Comparisons and their Consequences - Page 3

Originally posted by: TereLiyeMINU

Zulu Darling!

Awesome post and bang on analysis.👏👏 Loved the rhetoric in title.😃

''The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else's highlight reel."

We may think everyone is better than we are, but we are only seeing the image they portray to others. Everyone has their own fears and weaknesses after all, we're all human. The real peace lies in stopping and comparing our self to others, because we'll always come up short.

The main point of comparisons and insecurity rises from not noticing the ''potentials''.It is the potential that wards off insecurities and ugly consequences of comparison.

Rakesh does sees the ''potential'' in Arjun but he channelises the potential as a money making enterprise.Hence puts pressure on Arjun.Potential and Pressure are two poles apart.Every potentiality needs to breathe air to grow and bloom.Suffocation always causes death and there is no denying about the fact.

Arjun himself though realises his ''potential'' falls prey to his father's demands and pressures.His potentiality realization comes to him in fragments and that angers him even more.And thus he finds his channels to anger via Shefali or Sameer.

And coming to Sameer, as we have seen he had the best character development graph.He was the one who always compared inside out.He had to be compared with others and self even.

Hence the 'trust' and 'he' were never on the same platform.Hence he was jolted the very time Naina declared of her 'trust' on him.And the rest is history.

I always believe our comparison should always be with us only,with our yesterday only.Comparison should bring out the best in us and help us create a better version of ourselves.

Thanks for writing such a 'food -for-thought' post darling.😃

With love-

Minu.

Originally posted by: braveheartdoc

Brilliant post Zulekha 😃👏

We all have faced the burden of comparison now and then ... but it depends on us how we take it and decide what we want to do... here we see Rakesh and Arjun going in the wrong direction and becoming someone who is hated by everyone...

On the other hand Sameer... he faced his problem with brave heart and now has succeeded... he changed to become a better person 😃

So basically it's an individual attitude which makes a difference... no one can help you unless you yourself want to help yourself 😃

Originally posted by: nancyrio90

Awesome post and very realistically written...Brilliant analysis!

We all as adults or kids have gone thru these comparison..whether it's with siblings friends or peers..colleagues etc...

some r able to stand up to it but some develop inferiority complex some fight it so they get aggressive...some defensive some go in a shell...repurcussions can be any but cannot be overlooked...mostly not so positive! It affects one psyche... not so positive ly!

Originally posted by: URnotThisBody

Have always wondered about Preeti with respect to this. She is compared to Naina in studies, discipline, color etc. Bela Chachi might not be as imposingly negative as Rakesh but she does tell Preeti once in a while to be like naiNa. It is easy at that age to feel jealous or disheartened.

Probably the gal is happy with what she has and what she is. She is aware of herself, her shortcomings and her strength. Not too bothered about impressing others and in the process creating a pseudo image of yourself/herself.

Originally posted by: Anjali33

Comparison accha hota h life mein..but wo comparison kab hadd paar kr jata h ye humko pata nhi chalta..aur phir wo over-comparison hone pe satyanash hi krta h..yehi kr rhe h Taiji aur Rakesh sir Taiji Rakesh sir ki life destroy kr rhi h aur Rakesh sir Arjun ki..aur kafi hadd tak Naina ki bhi

Superb post..itte dino mein asanskari stuff k alawa kuch aur likha tumne..accha laga mujhe😆

Originally posted by: Anmol333

Amazing post 👏

Rakesh is being mentally tortured by his sister in law. That make him insane and frustrated, when he saw his motives were not getting complete or he didn't get respect as other get. He got frustrated and throw it out by scolding or shouting at everyone.

Sameer is the only character which showed positive impact on the show, earlier bet thing we had seen his good side even in his bet period when he started realising his mistake he was good toward Naina and respect her dignity. That make him best person in all respects. And after bet period is known by everyone what he is!

Arjun was so much drowned by hope of his father. He knows he's father will breakdown if he failed to accomplish his goal. In order to fulfill his father desires he commit mistake. But this is really harmful for him. He need to face the problem as well as choose right thing too.

Originally posted by: sbadam

A very well written thoughts!! Thanks Zulu, If I may call you that...I am soumya...

Yes, its the society that we grew up in which thrives on comparing oneself, kids, parents, partners to other ...I have observed over the years that this pressure of comparing are more in the south asian cultures...I used to be like that...not my parents...my parents were always very supportive of me...growing up with cousins who were over achievers...engineers, doctors, lawyers from top colleges...always on the top of the class from LKG onwards...I was an average kid and I grew up to be very introverted and self-doubting...But this changed once I started my Masters in the US...I started to see life differently...understood that to each is their own! Everyone has their flaws and positives...You have to be better than what you were the day before...Life here in US teaches a lot of things..atleast for me...When I was like my old me, I was a nervous wreck before, during and after any exams..this didnt allow me to do my best...just like the situation in which Arjun is in now...but the pressure points in my case and his case came from different sources...but the base for the pressure point was the same "comparison"...once you see beyond that...you will be free from it and it will allow you to give your best

Thanks very much for bringing this discussion!

Originally posted by: melliflous

Wow... so apt analysis of comparisons and their consequences on these 3 characters.
Loved how you described that sameer wants to be his better or the best version for Naina .. his comparison is to his old self. It will be interesting when his mom comes in the scene again and pits him against his half brother ... how will he react now that he has changed for Naina

Originally posted by: Eternized_Blues

Very well written post. I do not think that there is any redemption for Rakesh at this point. He will always be bitter because of all the taunts and comparisons. Arjun on the other hand can be saved if Naina and Shefali put their minds together to rescue him from himself and his father.

Both Naina and Arjun have a great surrogate father in thier Chacha who is very fair and progressive. Shefali is someone who brings a fresh perspective and clearly wants Arjun to succeed but for himself and no one else which is a great support system for him if he lets her to be. The boy needs love and faith.

Sameer has grown tremendously to give Naina his best version possible but our lover boy has a long way to go and I am rooting for this boy to become a great man.He needs Naina to be his mirror and strength. He also needs his friends who are his surrogate family and an elder who has faith in him. With the rumors of Nana ji passing away and Sameer moving to Delhi I will hold my judgement for our Romeo till then.

Originally posted by: KashafZaroon30

@Bold: It has become like a chain...Taiji comparing rakesh, rakesh troubling Arjun...eventually Arjun also has started turning bitter...if not stopped in the future he will also behave the same with his children

Anjali yeh bhi humara ek rang hai😆...Asanskaari toh hum all time hote hai😆...kaho toh iss post ko bhi asanskaari bana de😆