Undue pressure on kids: different ways of doing the same thing

We have been seeing this Aggarwal family for so many months now and all of us know how the elders in this family behave😳

Excellent Analysis👏

Excellent analysis.
All the elders of Agarwal Family are putting pressure on kids in one way or other. Let it be the physical abuse of Taiji and SS or be as the emotional pressure by Chachaji, it is killing the kids. In today's world a lot of suicides among teenagers happen when they are not able to keep up with the expectations of their parents. Yesterday's that step from Chachaji may be a way to keep Taiji quiet, but as u said it was the final nail for Naina. Now she is completely under pressure and guilt. One side she knows that she is doing completely wrong to Sameer and on other side she is not able to do complete justice to her family. This is going to break her and I am waiting for a day she may either knock out or may scream and shout all her tension.

Even though Chachiji is keep on asking Bela to be friendly with kids and behave as friends but in reality both of them are not able to do. It may be because of Taiji, Tauji and SS. That is why even if they want Naina and Preethi are not able to discuss each and everything in their life with them. Whereas for Nanu he knows how to be strict and friendly with kids at the same time.

I think the parenting style in India in 90s was instilling fear. Your kids respect you only if they are scared of you.. this was the mindset.

A very good topic to discuss...

Parents those days were very strict with kids especially with girls because of the fear of society. Breaking social norms means being humiliated and have face the wrath of every ones rude talks. Lets take Megha and Shefali for example...both fell in love and in the end what happened?? Both the boys ditched them and finally who got publically humiliated its the girl!!

Its this fear that is making Chacha ji take the emotional path to get his girls on track. For him his girls are like a treasure. He doesn't want to loose them or see them in pain. He trusts them but not the world and he knows he cant be with them 24/7/365 days. And him living in a joint family with ppl like his SIL and brother only increases his fear , does nothing to trust his upbringing.

I am sure Naina would have spoken about Sameer if they were living away from rest of the family. Its her fear of others that has stopped her from telling him.

I am not talking about Tayiji and her father because they have done NOTHING TO BRING them up. ONLY TALKING. SO NO POINT. THEY ONLY KNOW TO INCREASE THE TROUBLE and I don't justify beating kids and its not going to work at teenage. Rather , they would want to break free from this bondage of obligation.

In our society, those days moral values for a girl and a boy was seen differently. Boys would escape with out a scratch on their character , even if they have messed up...as long they earn everything is fine. Girls parents would wholehearted accept a guy if he earns well...very few people check if he is of good character...most of them say ...aree shadhi ke badh sambhal jayega... 😆

But now things have changed , educated society understands and respect the fact that moral values are same for both men and women. And parents are a lot more friendly to kids and they also don't mind learning new and progressives aspects of life from kids...where as in 90s kids were not allowed to voice their opinion. And todays kids you cant curb them the way Tayiji does , they will rebel more. They need to be handled logically and in a matured manner. Logic always work with todays generation and that's the best part of todays kids.

At teenage when kids come and say they are in love, you shouldn't discourage or encourage..you should tell them not to do anything that is not allowed for their age or against the law of the land...do tell them about intimacy and its complications... Teach them what it is be in a relationship and the concept of trust and commitment...tell them to be good friends and once they are educated , financially settled ...they still feel , they want to marry /live with the same person, then we can work on it at that time...till then ask them to stay as good friends and be committed to each other, study well , get a good job ...and enjoy their teenage life.

Who knows what happens as they cruise through their life...??? No one knows...so why pressurize them at a young age?? But these points I don't think even my mom will understand...because that generation has a different perspective altogether...cant help!!

Perfect analysis. The behaviour of elders are building so much pressure on Naina. Her wound is becoming more and more deep with passing time. How she is still facing all this at such a tender age. With that this Su drama. Please, CVs give some relief to Naina and us. Stop this Su nonsense. With this CVs are damaging Sam's character too.

Excellent analysis.. I know that elders know much more due to their experience. But being stubborn and not changing with time is also not right. Character of chachaji was the most sane one and shown attuned to adapt to changes. He has also got something into his head and now talking about things which would not make Naina comfortable to open to him. I actually dont like parents who would like children to live their life as per the way they think is the right way to live life. Role of parents to growing up children is to guide them to take right path and not control them. If they want to control then they should get slaves and not children into this world.

Succeeding generations always get more freedom,since their parents are the ones who have gone through more restrictions as children...so they feel that they should be more supportive towards their kids.

Originally posted by: mystique123

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Taiji is the most abusive character, totally heartless, always cursing and slapping the kids. It is a pain to watch her scene at times.

Though I never had expectation from SS, the way chachaji reacted was a shock. He was always shown to be progressive and all of a sudden he brought up the reference to castes in marriage and the final nail in the coffin was his promise on himself that Naina will never ever break his trust. I mean he always seemed to be the one who understood the thought process of kids and now as they are growing up they also may have preferences about the way their life should be. But he chose to ignore it.

Still a bit of benefit of doubt , regarding trust what he meant would be Naina wont take any extreme step and she would share things with him first or he is totally shaken by SS's suicide drama and Arjun fiasco and hence this reaction.