22.10.2016 ep - Page 2

Originally posted by: ishrafan_us

I watched the clips posted on Insta. As per my understanding Ishita as suggested by Mihika once in the early stages of YHM 'Ishita is a person who puts the person she loves above her all the time.' she is one unselfish person who looks at the greater good of everyone than her self interest. She is a giver. She gives without expecting anything in return. It's a hard concept to understand this selfless nature.

What happened today is she spoke her hurt. Call it a lecture, call it anything. But she came out of her shell and spoke about her hurt without putting anyone in bad light.

Till now no one from either Bhallas or Iyers or even Raman who claimed to love her and can't live without her asked anything about what happened? Not once. When Ruhi rejected she had a breakdown and repeated all the abuSes hurled by Raman and what happened to her

i.e that she went to commit suicide.. i don't think anyone grasped the extent of her hurt or pain. She did this twice and nothing happened. So she buried her pain and moved on. Raman even though her staying with him is his choice but when Pihu left him he didn't hesitate to hurt her again.

Now what happened? What made her come out of woods? Still i have no answer why Raman didn't shut Bala's mother talking crap about Ishita and his relationship. He could've told her she is my wife.. just few minutes ago they talked about how their life didn't change despite them being away from each other.. still he couldn't say that same thing to all questioned their relationship? Yes they all got hurt.. but if Raman didn't speak about protecting Ishita's dignity i guess it doesn't matter to them..

So today Ishita told patti all the things that hurt her.. so patti acted as a catalyst for Ishita to speak her mind.. and this is also not because she wanted to tell them about her pain, but to address few issues as they were raised..

She wanted to talk about the parvarish she gave to both kids as it's been questioned and undermined by the three people standing there. Raman he questioned her motherhood so many times knowing fully well what kind of mother she is, Mani undermined her motherhood knowing fully well how she took care of Alia these 7 years while watching her feeling guilty for Ruhi's death and for abandoning her kids and still went against her in the custody of Pihu snatching her child from her, patti an outsider who closed her eyes for 7 years not even worried about her grand daughter suddenly saw an opportunity to blame the one that took care of her all this time. So she talked about how both kids didn't want to hurt the family and put their parents in shame. They wanted to take everyone's blessings for taking their relationship forward and they both respect elders and they both wanted to win their hearts by love.. that's her parvarish.. and she is proud of it.

Secondly she mentioned her friendship with Mani which was a childhood friendship where only pure friendship mattered.. Mani may have stabbed her, Raman definitely questioned her friendship with Mani and even didn't hesitate to paint her characterless and patti again thought wrong about their friendship and portrayed it as an illicit relationship. By mentioning my husband didn't question my friendship she definitely made Raman realized how wrong he thought about her.. and knowing all that she still respected him in front of all. Yes Raman is so ashamed of his thinking he put his head down..mani looked speechless and patti uncomfortable.

When Ishita mentioned how her father in-law got hurt more than her father again she put her family on a highest pedestal that respect none of them deserved.

She is a person who is not going to dwell on negatives. Even though she got hurt from Bhallas she loved them for what they are and unfortunately they couldn't love her the way she is.. for them their love is conditional and convenient.. that includes Raman. I don't believe he could ever love ishita and respect her and trust her the way she loved, respected and trusted him. He always looked at her thru the glasses of Shagun.. and I don't think it will ever change. With Her love and trust with Raman she gave him an enormous power to hurt her and hurt he did.. his apology fall really short of the wrongs he did to her regarding everything including Pihu.

And also i believe 100% even accepting all the wrongs on her if Ishita tells him this is how you hurt me, i don't think Raman would've accepted his mistake. He is not going to accept nor realize the wrong he did with Ishita. Raman is really an egoistic person who will not accept his mistake ever even if it's pointed by her. And we saw the glimpse of it during the rain dance if anyone remember their conversation in the car after the dance.

Today indirectly she spoke of the hurt regarding her parenting, friendship by highlighting her family only.. as it's hard for an outsider to understand.. she forgave them for all the wrongs.. because she knows that by hanging on to the past she can't move into future..

Let's just see if Raman realized the good heart of Ishita and not lash out on her if the spoiler about Pihu is true..

" Why Hurt The One Woman You Claimed You Couldn't Live Without..."

Just purely my POV as per my understanding..

Maya yes Ishita as a woman, wife and mother, spoke her pain.

Viji you are right by forgiving and putting the Bhallas on a pedestal she once again became a bigger person that she always been. Let's see how deserving her family will act and stand up for her when things don't go their way.. which is part of life..

Ammu i have a slight difference of opinion than yours.. no one was ready to understand Ishita's plight all this time.. and even today it's not about her pain, but fingers were pointed at her parvarish, her friendship with Mani which put her dignity at question but as usual Raman didn't come to her rescue.. may be he had his doubts about their friendship too and her relationship with her husband which her husband conveniently forgotten to stand up once again..

It's tiring to hear every tom, dick and harry that includes her husband questioning her parvarish every time just because she didn't give them birth..and clear the doubts hanging over Raman and even Mani once and for all that Mani is a childhood friend and he remains the same.. and about her relationship with her husband for which he will never come out and say outside of their bedroom that she is his wife, and here she had to tell that he loves her so much and he is quiet because of her health..also her in-laws too love her so she gave all of them clean chit.. because she is not going to stuck in this negative feelings..

I'm also guessing that this is the same reason that Raman will never reveal the truth of her being Pihu's mother even it means to save her she had to reveal it to her.. because for her Pihu is important and she definitely didn't want Shagun to play games with Pihu..

Hope i made sense.. if not atleast i tried..

Originally posted by: Mreddy

@Viji - Loved your review.

@Raji - " He always looked at her thru the glasses of Shagun.. and I don't think it will ever change." - I always felt Ishita was sometimes paying for the mistakes of Raman's first marriage. She is woman who always compromises for the good of the family, because I feel at the crux is her issue and self worth, that she cannot give anything else to the family, so she tries to compensate by being the one who always gives in. I don't know whether it's a good thing or a bad thing but anything to keep the family happy. She has always been the family punching bag and 7 yrs ago that bag broke and now she is at it again.