Parental pressure and expectations..!

Hey guys,😛

Thanks for bringing in this topic. Well I can feel Arjun's situation, though was never pressurized ever but had been to this situation. I am married in highly educated family and my father in law treats me as his daughter. He praises me more than his son and is always & always proud of my achievements.

We all agree that he is under tremendous pressure to perform and that's what is affecting his performance... this is an important issue and I'm waiting to see how they handle this...

I feel empathy towards him. We cud be sympathetic al towards Sam then why not Arjun. But CVS are trying to bring light on d parental pressure outcomes.so coming days Arjun will be shown more like a villain. It's d circumstances n surrounding s we grow dat develop our character. Yesterday he cud have just told Naina dat he cudn't walk Sameer misunderstood d situation or something other than blaming him.i think Arjun is jealous of Sameer as he think Sameer is a rich boy with all d luxuries

Very good topic.

I hope through Arjun they will be able to bring out this aspect. Parental pressure was such a reality back in the days, it might be there even now but it is fairly better I think now.

I feel Rakesh won't realize his mistake of pressuring till something happens to Arjun, maybe Arjun will attempt suicide. Seeing him on death bed Rakesh might realize his mistake. Teen suicides rates because of pressure especially in board exams was a common news during exam time.

You said it right,, All his (Arjun)principles, honesty, sanskaars are getting burdened by the pressure and he is losing his character.

Cvs have taken a topic that's still prevalent now .. parental pressure ..
as far i understood arjun , he has been always made to feel nothing but a way to make his father's ambition come true.. he feels frustrated and demeaned by his own father .. so Arjun has seen as taking the easy / immoral route of stealing or lying to get by ..

both brother and sister can't speak up to their father esp. .. both need to get enough confidence to stand for right and keep their side in front of elders

he takes out his frustrations and anger on others i.e shefali and sameer .. its not right but u can see why he is like that ..

hopefully arjun will be able face the pressure and be a stand up guy .. hopefully cvs can tackle this issue we'll get to see a more confident arjun and maybe a happier rakesh too

Very good topic you pointed out.

Rakesh is the worst father ever... He ws pressurizing arjun even at hospital 😡

Hey - What a wonderful topic you brought out for discussion...

It is said that:

"No love is greater than mom's love

No care is greater than dad's care"

Unfortunately, both of these are missing from Arjun & Naina's life...

Their mother's demise brought a void in their life that was fulfilled to an extent for both of them by Bela Chachi and Taiji... I know Taiji is like kadvi jubaan but still she has brought up Arjun and she even somewhat cares for Naina (remember the scene in ep11 when Naina pretended to be unconscious... Taiji was equally worried).

They have their father - an only parent whose love should ideally have been selfless, unconditional and forgiving... BUT... it's not. The reason behind this can be several and still left unexplored by the CVs... I have read several versions on this forum, below is my two cents -

-- It's 90s: Totally unrelatable reason because this could potentially cause him to differentiate / do partiality between girl and boy child... but not be so bitter towards his daughter

-- Because of the partiality he faced in his own life: Possible! But then this should have made him bitter towards his brothers and not towards his children

-- Because his wife died during Naina's birth: This is one reason that I just cannot digest at all... If he had been so much in love with his wife and so attached then he should be equally in love with the precious children that are a result of that love he shared with his wife. But not only he is not attached to them but only sees his son as a medium to fulfill his material requirements and earn him his share of pride in family & society... and as for his daughter she is just a liability to him, period.

So none of the above reasons are completely justifiable to me. As I see him on screen, he is just a complete jackass...

No conscience, no values, no independent thought process, no understanding of person / situation, no concern for anybody, no patience

He can be easily fooled (as proved by our dear Sammy).

Despite being a teacher he has a narrow vision, no ethics, no respect for others.

Sometimes he is shown to have a teeny-tiny bit of affection & pride & respect, but that is immediately overshadowed by his demeaning personality.

His reformation - Extremely tough to even think of it... But I see only one way - when his own children stand up to him and point out the decisions made by him / his actions that has influenced their own life in negative manner... That would probably make him think that as a father he has not really been successful.

-- He should have given them wings of dreams, instead he buckled his son with chain of expectations

-- He should have been a supporting wall for them to fall back on, instead he was a pillar of hatred

-- He should have been a guiding light, instead he was choking darkness

-- He should have been a hero leading by example, instead he only managed to teach his children what not to do as a parent

Originally posted by: SammP

Thanks for bringing in this topic. Well I can feel Arjun's situation, though was never pressurized ever but had been to this situation. I am married in highly educated family and my father in law treats me as his daughter. He praises me more than his son and is always & always proud of my achievements.

But, sometimes his expectation puts lot of pressure on me.

Sometimes, just because of such high expectations, I start praying that please something happens wherein I don't have to do anything. I guess thats my easy escape.

Though,I firmly believe that whatever I am and wherever I am is all because of his confidence but too much expectation & confidence sometimes makes me WEAK.

Guidance is surely required but expectation ruins everything.But as we are HUMAN, we tend to expect and then suffer.