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Posted: 10 years ago

#41

Originally posted by: Eyes-Wide-Shut

I concur!

Mutual admiration club. You guys leave me in awe every single day. You know that.

PS: Please stop. It's simply the beauty of this show.

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Posted: 10 years ago

#42

I was already in a somber mood yesterday and then the episode today just pushed me into the zone of sadness. I couldn't watch these delicate souls suffer, I wanted to climb into the screen and hug all of them. I need to process the sadness before I start bawling so I will be back later to update when I am a little removed from this emotional episode.

While watching today's episode, two songs came to my mind. Both are very close to my heart.

Ishita'a feelings towards Ruhi in today's episode can be reflected by this song from the movie Amar Prem. It is so apt, that this song also is about a non biological mother, and her child! Yashoda maiya and her Kishen Kanhaiya. The lines in bold, are a true representation of Ishimaa's feelings towards her soul that is Ruhi! The scene when she breaks down in Raman's arms, her despair was so raw that I could touch it. 😭

Bada Natakhat Hai Re Krishhn-Kanhaiya
Ka Kare Yashoda Maiyyaa, Haan ... Bada Natakhat Hai Re

A Tohe Mai Gale Se Laga Loon
Laage Na Kisi Ki Nazar Man Me Chhupa Loon
Dhoop Jagat Hai Re Mamata Hai Chhainya
Ka Kare Yashoda Maiyyaa, Haan ... Bada Natakhat Hai Re

I need to process the episode before I start commenting on my puttar's plight as a father, as a husband, as a SIL and as a son. If i start commenting on it right now, I might go into depression so for now I leave you with this song that perfectly encapsulates Raman's feelings from today's episode. Daddy tere jage tu so ja re, Raman is ready to bear all the pain in the world to ensure his Ruhi is never touched by sadness.

Sapno ke ghar ki chhat pe hai tare
Tofiyo ki diwaro pe latke wo bare
Ghar ke ujiyare so ja re
Ghar ke ujiyare so ja re
Daddy tere jage tu so ja re
Ghar ke ujiyare so ja re
Daddy tere jage tu so ja re

I will try and update later in the evening once I am a little sorted!

Update: You know there are some who are disagreeing with Ishita and are annoyed by her reaction today and as much as I try to understand that point of view I can't. Why do we forget that Ishita is the lady who cannot bear children and in Ruhi she found the piece that completes her as a person. Ruhi is that one piece of the puzzle that has showered Ishita with all the happiness, she became a mother, wife, DIL and SIL because of Ruhi and most importantly Ishita found love and companionship in Raman because of Ruhi. Now imagine if someone tells you that the thing that brought the most happiness and healed you as a person might be taken away from you, how would you react. Her reaction was totally valid, she is a parent and any parent would react the way she did if they feared losing their child. In moment of panic, when tempers were running high and she was trying to process the information, she blamed Raman and his anger for this problem, is she wrong? Isn't she human? Can't she be irrational, people often complain that she is always 'mahan' and when she acts like a human being we fault her as well. She would have been wrong if she actually would have put Raman at fault for all this mess but she didn't, she found solace in his words and peace in his embrace, once she settled down and got over the initial shock of things, she knew Raman is the only one that can bring their Ruhi back to them. In my eyes it was a beautiful moment of a woman's reaction as a mother and then as a wife, the mother took over the wife today and I see no wrong in that but that's just strictly my opinion.

Fathers: Where do I even begin with puttar, his state was pitiful today , in his eyes he failed as a father, husband and a son. What was most telling is the fact that he shoulders all the responsibility of the house but when he needs a shoulder to cry he only has Ishita and if Ishita isn't available then puttar is all alone, like he was today. He wanted to break down and weep but he had no shoulder for support, he stood by himself trying to take care of his broken wife, his hysterical mother and his somber FIL. The tears in his eyes when he turns arounr at Ruhi's calling for dinner was the most heart touching, it seemed like at that moment he wanted to pick her up and sew her to his body so no one can dare separate his darling daughter from him.

When I get a papercut today my parent's freak out and I am old as eff(grandma), for parent's, their children will always their children and they will do anything to protect them. I saw that in appa today, if you must know that was the moment my waterworks started, a father pleading another father for his daughter's happiness. That scene today is what makes YHM the show to reckon with! Two fathers fighting for their daughters while holding themselves together so they can be strong for their beloved child. The pain in Raman's eyes when he hears Appa pleading made my heart bleed, and even in times when Raman wanted to breakdown he was busy giving assurance to Appa that he won't let anything happen to his daughter Ishita and that she will always have Ruhi in her life. Puttar is the most pious soul in the history of time. Fangirling is under control today because of the serious nature of the episode. 😃

TODAY'S EPISODE WAS BRILLIANT...I WAS WAITING FOR UR POST DESPERATELY...WORTH WAITING...

ISHITA'S RXN WAS SPOT ON...DT ACTED BRILLIANTLY...

WHT TO SAY ABT RAMAN...I TOTALLY LOVE THIS CHARACTER...APPA AND RAMAN SCENE WAS VERY EMOTIONAL...HAD TEARS...

@BOLD PINK - SORRY TO SAY THIS...I LITERALLY LAUGHED AFTER READING THESE LINES ...CDNT CONTROL...

@LIGHT PINK -😆🤣

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Posted: 10 years ago

#43

Stunning collages yet again, Gan. You were able to beautifully capture the plight of this mother & father who were leaning on each other for support as husband and wife today. I've used this quote before, but I think it fits IshRa so well:

"She collapsed. I stepped forward and caught her. I thought of two trees nearly uprooted and leaning against each other."

Peter Heller

The quote you've chosen is perfection. It wasn't easy for these souls to find each other and find healing in each other...to create their own safe-haven. Now, when they're finally at the precipice of finding familial bliss, the thought that everything is on the line again is simply heartbreaking.

...sometimes you have to let your fears flow in the form of tears before you can find the strength to face the storm.

***

I'm not a parent, but I have always had a strong maternal instinct from a very young age - whether it be my younger cousins who I practically raised, or my puppy (who, yes, I treat like my child), or now my nephews. So if there's one thing I understand about parenthood, its this: parents are born with the inherent and overwhelming need to protect their children, and family, from every storm that comes their way, despite knowing that unfortunately, you can't protect them from it all.

You've been there - seen all the various seasons of life, fought those battles that sometimes leave you so broken you're not sure if you'll have the strength to pull yourself back together. So on instinct, you're determined to ensure your children don't have to weather the bitter cold that you've endured. But more importantly, you simply want them to live a happy life with minimal heartache. The honest truth is, continuing in this endeavor when you know that 100% success is next to impossible, is simply exhausting. But that's the stuff of parents. They do it anyway...and if they're lucky, they'll have a supportive spouse to lean on as they continue forward.

Today, I am ever-thankful that our two broken souls, who were brought together by parenthood, have each other to lean on as they create a shelter for their child.

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Ishita

Chanda hai tu, mera suraj hai tu
Oh meri aankhon ka taara hai tu
Jeeti hoon main, bas tujhe dekh ke

Iss tute dil ka sahara hai tu...

Rooh. How apt.

Her daughter brought to life the part of her soul that had been dormant for so long. Ruhi gave Ishita a reason to dream of a life she'd never imagined for herself, to believe that just maybe, she'd get her share of happiness after all the heartbreak she's endured. Today, she's threatened with the notion that even this tiny bit of joy that life has offered her, may be snatched away...that'd she'd be thrown back into the abyss from which she's finally emerged.

A mother's worst fear came true today - the idea of her child being taken away from her. And in the true spirit of a mother, despite her own heartbreak, the words that escaped her lips were "meri beti pisti hai"...why must my daughter bear the brunt every time?

The beauty of the moment today, as a mother found solace in her husbands arms, is not one that I can quite put to words. Moments such as these, when they find strength with and within each other as they prepare to face the storm together...are simply heart touching.

Nothing can be more frightening or heartbreaking than a mother fearing the loss of her child. Nothing.

***

RKB

"He was not being courageous as he bore the freezing stream for his wife and children. He simply chose between the lesser of two evils - the pain and suffering he would endure in the river, a physical pain that he could stand to bear, or the pain and suffering he would feel if he had to watch his family wade across and freeze. It was not a decision. The choice had already been made the moment Ole proposed marriage to his wife and welcomed these beautiful daughters into the world."

Sage Steadman

"He was a father. That's what a father does.

Eases the burdens of those he loves.

Saves the ones he loves from painful last images that might endure for a lifetime."

George Saunders

I know I sound partial, but My RKB's tears had me in tears today.

A year ago, he didn't know how to show her he loved her, that she was his sole reason for finding the strength to carry on. But even then, he loved her fiercely...and fought for her with every fiber of his being. The heaven's smiled down on him when he was given the chance to prove his worth as a father. In the past few months, as his heart has slowly mended, he's learned to love her the way she deserves to be loved...and yet, despite how far they've come, when he's finally on the verge of having the family he's always dreamed of, history repeats itself as he faces the risk of losing her again.

I couldn't help but think of Murphy's Law as I watched RKB these past few days. No matter how desperately he's trying to hold things together, despite his efforts at setting it all straight, for reasons outside his control, things only seem to get worse.

The thing about being a husband, a son, the man of the house...most importantly, a father - bearing the responsibility of protecting your family, ensuring their well-being and happiness: you're tasked with being a strong pillar of support that holds the foundation together, despite the fact that you yourself are falling apart. To lock your own fears and pain deep within your core and be strong for those around you is no easy feat. Such responsibility means you lend yourself to others as rock solid shoulder to lean on...it also means that when you need a shoulder to lean on, you have no where to turn, especially if your wife is too broken to help you bear the burden.

Today we saw a father and husband crack as he was simply unable to hold in the emotion that overwhelmed him.

His feet faltered, as if he'd taken a physical blow, as the pain of losing his daughter and guilt of his actions consumed him when he saw her break upon receiving the notice. (This scene made my heart bleed. I cried.) And yet, just moments later, he stood as her anchor.

He couldn't contain the tears as he pleaded with the lawyer to ensure their daughter's safety...and yet, he swallowed a father's tears so that as a son, he could console & reassure his father. (This scene was extremely overwhelming. I cried.)

The tears that threatened to spill over as his baby girl called out to him...the pain and guilt, but mostly overwhelming love for his daughter that reflected in his eyes then were almost too much to bear.

In his eyes, he's failed yet again...as a father and husband. His actions have again thrown his loved ones in the line of fire. Watching this man repeatedly attempt to right all wrong...and repeatedly fall short, is heartbreaking...especially when he literally gives his all for the ones he loves.

Is it any surprise as to why I love My RKB the way I do?

***

It baffles me that KP and DT aren't parents. The intense poignant emotion that they oozed today was overwhelming. Words cannot do justice to their boundless talent.

Sorry for the length.

Love.

WOW...FANTABULOUS...BRILLIANT...BEAUTIFULLY WRITTEN...FLOW WAS SUPERB... ENJOYED A LOT...EMOTIONAL EPISODE AND UR POST WAS CHERRY ON THE CAKE...

PAYAL, AFTER A LONG GAP SUCH A BRILLIANT ANALYSIS POST...

I WAS MISSING UR ANALYSIS POST AND YESTERDAY I POSTED IN GANS THREAD ALSO REG. THIS...I KNOW U MIGHT BE BUSY...BUT KEEP WRITING YAAR...

THANKS A LOT...

U THREE R DEADLY COMBO...I LOVE READING THIS THREAD AND ENJOY A LOT...THANKS A LOT GUYS...

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arshi21

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Posted: 10 years ago

#44

Originally posted by: GanBarunFan

That scene to me was perfect .. It was not about hugging .. It was a husband giving support to his hysterical wife after calming her down and she accepting that shoulder of support ... There is no gutter scope here .😆

There are plenty of hugs in the future .. When the time is right ... Just hang in there 😆

Yeah, you are right😊

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arshi21

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Posted: 10 years ago

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@Payal

I loved your take on the episode. Yes, Appa and Raman's scene was very very touching.

I think Ishita's reaction was justified too. Though I am not a mother, not even a wife yet, I can imagine how painful that moment could have been for any parent, and that too for a parent who harbors a lot of insecurities regarding her rights on her child.

Sigh!

If ever, EVER (though I hope it NEVER EVER comes) ishra were to be separated, I hope Ruhi and Ishita always stay together cause Ruhi is Ishita's way to happiness. If she is with her, then she will eventually have everything she ever desired . :)

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Posted: 10 years ago

#46

Originally posted by: arshi21
@Banana.ishra

I loved your take on the episode. Yes, Appa and Raman's scene was very very touching.

I think Ishita's reaction was justified too. Though I am not a mother, not even a wife yet, I can imagine how painful that moment could have been for any parent, and that too for a parent who harbors a lot of insecurities regarding her rights on her child.

Sigh!

If ever, EVER (though I hope it NEVER EVER comes) ishra were to be separated, I hope Ruhi and Ishita always stay together cause Ruhi is Ishita's way to happiness. If she is with her, then she will eventually have everything she ever desired . :)

@ARSHI21

U MIGHT HAVE MISTAKEN EWS'S/PAYAL'S POST AS MINE I THINK... I DONT HAVE THAT TALENT TO WRITE SO BEAUTIFULLY LIKE THEM...BUT, I LOVE TO READ THEIR VIEWS LIKE U...

THANKS

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arshi21

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Posted: 10 years ago

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Originally posted by: banana.ishra

@ARSHI21
U MIGHT HAVE MISTAKEN EWS'S/PAYAL'S POST AS MINE I THINK... I DONT HAVE THAT TALENT TO WRITE SO BEAUTIFULLY LIKE THEM...BUT, I LOVE TO READ THEIR VIEWS LIKE U...
THANKS

Oops! I am so sorry. I edited my post!

Yes it was Payal's view. It was amazing :)

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Payal

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Posted: 10 years ago

#48

Originally posted by: Eyes-Wide-Shut
The tears in his eyes when he turns around at Ruhi's calling for dinner was the most heart touching, it seemed like at that moment he wanted to pick her up and sew her to his body so no one can dare separate his darling daughter from him.

Can't sleep so re-reading everyone's posts...still processing it all.

@Bold: You've described it to perfection.

If Ru has blessed Ishita with Motherhood, and a beatiful marriage, she has also blessed RKB with a rare second chance. He has even verbalized it - the sherbet talk episode, when she asks him how the punishment was, he said "a blessing". She is truly the heart and soul of this family...the force that brought them together and for a long time (and even now to a certain extent), the glue that holds them together. Warms my heart. 😳

PS: Watched the OLV from that scene today, and when Ishu says "main Ru ke bina nahi jee sakti" when she's leaning into him as he puts his arms around her, our RKB says "aur main tum dono ke bina" ...of course they edited that part out, but...*sigh* RKB ❤️

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Payal

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Posted: 10 years ago

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Originally posted by: arshi21
@Payal

I loved your take on the episode. Yes, Appa and Raman's scene was very very touching.

I think Ishita's reaction was justified too. Though I am not a mother, not even a wife yet, I can imagine how painful that moment could have been for any parent, and that too for a parent who harbors a lot of insecurities regarding her rights on her child.

Sigh!

If ever, EVER (though I hope it NEVER EVER comes) ishra were to be separated, I hope Ruhi and Ishita always stay together cause Ruhi is Ishita's way to happiness. If she is with her, then she will eventually have everything she ever desired . :)

Thanks so much, but its the beauty of the show and the honest portrayal of the characters which makes it easy to relate to.

Touche about what you said regarding her longstanding insecurities regarding true rights on Rooh. Though RKB has reassured her time and again, there's no denying she can't shake the fear that one day she'll wake up and all of this will have just been a beautiful dream that was unceremoniously snatched from her.

@Bold: 7-8 months ago, I may have agreed with this statement, but such is no longer the case. Ruhi is only a piece of the puzzle now. Today, Rooh and RKB are the two halves that make the whole that is Ishita's life...take a way either, and she's incomplete.

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Rajji (Shanu)

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Posted: 10 years ago

#50

Ganu !

As always loved the collage ! I'm glad that they finally made Ruhi be the center of attention again. I was missing her being the center character.

Ishita and raman fought for ruhi earlier, but back then they weren't in this together. They were both doubting the love the other had for Ruhi. Now they fight together, and they know how much they care for Ruhi. She gives meaning to their lives and they won't let her go that easily.

Thank you for this post Ganu ! ❤️