Originally posted by: gravity23
Such a disgrace today's episode was, and such shameful messages YHM is sending out into the world. CVs have decided they want to disgust us in novel, cheekier ways each time we watch the show, and so they just outdo themselves every time. Infertility, marriage, love, everything is a joke.
Infertile women need to mandatorily marry a man and be a doormat to him and always, always put him first, if she doesn't want the rest of the world to call her a 'baanjh'.
Infertile women have no lives of their own. If they breathe, laugh, enjoy their lives, work and earn money, then it has to be done for the husband, kids, family, padosi, anybody else but them.
Motherhood is the only way a woman can realize her true worth and potential. And if you've aced in the care taking dept, tension not, the man will never leave you.š
A man has the free pass to entertain his ex-wife as many times as he wishes to, in whatever means, and his current wife has to accept it when he says he loves no one else but her. He is also entitled to drop either of the wives and humiliate (like yelling at them in public and calling them useless, and dumping them at the altar) according to what fits his needs at that point of time.
Wow! Just amazing!š
The precap had anyway warned us of what was to happen next. So, nor was I surprised nor elated when Raman stepped off the mandap and made a dash for the airport, on getting news of Nidhi. Of course, he was going to try and nab Nidhi and find out about Ruhi, from that serpent.
So, eventually, somehow, the marriage did not happen. It halted at the 5/6th phera, I guess and I can tell you that because Pihu was recording and counting pheras with her fingers and was overjoyed about it . Why should a 7 yr old know about pheras??? Is there anyone who can tell me thisš²...
Anyway, I have no idea why Amma acted so possessed and created that drama at the mandap. Wasn't she the one who actually planted the seed of thought in Shagun's head and got her brains working overtime and thinking about this marriage? Anyway, so weird, none of the Iyers stood up for Ishita the night it all happened and today, and today they were all over the place.
Why this nonsense?
I concur with Vandu. It's good if Raman marries Shagun, then everyone can move the hell on. We, as viewers too. We can eventually accept the fact that Raman prolly never deserved better than Shagun, and we were always wrong in cooking up the excessive amounts of khayali pulao...and of course, that Ishita's Shani Sade Sati has finally come to an end.
There was only one scene at the beginning, in the car, when Ishita's eyes shone for a few seconds, as she looked hopeful about Ruhi being alive. Just for a few seconds and then she slinked back into that manic depresive guilt and self-pity trip, which, is honestly the worst thing that chains women down and makes such weak, helpless caricatures of them.
She believes ki aakhir mein galti uski thi?? Really? Means Raman is justified to think and behave with her the way he did?š²
When the FL thinks and talks like this, you wonder, why the hell are you trying to stand up for her? She doesn't want to stand up for herself and is content playing a second fiddle to the man she loves...ALWAYS...she is content sacrificing, sacrificing, sacrificing, and diving deeper and deeper into a guilt she really is not a part of, at least not the only part of.
And Raman? What do I say about him? All my feelings and admiration for the character turned into charred stuff when he finally sat at the mandap. It doesn't matter if some time later he even got off it. He had a reason, and a compelling one at that, so he of course prioritized Ruhi over Shagun and the last two pheras.
Good for Shagun, to see what importance she holds in his life. Good for her if she identifies herself as the furniture lying in the background.
And even better for Pihu, to relate to it and compare it with sajan ka sasural and makes notes about how much of screen life transpired in her parents' lives. Awesome upbringingš Fabulousš
When Amma tried to stop the wedding, Raman told her off and made it clear that his and Ishita's marriage has legally ended as well, because her daughter was gayab for 7 whole years, having them all believe she had died.
Even at the mandap, Raman made sure he reminded Amma - Usne mujhe chhodne ka faisla kiya tha.
And then the next minute he imagines Ishita sitting beside him, smiling, telling him she loves him...asking him to forget all naarazgi...and he imagines himself saying he loves her and no one take her place. I was like - arse****, if you're so much in love with Ishita why the f**k is Shagun sitting beside you?š”š” How did she find a place there? and more importantly, why are you getting these lovey-dovey thoughts after blasting Amma all the legalities of how your marriage with Ishita ended?
What excuse is there for such shoddy pathetic writing?
Ishita and Nidhi are barely ten feet away, and Ishita could not see her. Wow. This hit-and-miss game was employed right after the leap as well and it annoyed me no end.
But the worst was reserved for the last - Romi, Mihika and Raman arrive at the airport. Romi says something to the effect of, "Inhone Ruhi ke liye shaadi bhi aadhe mein chhod di"
And Ishita looks shocked for 2 seconds, and then grateful...her eyes well up with tears as she almost thanks Raman inwardly for not taking that drastic step. Raman has this weird expression on his face which essentially meant, I am not saying sorry, I did not leave the marriage for you.
And that's a fact. Raman left the mandap for Ruhi, not Ishita.
But mind you, that indecipherable expression will turn into one of certainty and relief and so-called overflowing love for Ishita, when he sees Nidhi and hands her over to the police and when he sees Ruhi in flesh and blood. So the expression's got to be in limbo till that time.
But I was aghast! Raman left the mandap for Ruhi? So he is great huh? That's the mark of greatness?? Toh Ishita pe ehsaan kiya huh???š”
I am not saying I wanted Sharam marriage to happen, but the fact remains...what he did at the altar is another level of disrespect...and I can see he does not value marriage or women at all! And that's shameful, coz we thought him to be one of the progressive MLs on TV...but no, truth is - he is essentially this kid-crazy man who can drop anything and anyone on the way (no matter how many people's feelings are hurt or affected)...he is this child-crazy man who thinks its absolutely proper to treat your wife like garbage ...bacchon ke liye.
Today, at this moment, I am sorry to say but he appears to be a man whose priorities are just not in place and never will be. He seems to me the type of man who needs a woman to sort his life out and his attitude towards the said woman is dependent on how much of it she has sorted/is able to sort out.
He looks as bipolar to me as Ruhi (who actually smirked her precious smirks seeing Sharam at the mandap but seconds later she has tears in her eyes because Nidhi ordered her to leave for Australia that very evening. Why cry for the very family you want to see destroyed? Shame on her as wellš”š”)
And tomorrow, once Nidhi is nabbed, Raman and Ishita will sit in a corner somewhere and cry and experience their cathartic journey together. And all will be well. All forgotten - all verbal abuse, dire threats, dirty looks, hurt feelings, sorry crushed feelings and smashed self-respect forgotten...nasty public scenes and humiliation in front of dozens of people, forgotten...and most of all, the very fact that this man probably has use for you as long you fit in the traditional, society-imposed, sanskaari roles of maa, bahu and biwi, will also be forgotten.
Our 2.5 years of emotional investment, the hours and the countless GB of internet data expended for this watching, reviewing, discussing and voting for, and tweeting about this nonsense will also be brushed aside, predictably, because of course, who the f cares about viewers?
It seriously pains me.š
At this moment, I am just not able to wrap my head around the fact that Ishita will once again fall into the arms of the man, who minutes back almost got married to the woman she always felt insecure about, and got mercilessly compared with. I am in shock that Ishita does not have a hard-enuff spine to resist this ill-mannered brute's 'charm's and fake assurances and even faker proclamations of love. Yea sure, shake hands, go out on dinner with him and his new 'wife' and celebrate your discovery of Ruhi. But the show of love, as if you were a team from day one of the leap and were in this journey together...such bullshit.
I cant believe she will again believe that what is Ruhi ke liye, family ke liye, Pihu ke liye and ghanta ke liye for Raman is his way of loving her, and this will again, translate into 'real eternal janam janam wala pyaar' for her.š And what Raman will exact as a 'price' from Ishita for the 'love' he offers her, will be readily accepted by Ishita, because for her, apparently, less is more.
Raman will see Ruhi, and then it will proved in his Majesty's court that Ishita Bhalla is actually innocent and she has exhibited no such culpability.All the rules are his, where is the space for Ishita?
Tomorrow he will say, "Aww Ishita, am sorry, you are not the reason my Ruhi died. In fact, she was alive all these years. How could I ever doubt you? I am so mean, I am so horrible. You are the best mother a child can have and I need you to hold my crumbling family together" and phew! Ishita will lose that last shred of self-esteem she has and bury her face in his shoulders.
How will we justify Raman now? Does YHM make any sense any more?
I am so tired now, I just dont feel like watching this show anymore. I dont relate to any of the characters now.
And finally, I am certain, 200% certain that IshRa can only work if Ishita dons her 'Ishima' robe and perfects every duty assigned under that 'role'..and of course, if she swallows her pride and self-respect 10 times a day and brushes off her husband's nasty tempers, caustic mouth and blame-games as passing moods.
Even better if she agrees to tolerate Shagun lurking in the background always, all the frikkin' time...or living in the same house maybe.
Only then.
And this, certainly doesn't work for me in terms of what I expect from the show as a loyal sensible viewer who is contributing to the actors' fat paycheques as do hundreds of thousands watching them.
For me, YHM is a case of Paradise Lost. I doubt it can ever be revived.
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