Nothing made sense today *Collage on pg 20* - Page 6

Originally posted by: -Anku-

Not that I didn't find the episode disjointed and questionable. Not that I didn't find it abrupt but in its twisted dramatization too I did find a few things to pick up. Copy pasting my post on the LU here..

I think half the problems in this show could be solved if there was better communication between everyone. Raman should have confided in Ishita when he signed the custody papers earlier,Raman should have spoken to Adi yesterday, told him a lot more than he tried to then. Even one decent conversation would secure the child enough to know that his father would fight for him to be back with them. Ishita spoke so beautifully, every word she said touched my heart. I am sure had an awake Adi heard them, he would be free from half his insecurities. Raman again should have chosen to speak about his concerns and take a mutual decision rather than go about taking one alone.

Having ranted, when I think about it ^ if these people were so perfect, so right and always correct, we'd have no show, no character. Although the show is dramatized to extreme extents, the basic intention behind Ishita's mistakes or Raman's mistakes aren't irrational.

I am glad Ishita apologized for her behavior. Not that she really needed to, because all she said or did was excusable considering the kind of pain and turmoil she was going through. But just the fact that this was not pushed under the rug that she too CAN make mistakes is a relief to me as a viewer.

Coming to Raman. He's a complex man. He makes mistakes, huge ones.. in his marriage, with his parenting, with his life. But he's the one who corrects all of them. He's been the same since the start.

During Param's track he did not stand up for Ishita. He stood silent when she was accused of the worst any woman could be. Their relation was questioned and maligned but he stood quiet. But he was the one who finally found the truth and proved her right in front of the family. Same goes for the Mihir Mihika track, where he was against Mihika all along but finally was the one who planned to get them together. In the accident case, his impulse and extreme emotion made him take Adi the wrong way. But when he realized his mistake, he was the one to correct it.

Here too he's realized his mistake of signing the wrong paper. And realized that his blunders have divided his kids. But to correct one mistake he's making another again. The easiest way would be to talk to his wife and find a way together.

Raman has never been the perfect parent. The infidelity by Shagun, Adi's false accusation in the court against him changed him to someone different. He has always needed Ishita's guidance to be a better father. His love and dedication to his kids is not questionable but his parenting is. He needs to learn how to balance, he needs to learn how to make sure none of his children suffer for the other and he especially needs to learn to not take impulsive decisions when everything is rock bottom. When his life pushes him to the limit, he breaks and the rational part of his sense is always clouded.

Ishita is the balance in his life and that is exactly why I loved the scene when Raman spoke to the counselor tonight. Ishita's dialogue in the parallel proved how she's the one who brings the calm and maturity in his messed, troubled life. If and only if they both would bridge these communication gaps and learn to talk to each other, share with the other about everything that is related to the BOTH of them. Neither Shagun nor anyone else could do anything to them or the kids.

If I am the writer, the next track would be a full circle for the story. Raman got Ishita in Ruhi's life. And now he's the one responsible for their separation. He's the one getting Ishita and Adi closer and he should be the one to bridge the gap that is now going to form between the mother and daughter. Ishita is now going to become Ishima for Adi too. And this will be the final step of Raman towards being a parent to both the kids. And also probably learning to share, trust and work along with Ishita as a team than alone.

I'll feel happier for having to go through such painful and heart wrenching episodes if they conclude it with a lesson to the characters involved.

Even amidst all the terribly written, dragged and messy episodes YHM still has a strong base, great story and message to give. And although everyone feels characters are destroyed in the process. I think they're all just human and none can be perfect (And I am not talking about Shagun here at all LOL)

P.S - I have said so much about the kids all through the last few posts. They are definitely in between this entire mess, suffering the most. This track, the emotions involved and the base of the story at this moment is about parenting. As simple the word is, it's not an easy place to be in for both the parents or the kids. And here's what we're seeing. I can't freaking help and have high expectations from the track because of how they're building it. I can only hope YHM surprises us with the outcome eventually and does not use this otherwise very exceptional and promising track to dramatize the show. It is sensitive and should be treated in the same way.

Coming to the most talked about scene today, which I haven't mentioned in my post. At the risk of sounding biased which I totally am not. I didn't think or FEEL that Raman got close to Ishita only to distract her. Because if it's just about the papers he would take them anyway when she was asleep. What he did.. seemed more like an act of holding on to what is still with him before his actions destroy it all. He isn't justified in his decisions, as I've written above. When he can so easily just talk this out with Ishita. Hasn't he already learnt a lesson? I think its going to take a situation worst than worst to shake the man up.

Originally posted by: -Gan-

I love this song...dont know whether it makes sense though

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2rGOOe2jDTA

Originally posted by: vidya.anand

On a lighter note, isnt Ishita looking cuter? her face glows and has a unique beauty in the night scene...☺️

Originally posted by: RomComFan

That's the thing right? i mean they are taking Adhi to a councilor so obviously ISHRA/CVs are thinking about the psychological aspect... so why can't they think about how it will affect Ru? She is seven years old- and did they forget all the trauma she's been though? What Ishta represents for her? Just because she seems well adjusted they think she can handle this? Didn't Afhi seem well adjusted with his mom when they entered the Bhalla house? And then what did tehy find out?

Did Ishita forget what Ru asked her about Raman leaving them for Shagun? Did she forget that Shagun tried to slap her twice infront of Ishita? Did Raman forget what happened when he went to pick up Adhi's papers yesterday? That Bala's mom was there?

I understand they are in a difficult position... but every step they are taking is just wrong on multiple levels. Where are the sensitive ISHRA who were so concerned about Ru and her well being? Did that all go for a toss? The thing about this show, aside for the romance- it was supposed to be about parenting- good and bad parenting and the affects of such on a child and that parental bond. Where is that parental know how now? And the way that Raman goes about getting those papers? Where is the decency?

And Adhi... I don't even want to talk about the effects of this 'choice' on him.

Gawd, in moments like this I think this show was better when they were just friends... at least they communicated!🤢

PS: Vee, thanks for the heads up., and the spoiler for your FF- I am more excited for that then this show right now, trust.😃

Originally posted by: vidya.anand

Perfect post Gan!

baaki episode keliye no comments! [actually so much to vent out...:(]

please dont continue reading in case u have loved this entire track...and if u do read, then no offence...this is my POV on this crap they show!

I literally wanted to cry when Raman initiated the big C...hum sab itne time se, actually its like eternity now, we have been waiting and we get to see this. the passion, the love, the intimacy all made into a big fat joke...Magical chemistry ko ek socha samjha chaal banaake rakh diya!

I really dont understand why CVs are hell bent on forcefully bringing in such annoying ideas and unwanted drama when there is a lot more to show and hook us.

A mature conversation as responsible parents, a decision taken together, a good talk to make kids understand...cant they keep it that simple and show the reality of broken marriage and custody cases in a better light so that a message, the idea is sent across to such struggling families!

You know what message I get from all whats shown??

Even if the couples are having a tough time with each other and nothing makes sense in their life together, dont divorce. For the sake of the kids and their own future piece of mind, stay with each other..

And in case, divorce happens...never remarry and or even think of starting a new life.

If you do such grave sins, then you repent, cry and struggle for the rest of the lives! no happiness, no peace of mind..no life nothing!

this is the MESSAGE this show gives to the viewers!

Originally posted by: Veeann

I just deleted today's epi from my ipad.

Now, I am rewatching old epis, and when I get my muse back, I am going to go write my FF. That's much more fun than watching YHM at the moment. Think I'll give next week a miss.

Doc gave me some great songs which I'm going to use in the next few updates, but does anyone have a song that would fit this scenario - a woman going along with an arranged marriage scenario but feeling a hopeless love for someone else??? ( Sorry G, using your thread for other purposes)

Originally posted by: vidya.anand

Perfect post Gan!

baaki episode keliye no comments! [actually so much to vent out...:(]

please dont continue reading in case u have loved this entire track...and if u do read, then no offence...this is my POV on this crap they show!

I literally wanted to cry when Raman initiated the big C...hum sab itne time se, actually its like eternity now, we have been waiting and we get to see this. the passion, the love, the intimacy all made into a big fat joke...Magical chemistry ko ek socha samjha chaal banaake rakh diya!

I really dont understand why CVs are hell bent on forcefully bringing in such annoying ideas and unwanted drama when there is a lot more to show and hook us.

A mature conversation as responsible parents, a decision taken together, a good talk to make kids understand...cant they keep it that simple and show the reality of broken marriage and custody cases in a better light so that a message, the idea is sent across to such struggling families!

You know what message I get from all whats shown??

Even if the couples are having a tough time with each other and nothing makes sense in their life together, dont divorce. For the sake of the kids and their own future piece of mind, stay with each other..

And in case, divorce happens...never remarry and or even think of starting a new life.

If you do such grave sins, then you repent, cry and struggle for the rest of the lives! no happiness, no peace of mind..no life nothing!

this is the MESSAGE this show gives to the viewers!