Is Ishita a good mother?

I am watching this show on and off for years now, with the concept I understood that Ishita will play role of an amazing mother, but I am honestly yet to see one good thing she has done for her kids (This is not about other characters like Ashok, Shagun or Raman, they are at fault but the show was promoted as "Ishima apne bacho ke liye kuch bhi Kar sakti hai" but sadly, the Kuch bhi doesn't involve making her kids good human beings.

Let's start with Ruhi - Ruhi has always relied on Ishita, she is one of the main characters of this show, Ishita was supposed to bring a happy stable life for Ruhi, but Ruhi never had that, to save Pihu, Ishita traded Ruhi and she had to go through years of torture, how's Ruhi supposed to be a good child when she had the most unstable childhood? What's the point of entry of Ishita in Ruhi's life when she couldn't bring the stability a child needs? Ishita not marrying Raman and Ruhi living with Raman, would have been a stable childhood, I would totally go for that than suffer at the hands of someone like Nidhi. When Ruhi came back she fell for a guy, Ishita never encouraged her to complete her education but she was teary eyed at the sight of Ruhi being "MitraMa" of a teenager when she herself was a teenager.

Aditya - Aditya's character is extremely complicated, or CVs never took time to develop his personality because he is always confusing me. Ishita left him for 7 years after he was dependent on her, he never really got a chance to be raised by her, so I don't understand the values she talks about, she was never there for her kids. It's not like Ishita does nothing for her kids, she supports them when they are going on wrong paths, when Aditya slapped Alia in Mumbai, Ishita asked Alia to forgive him because domestic violence is not a thing when it comes to her kids, when Ruhi's boyfriend tried to molest her, Ishita was all Durga Ma and reminding Ruhi about her strength, but what about Alia? Even now she wants Alia to forgive Adi when he apologizes, she thinks Adi will come back on right path, what is right path? Adi was responsible for death of a woman, how little is that for Ishita? She always supports her kids when they are wrong.

Pihu - When Ishita traded Ruhi for Pihu, she left Pihu at hands of Shagun, I don't think leaving kids is a choice, if she loves them, but she stayed away for 7 years and Pihu was all about the "Sajan ka Sasural", when finally Pihu got her Ishima, she made a mistake and Ananya died... Am I really to believe that whatever Ishita did was right for Pihu? Remember, when Adi had run a car over Ishita's mother, she wanted him behind bars, Raman didn't agree at first but later he realized it's good for Adi and he was absolutely correct, so was Ishita... What Pihu did was an accident but Ishita turned into a murder and a trauma, if Pihu was brought at trial, couldn't she have proved that it was just an accident? She tried to "save" Pihu from going into Juvenile Prison, the maximum punishment there is 3 years, Pihu if convicted would have gotten 1-2 years, at least she would have a family and I believe it would have been million times better than Simmi trying to kill Raman, torturing Pihu, manipulating Ruhi and destroying Adi.

Honesty, Ishita's attitude with Adi being responsible for a death and hitting his wife is in no way, what a good mother or good human being should do...

I have recently discovered this show, I mean I did knew it when it started and found it interesting also but never followed it fearing the fact that it's EK show, it's bound to ruin the story after a certain point, ...now thanks to hotstar I watched all the earlier episodes...and when I see what they are show currently is so saddening, like all those fights for Ruhi and her upbringing and aadi and his upbringing were just drama, can't just relate to these characters and the initial ones, they only have same name

Hi very very good post. I liked ur every point. Good or bad I don't know because for me ishita is never a mother for any of kids. And I didn't see her involvement in any child upbringing. She is not there with any child to give good values to them. When ever she is with them she is in fear of when she will be questioned being bannj. So what I want say is CV's build a great mother "Ishimaa" and they killed her for their own motive what ever be the reason.

Ur 1st point itself is wrong ishita never traded ruhi 4 pihu.. It was raman who forced herr saying he will save both his daughter...

Originally posted by: zindagi4pyaar

Ur 1st point itself is wrong ishita never traded ruhi 4 pihu.. It was raman who forced herr saying he will save both his daughter...

As I stated, I have been watching this show on and off.. I remember Raman was mad at Ishita, he said he lost his Ruhi because of Ishita and Ruhi telling Ishita that she traded her for Pihu... With these I assumed Ishita did something to irk Raman or something he didn't plan, I don't exactly know but my emphasis was on Ishita not being in life of kids enough to influence them, she met Ruhi when she was 10 or so, she stayed with her for a year or so then Ruhi lived with a tyrant, when Ruhi came back, Ishita left again for 2 years, this was my FIRST point...

Ishita is not a good mother. She is in fact a bad mother. But when you compare the bad with he worst, the bad looks good. Luckily for Ishima, she competed against one of the worst mothers, Shagun.

Originally posted by: CastleBeckett

Ishita is not a good mother. She is in fact a bad mother. But when you compare the bad with he worst, the bad looks good. Luckily for Ishima, she competed against one of the worst mothers, Shagun.

I never compare Shagun with Ishita, Shagun has never been portrayed as a mother, it's just that the concept of a show was Ishima, but I am not able to see how Ishita being in lives of kids, changed it for better...

Ishu's chr has been influenced by Raman's.
This is how a married couple change.
The chr traits of theirs gets modified n interchanged with time .
Raman too has mellowed down when compared to before .

A very good post and I certainly agree with all your points.

Yup i agree with some of your points but not fully.Yes ishita did wrong by leaving adi-pihu by hearing raman words that she is a bad omen to her children.She did wrong by not telling raman about annanyas death.She did wrong by standing with ruhi when she wanted to be mitramaa.But u know one thing,i will say she did wrong by leaving her children and not telling raman the truth etc.But it doesn't mean every mother in the world took only right decision for their children and if they did take some wrong decision with a good aim but become bad then anyone can point finger at their motherhood.Yes ishita did take bad decisions but it doesn't mean she is a -------word u used.