Rajma idli daily rantings - Page 3

Originally posted by: --Megha--

Another inportant thing I want to add is - suppose Ishita refuses for physical intimacy is it wrong? I dont think so - there r so many marriages conpletely platonic n they still work. Intimacy is a part of marriage n also Love but if one of the partners is not interested in it I think the other partner needs to respect that. 😳 Besides Ishra marriage was a conditional one only for Ruhi so they had not thought of getting intimate from beginning. Just my POV.

Originally posted by: always_a_TV_fan

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Hello Leo

Happy Monday 😛

Let me get to the ranting part directly 😆

Till the episode aired, I was honestly believing that the report could NOT be Ishita's medical report. I did not think Ishita and Raman were at a stage in their relationship where they could think of a child. In spite of the real Love they have for each other, they havent yet reached intimacy stage.

I would have wholeheartedly accepted that scene if this report, if it were not related to fertility. Like, if Ishita had a different medical condition and she had be told it was not curable, and if Raman found something that could solve that problem. His intention, his discomfort of seeing her in pain and everything would have been touching (to me that is).

But this subject is something that they have never discussed. I fail to understand how one party in a couple in this modern day and age could do something like this without discussing with the other. and seriously, is this our CVs 'sanskari' way of showing they are ready for the NEXT step in their relationship ? seriously ? what is next ? they lie on the bed, lights go out and Voila Ishita starts fainting and throwing up in a couple of episodes ? If that is what they wanted, they could have shown it later, once they had started living a regular marital life.

To me, no matter how I analyse this scene, the end result is going to look like, they got intimate to have a child OR Raman was desperate OR being intimate without the need to have a child is somehow 'illegitimate' even if you are a married couple.And, What is more baffling is Ishita's need to say 'Oh I don't care about it anymore'. I think, as a viewer, I was taking Ishita's pain more seriously than she is.

If it looks like I am reading too much into it, it is because I am. This was one of the last remaining issues in this story that was still rooted firmly in the beginning. This was still an angle where I was hoping they'd manage more realistically.

Anyhoo... in my eyes, if they want to fix this now, they SHOULD show them consummating their marriage in the next episode after Ishita has declared she doesnt care about having a baby anymore. At least then, it won't feel like a baby is "the start and end of it all" >> and no, this is not a fan's attempt to see steamy romance.😆 its just a wish to see a sensible story. and today's scene would make sense to me and I will take back my words 😳


PS: I know this show is like a comedy of medical errors, but seriously, which ob-gyn would review an Old report (I am assuming this report is from the time when Subbu broke up with Ishita) and return a different diagnosis without examining a patient?


PPS: The belly dancer was a nice light comical touch 😳 Why do the mothers have to come there when they have actually planned for IshRa to have alone time ? 😲

Originally posted by: always_a_TV_fan

@bold - that would be perfectly fine and correct IF the 2 people spoke about it and agreed. If one party is showing hinting at next steps with packets of contraception, the other should say he/she is not ready, did not sign up for it.

You and me both know they would not show that (they wouldnt get TRPs with platonic relationship), so I am talking generally too.

Originally posted by: drishtimaurya

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">And what was Ishita planning??? She wanted the redecoration of Raman's office to be the anniversary gift? Bit unromantic, especially when the other person is being so passionate, but still good gift! But calling the interior designer to their suite, where they were supposed to be spending some quality time??? What if an actual interior designer had come disturbing them in between! I'm sure Raman wud not have liked that!!!</font>

Originally posted by: drishtimaurya

We understand that! Intentions were good! But the timing wasnt right! A medical report doesnt fit in here!! They have not even started being intimate!! What if Ishita had misunderstood his intentions? Many can say that Raman gave that report to tell her that he wants to take this relationship forward! What if she had accepted that and got super happy about it and then consummated the marriage??? Then it wud have seemed like a baby-making process only!!! (The woman had shown no interest up till now, if she suddenly wanted intimacy, it'd have been strange!) The report doesnt make sense much now. But Ishita understanding Raman's intention, still discarding that report is a bit of solace

Originally posted by: --Megha--

Agreed but in a relationship u cant force other party to oblige to ur sexual desires?

Say Raman wanted a physical relationship n Ishita is not interested then shud Raman force himself on her? Is it morally right - I think No. Hence I wrote that.

N most importantly here Ishita is not saying No to physical intimacy, she is just saying she doesnt want to have babies. Y consummation was not shown - CV s need to milk this cow to eternity na 😆

It will not happen at least for 4 months or when TRPs drop 😛 (whichever comes first).