Naina's stance - Pre and post her commitment to Sameer

I found this topic interesting to discuss, hence reposting this part from my reply on Ross's thread..

Irrespective of how this track was closed, we saw two important changes in their relationship..

1. Sameer has committed to Naina in front of her chachaji and whole world.
2. Naina acknowledging to that commitment.

Thus from here on, I believe that Naina would stand as firmly as she did to this new commitment as she did for her chachaji's bharosa. (for those who r interested in learning my further views on this subject can refer to my reply on Ross's post.. as I m too lazy to repost it all here.. 😆)

it was really difficult to chose betn Naina's firm stance and Sameer's unconditional love. right from the beginning she had always maintained that it was family over love for her. It showed Naina's commitment towards her obligations and duties. And now that Sam has committed to her in front of chachaji and whole world, we will see her other side.. albeit her character would remain the same.. firm on her stance..

Its funny how Naina's stance portrays every common Indian girl's stance, our loyalties to our commitments, obligations, duties, and relations.. pre and post marriage.. before marriage we r extremely loyal to our families, deeply attached and then we chose a life partner, commit to them and within a span of short period our allegiance needs to b changed from our birth family to the family we r married into... I m amazed how our priorities, loyalty, duties and obligations flip totally.. I can understand how difficult it must b for other girls who r so attached to their birth families when I who was more bound by my duties than love when felt tht I cannot abandon them.. and over the time I realized how difficult it is to take such decisions for a married girl.. at every festive occasion.. for every imp crucial situations in life.. there is always a choice to b made, a decision to b taken abt birth family vs the family I m bound by my husband's love and daughter in law's duties.. till we become mothers... and the allegiance is totally reversed ..

U need to b a woman and to b married and taken away to a new family .. to understand this gradual transformation that we let ourselves to..

So I guess u can term as selfish (many a times I too feel it for myself when I chose my in laws over my siblings).. shallow.. (cause we cannot show deep loyalty to either of them) noncommittal (coz we forever remain confused whom to chose.. and our deep attachments to either of them not helping us much..😆 ) .. but that's who we are.. and when we become mother.. we become completely selfish for our kids.. 😆.. our kids take priority over everyone else.. even life partners.. .. till they grow up and become independent.. and thn again we flip back to our life partners...😆

but iss me kahin bhi did u find us committing to ourselves? That is Naina's stance.

Had there not been Sameer's immense support, selfless unconditional and infinite love, they would not have been together. Their love story would not have been successful. And I think Naina now understands the value and stature of his love as her VO had stated.. koi tha jiska kad mujhse kai zyada uncha tha.. and she would b more determined than ever to remain firm on this commitment.

Wonderful post and now really eagerly waiting for the new track and hope get to see more commitment from naina side and both together making their relation more stronger.

Originally posted by: soniadutta

Wonderful post and now really eagerly waiting for the new track and hope get to see more commitment from naina side and both together making their relation more stronger.

Very nice Post..I completely agree that women constantly walk the tight rope between priorities...First between our husbands and parents,then between husbands,parents and children..The cycle never ends and we never give priority to ourselves in this entire cycle.

That was a beautiful post. Thank you so much for sharing it with us.

Originally posted by: rock&roll

Very nice Post..I completely agree that women constantly walk the tight rope between priorities...First between our husbands and parents,then between husbands,parents and children..The cycle never ends and we never give priority to ourselves in this entire cycle.

From that pov, Naina's struggle is the struggle that every girl faces.And it is very understandable.And you have a valid point when you say that having committed to him openly now in front of Chachaji she is more likely to stand by him.

But from a practical pov,there are still some hurdles...Seeing Naina's character she will really and truly commit to Sameer only when he officially becomes family,ie,when they are married.Till then he will(naturally) be secondary in her life.That means she can still leave him for what is primary(her Chachaji and family).Having committed openly this is now less likely to happen,but can happen in two scenarios

1)Her father threatens suicide.If Rakesh threatens suicide,she will again leave Sameer..Rakesh did this once and can do it again

2)Chachaji backs off from his commitment for some reason...Chachaji comes first for Naina and will continue to do so till she marries Sameer..If Chachaji says no,even today Naina will drop Sameer..

This is,of course,based on her inherent character shown till date combined with practical scenariois. But being fiction,I am sure Naina will stand by Sameer for life henceforth 😊

Originally posted by: Avan_s

That was a beautiful post. Thank you so much for sharing it with us.

Originally posted by: violette

I read your views on other posts but obviously I may have missed the whole view point .. can I get those links? Just to save my time... 😆

Originally posted by: Avan_s

I just write random stuff here n there. Are there any particular posts? Would love to share.

Go ahead. I hope you like them, they are pretty random...nothing compared to the awesome stuff you guys write.😆