Ishita doubted Trisha, so how is Raman not justified? - Page 7

Because Trisha and Romi didn't even know each other. If they were childhood friends, I doubt she would have cared.

IF TOPIC OF THE POST IS WHETHER RAMAN IS RIGHT IN DOUBTING ISHITA.- then my answer is yes... Definitely ishita is at fault. IShita and MANI friendship is not wrong. Friendship can never be wrong. I don't have any problem in that. BUt yes I have a problem with their samaj seva attitude and their ways specially hiding from others. Doing secretive mission to solve this family matter. Both of them convinced SArika and Romi to get marry without consulting elders of the BHALLA family. The way they solved is absolutely hilarious and stupid way. IF in marriage your partners is feeling insecure then its responsibility of other partner to communicate things more clearly and try not to create situation which increase insecurity. IShita is aware of insecurity with bracelet episode where raman shows his anger and later she was upset with him for not trusting her. SO she is very well aware of insecurity of Raman. But still SHE IS FAILED MISERABLY WITH HER ACTION.

Yup i agree she doubted him but never misbehaved or manhandled him! She has alwyz kept her sorrow wid herslf n nt exposed to other! But in this situation rkb loose control n shows his true color! If i was in ishita place i would have leave him by now! But this is ishita who alwyz care abt him n his family so we cant expct her to leave overnight

Originally posted by: Reina1

Because Trisha and Romi didn't even know each other. If they were childhood friends, I doubt she would have cared.

Brilliant observation!!
She has to interfere with others and jump to conclusion but when it comes to herself she is some how manages to justify herself and make the other person look like an idiot! Hate her interfering nature.
Anyway bhalla, watch out, coz your next as big brother (ishita) will be watching you

First of all...tell me that is Ishita or Raman the same person?

What Ishita saw, she reacted on that. Don't you guys say that Raman is sensitive and matured than Ishita, understands everything? So, why isn't his thinking process different from Ishita? You would say his past. So, does go with ishita...cos Ishita is shown as a stubborn woman till now who believes what she thinks right. She is thinking her friendship is nothing wrong. Her general feature is prevailing here also. Tell me, did she have dream that Raman saw them hugging and saying ILU? Why doesn't Raman tell the exact thing he saw on her face? Instead of trying to exploit her, couldn't he say those to her? Ishita is to be blamed, so is Raman. Both are here in fault. But, I guess, Raman's past will be brought to justify him even if he murders someone any day.

Originally posted by: Aisha15

Forget Raman in that case. She definitely inflicted mental pain on Mihir in that case by interrogating him over and over until he broke down and admitted Shagun is his sister. If I'm not mistaken she didn't even apologize to him for that. Before "confronting him," she threw a fit and instantly doubted on the basis of a stranger that Raman did have a relationship with this girl and didn't tell her. Secondly, I believe Mihir said he will stay with the Iyers, but let's say he didn't. Her husband obviously wasn't in a state to help but her father-in-law, Romi's father wouldn't have helped her? He didn't have the right to know?

Nobody is angry at Ishita for having a male friend. I do too and I'm sure the majority of us do too. My problem is with her not owning up to her mistakes and hiding behind the pretext of feminism and modernity. Feminism and modernity stress equality. She in several cases has accused others of being immoral when they were not. They still had to prove their case, so why can't she.

Originally posted by: bhanu

So only the old friends are allowed to hug and if new friends hug then we need to doubt, but how do we differentiate the hug how was ishitha and mani hug different then trisha and romi's hug both the hug looked the same for the third eye

It's not that only old friends can hug, not new friends. But, new friends don't reach that comfort level this faster. Ishita knew, Romi and Trish have only cordial relation, but here Raman knows that Ishita-Mani are childhood friends. That's two different things.

You guys, mix some irrelevant incidents just to support and defend Raman...that's great👏.

Originally posted by: DivAniTanni

First of all...tell me that is Ishita or Raman the same person?

What Ishita saw, she reacted on that. Don't you guys say that Raman is sensitive and matured than Ishita, understands everything? So, why isn't his thinking process different from Ishita? You would say his past. So, does go with ishita...cos Ishita is shown as a stubborn woman till now who believes what she thinks right. She is thinking her friendship is nothing wrong. Her general feature is prevailing here also. Tell me, did she have dream that Raman saw them hugging and saying ILU? Why doesn't Raman tell the exact thing he saw on her face? Instead of trying to exploit her, couldn't he say those to her? Ishita is to be blamed, so is Raman. Both are here in fault. But, I guess, Raman's past will be brought to justify him even if he murders someone any day.

Originally posted by: brainychild92

Lets forget Mihir for a while...

Lets focus on Raman. If she went to her father in-law, she would have to explain why she couldn't just go with Raman. As his wife, she could not put him in that position! Not in front of his family who thinks so high of him.

She blew up on Raman.. not on Mihika or Mihir but on Raman about that girl. She told him to explain himself. Even if it was in front of all, she blew up on HIM. She wanted an explanation from HIM. Why didn't he do that? Instead, the only time he asks for an explanation is after he gets drunk... and acts indecently. Please don't go with that "he's her husband" crap because we all know, married or not that was indecent/inhumane. I wouldn't explain myself if i was in that position, so I can't expect her to (nothing to do with feminism.. more about self-respect). She is too hurt/shaken right now to deal with Raman. I hope when he finds out the truth, he will realize that not everybody is like Shagun and he is lovable too. His nightmares will stop and will be more stable, I hope.

She cannot tell her husband's family about his behavior but she can tell her friend? Wouldn't his family be able to reprimand him more for his behavior towards her more than her friend? I don't get the logic. And where is her self respect in this position? Her husband's image in front of his family is more important?

And please, I have NEVER once said that because Raman is her husband he can force himself on her. No woman should ever be treated like that, ever, by anyone. I don't understand why if you dont support Ishita, you are automatically considered to support domestic violence. My argument was if she can question other people's behaviors, why can't her actions be questioned?