conditions. If you behave properly then I will love, if you score good marks then I will love, if you listen to mine and your step father's orders then I will love, so on and so on. No child can choose such a mother over a girl friend who is ready to go to any extend for his happiness. Vishaka was not able to even slap him because she doesn't have that right at all. Whereas Naina won't hesitate to punish him on his mistakes because she knew how to show him the correct direction from there.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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This question is like asking someone if your right eye is important or left... In general, both eyes are equal. In some cases where say one of the eyes have slight problem may be higher power or low vision etc.. The other eye become more important.
So in general both these relationship is equally important... And one may argue that mother is more important as you can have another gf but mom can only be one.


But in the special case of Sameer his gf that is Naina is more important because his mom is not staying with him. She is not able to provide him the emotional support that a person needs from a mother even if he is not staying with her. That emotional support he first got from Nanu even when he was staying at boarding school.. And now from Naina... So for him its not his gf but his Naina will be more important..
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Both are important. All of us need all our relationships in our lives. They play varying roles and allow us to grow in various ways. Sameer needs both Naina and Vishakha in his life. The fact that Vishakha remarried and has a number of issues does not mean she doesn't love Sameer and is not needed in his life. Her way of expressing her love is to push Sameer to do better to achieve more. Sameer needs to be pushed. He seems to believe that if you don't agree with me and agree to what I want then you don't love me. This is immaturity on his part. Parents often have to feed their children bitter medicine, this is love too.
Romantic love also has a place in our lives. Naina provides this. Eventually Naina will also become demanding as her expectations of Sameer increases. In their married life it will not be all smooth sailing. When Sameer doesn't get his way then will he believe that Naina doesn't love him?

Unconditional love does not mean agreeing to and giving you everything you want. Sometimes giving you the truth will also be bitter.

Sameer, like all of us, needs his mother, his girlfriend, other friends, and all natural relationships.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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both are important in life ... but sameer case is different...( this called karma come back to you .)l he is same like his mother ... 20 yrs before his mom choose his happiness over her son.. now sameer choose his love , his happiness over his mother..
i feel vishakha is little bit selfish...she always want to control him by order not by love.. sameer always want love.. he did not expect anything accept LOVE...he crave for love and now he his getting all love care attention from his girl which he was expecting from his mum... so it's normal if you crave for something and someone is giving you whole heartily withot any condition... you value that person more then any thing.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: JaySee

For any kid, they need both mother and girl friend and different stages of their life. But in Sameer's case he need Naina more than mother. Only one thing that Sameer needs in his life is unconditional love. His mother is not able to provide that as her love comes with lots of conditions. If you behave properly then I will love, if you score good marks then I will love, if you listen to mine and your step father's orders then I will love, so on and so on. No child can choose such a mother over a girl friend who is ready to go to any extend for his happiness. Vishaka was not able to even slap him because she doesn't have that right at all. Whereas Naina won't hesitate to punish him on his mistakes because she knew how to show him the correct direction from there.



We alll know how small kids are. They are naughty and won't listen to you many times. Moms starts making conditions like you finish your home work you will get to watch tv. You finish your activity you can play with your toys. You behave properly you will get new toy etc. is this not a conditional love. Vishaka is doing same thing with sameer. Does this mean mom's don't like their kids. When aa mom slaps a kid, what ever may be the age. The kid will feel it so much, moms too will hurt after doing it. May he that's why very vishaka didn't slap him. What do you say?
Edited by Deepaananf - 6 years ago
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Posted: 6 years ago
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I agree, both are important but Sam k case Mein it should be naina, vishaka Sam k liye kabhi mom thi nai, hamisha Apni responsibility se bhagi hai, just imagine a boy doesn't even knew he had a sister, where his mom stay, itna hi kafi hai yeh samaj ne k liye ki she never tried, Sam was right agar nanu na hote toh Sam ka kya Hota, even in Delhi Vishaka k liye Rohan and deepika matter karte the, Sam sirf nanu ko diya huwa promise tha, Na toh pehele na toh abhi, kabhi bhi real Sam ko pehechana hi nai, rahi baat naina ki toh hamisha Sam ki parwa Hota tha and Hota hai, yes I agree she left him for her family but ek 18sal ki ladki, apne gahr Mein Tamasha dekne k baad kya karti, choda tha lekin parwa karna kabhi nai choda, trust tha sam par usko. Ek baat prove hogaya kal k episode k baat ki Sam ki real family mundit and naina hai, vishaka se jyada ek ma ka responsibility mundit ne pura Kiya hai, koi galti karta hai toh thappad bhi marte hai but trust and pyar karte hai and same goes to Naina, thappad Marti hai, scolding karti hai but trust and pyar bhi karti hai, ek ma yeh sunke bhi khush nai hui ki uske bete ko itna acha bane Mein and Delhi Mein acha kam kamrne k liye usi ladki ne help Kiya hai, and rahi baat somani ko toh Sam k sath aisa behave karne ki himmat vishaka ki waja senata hain usko, sumo pata hai vishaka somani ki har baat ko sahi keheti hain and most importantly kabhi bhi apne bete k liye khadi nai huyi hai rather she will ask Sam to
Compromise but will not stand for him, isliye aag dalne ki kosish karta hai

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