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Nisha

@Nichuss

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+ 33

Posted: 10 years ago

#31

Originally posted by: Nikki_Titli

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@bold i agree to this to a level...

even knowing raman jhelofying... ishu is nt reacting...

is it cv fault... i dnt knw...

as tey r concentrating on raman ...

did tey forgot ishu ...no idea..

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Ananya05

@Ananya05

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 10 years ago

#32

Hey, nice post. Agree with you.

Raman's way of treating Ishita might be harsh, But that doesn't make Ishita any less guilty of the way she is treating him around Mani, especially since she is supposedly the one who has already realized her feelings for Raman,

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Tanyaarora11

@Tanyaarora11

Navigator

+ 2

Posted: 10 years ago

#33

I don't agree with your post and with due respect, I honestly don't think this can be generalised to a 'guy perspective' though I'm glad you shared your pov.
TRUE, Raman is bound to feel jealous,insecure and dejected. But still that does not give him the right to do anything and everything under the sun.
He is surely not at fault because that is his demeanour, he shouts and gets angry at people he cares for, he has a different way of showcasing his love and Ishita understands all that however, when she is on the hospital bed,How can one expect her to get into fights and stand for him and all that because in her mind, everything is normal, Mani is a friend and Raman is her husband. She trusts him completely and she expects the same from him, beyond a fun jealousy moment, such deep thoughts that she is not happy with Raman and Mani is better and all that doesn't even cross her mind. I understand that once she did compare the two in her thoughts, that I would say was a terrible fault of the CVs. What I can gauge from the current scenario is Raman realisation which is absolutely essential, not because he's been lacking in his care or love, not even because she has felt bereft of the love and care. However, it's time they took a next step and I'm loving the way Cvs are portraying that bit. What I absolutely hate is when they involve mani lusting over Ishita, that is pathetic. But mani being her best friend and knowing everything about her is but natural. Raman is no way at fault, so many husbands don't know about their wive's illness, that's justifiable. However, it's time he learned all that. This is just a way for him to take an initiative to know her better, it doesn't mean he was wrong or had been wrong. In the entire scenario, not once did I see Raman in the bad light and honestly speaking I don't think even the Cvs intended to show that. It's realisation, the way Ishita realised she should have handled the Pammi matter better. I agree that was too small a matter! But what the Cvs are trying to show that it's not necessary for the male protagonist to always be so righteous and awesome. He's a flawed character and he has more than one reason to be one. His defence mechanism is to shout at people and we all know that, and I don't even say that he should act indifferent towards her when she's in the hospital. I'm kind of sure, Ishita loves his rudeness as well. Give them some time, the moment she learns about what's going on in his mind, she'll come around and clarify. It's ISHRA after all, we've been super crazy for them, there's a reason for them to have such a sizzling chemistry and writers would never ever want to mess that.
Also, about Mani I think it's absolutely okay for Ishita to be bestfriends with him, what's wrong in that? As long as neither of them showcase lusting for each other. I really don't think she has crossed any boundaries as of now, she never hid the fact from her husband that she's meeting him or never lied to him. Well that star struck behaviour is an inherent trait of hyperness which she possesses, honestly I've been there so I know that. There is absolutely no wrong in two people of opposite sex being friends. Raman is acting like this because of his past, he's insecure and rightly said he has every right to be that because he's endured too much. That's what the writers are playing on ; her oblivion and his insecurity which will eventually commingle and give us a beautiful heartfelt conversation when things get clearer.

Edited by Tanyaarora11 - 10 years ago

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--Megha--

@--Megha--

Sparkler

Posted: 10 years ago

#34

Omg Vyas what have u done here,

Will reply in detail tomorow.

P.S : it works both ways -boundaries should b maintained by guys (Husbands)too after marriage.

oThis is for all the people asking us to grow up or for being opinionated-

Well this is true, we r not animals (who believe in having multiple partners) we r Human beings n we r civilized amognst the species. N Marriage was introduced as a system for this very reason that a man n a woman can come together in a matrimony and procreate. There r certain rules n civil conduct we need to follow in society unfortunately we like it or not. Same applies to marriage - having boundaries, loyalty is part n parcel of Marriage (of at least a healthy marriage). If u didnt wanted any limitations or loyalty factor in ur life y marry? Stay whole life bachelor n njoy having multiple affairs but when in marriAge u r bound by certain principles.

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rupali

@rupali_rout

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Posted: 10 years ago

#35

I am sorry but I disagree. I don't think mani butted in. Nowhere did he comment about their marriage or their relationships. It's common yaar. Friends do ask if you are happy in a relationship. That's not wrong. I have guy friends who don't interfere until and unless needed. Mani just said Ki why yell when you can clearly solve the issue in a polite way.
If Mihir after marriage treats Mihika like this then don't you think Raman will object? Obviously he will do. We have to wait and see how this will unfold. C'mon cut ishu and mani some slack.

If he forces ishita to leave Raman, if he keeps butting in their private moments, if he keeps commenting about their relationship like Ashok then yes he is butting in. But just asking someone to behave properly is not butting in. This is my opinion and no offence to anybody.

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Wings-of-Fire

@Wings-of-Fire

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 10 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: Asclepius

I lost my all hopes from ishita long back...with this slot change I don't even hv any expectations..
My only worry is don't drag ruhi in all this..raman ka only sahara

Yah right! A woman has to remember to behave correctly when she's sick and bedridden in the hospital while the man doesn't need to behave ever!

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MJHTMonayaSajan

@MJHTMonayaSajan

Dazzler

+ 4

Posted: 10 years ago

#37

I am a girl and yet I agree...I mean be it a guy or gal...the way they are showing d situations...anybody would feel jealous and unwanted...

I just hope Raman doesnot go all "I'll sacrifise Ishita for Mani" n istead goes n tells Ishita that he loves her...finally a confession from Raman...

N true...Ishita behaves like starstuck teenager on seeing Mani...its getng irritating how she s lyk "Hawww...maniii...tum bhi naaa"

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BombayTroll

@BombayTroll

Achiever

+ 5

Posted: 10 years ago

#38

Originally posted by: yyy
You posted how a guy feels and I would love to post how a gal feels ,before that I have a question.Since you mentioned the below lines , I would like ask you one thing ...is this rule applied only for a women.Doesn't this apply to the men as well or is it just a double standard of our society where women are expected to be in their limits whereas men have all rights to seek pleasure outside .
And I would finally say that After marriage

There is a boundary

And it should not be crossed


Did Raman follow this rule during Amma's accident track?When he was secretly meeting his ex wife and was seen at everyplace from hotel room to court room hugging ,holding his ex wife's hand .Is this not called as "crossing boundaries" or is it forgivable because he is a man and or will this also be justified in the name of "mother of his kids".


Is it ok if a man crosses the boundaries of marriage by declaring a family picnic with his ex wife leaving his current wife behind and be ready to spend the night with his ex wife .Is this also justifiedbecausehe was doing this with mother of his kids .

I dont agree that Ishita has crossed any boundaries ...Is she meeting her friend behind Ramna's back?Is she lying to her husband about her friend?Is she romancing her friend ?

Now coming to the women'sperspective

I come to know that my old friend is in town and is eager to meet me and has invited my husband and me to a party

But my husband starts throwing tantrums and behaves like a immature guy by refusing to meet my friend due to his insecurities and can't even consider a simple invitation.

I still convince myself that he might be in a foul mood then i decide to divert my mind by attending the party ...

When i come back home to see ...i am welcomed with "Kachara ,dinosaurs comments"and how elated a wife feels right?

I am concerned about his kid's future hence inform my husband what i heard at a party ..all i get is some yellings but next day i spot him with his ex wife in a cafe planning to expose her ex wife's current BF

I am forced to accompany them and when the plan fails ,my husband treats me like a punching bag and orders me to get out of his home

I am keeping fast all the day and working hard to fullfill my in laws wishes ...trying not to upset any one of the family members as all are close to my heart

I keep running here and there trying to balance my work and household chores and all i get in return is scarcastic comments ,tauntsinfront of my parents and weird beahviour towards my friend justbecausehe turns out to be tall , fair and better looking than my husband .If he was like a Murali , Raman would have no issues as he is not acompetitionif he is not good looking or well settled

A wife is sick and is feeling weak and since for a change she is not being Mahaan as she is little stubborn , cranky and wants to getpampered but dear husband can't stop yelling and wants to create a scene infront instead of making wife feel better by saying some loving words

Why are you bringing up Raman against ishita in everything

If you remember if you were there during accident track

I criticised Raman a lot and he got his due desserts from me

Now coming to the post

This again is not who is right or wrong

This is what guy can think on scenario

And frankly he hasn't doubted her at all so far

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Nisha

@Nichuss

Elite

+ 33

Posted: 10 years ago

#39

Originally posted by: yyy
You posted how a guy feels and I would love to post how a gal feels ,before that I have a question.Since you mentioned the below lines , I would like ask you one thing ...is this rule applied only for a women.Doesn't this apply to the men as well or is it just a double standard of our society where women are expected to be in their limits whereas men have all rights to seek pleasure outside .
----bang on... same que...

even i agreed to boundary line... isnt it only for women...not bothered for men..if its a rule... 😉

And I would finally say that After marriage

There is a boundary

And it should not be crossed

Did Raman follow this rule during Amma's accident track?When he was secretly meeting his ex wife and was seen at everyplace from hotel room to court room hugging ,holding his ex wife's hand .Is this not called as "crossing boundaries" or is it forgivable because he is a man and or will this also be justified in the name of "mother of his kids".

Is it ok if a man crosses the boundaries of marriage by declaring a family picnic with his ex wife leaving his current wife behind and be ready to spend the night with his ex wife .Is this also justified because he was doing this with mother of his kids .

I dont agree that Ishita has crossed any boundaries ...Is she meeting her friend behind Ramna's back?Is she lying to her husband about her friend?Is she romancing her friend ?

Now coming to the women's perspective

I come to know that my old friend is in town and is eager to meet me and has invited my husband and me to a party

But my husband starts throwing tantrums and behaves like a immature guy by refusing to meet my friend due to his insecurities and can't even consider a simple invitation.

I still convince myself that he might be in a foul mood then i decide to divert my mind by attending the party ...

When i come back home to see ...i am welcomed with "Kachara ,dinosaurs comments"and how elated a wife feels right?

I am concerned about his kid's future hence inform my husband what i heard at a party ..all i get is some yellings but next day i spot him with his ex wife in a cafe planning to expose her ex wife's current BF

I am forced to accompany them and when the plan fails ,my husband treats me like a punching bag and orders me to get out of his home

I am keeping fast all the day and working hard to fullfill my in laws wishes ...trying not to upset any one of the family members as all are close to my heart

I keep running here and there trying to balance my work and household chores and all i get in return is scarcastic comments , taunts infront of my parents and weird beahviour towards my friend just because he turns out to be tall , fair and better looking than my husband .If he was like a Murali , Raman would have no issues as he is not a competition if he is not good looking or well settled

A wife is sick and is feeling weak and since for a change she is not being Mahaan as she is little stubborn , cranky and wants to get pampered but dear husband can't stop yelling and wants to create a scene infront instead of making wife feel better by saying some loving words

nothing more to say...
you penned my feelings n thought on this matter...
im still nt getting wts wrong with mani-ishu relation

cant a boy be best friend of a girl...
or is there any rule...only girl can b best friend of girl
and boy can be best friend of boy 😕

Weird

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Bulbul

@Bul3

Rocker

+ 4

Posted: 10 years ago

#40

Originally posted by: --mancityfan--

No worries

Firstly he supplied wrong information

That means cvs are forcing him upon us

They are hell bent on proving Raman bad and mani guy

Now again I am just saying what guy would think

He is constantly trying to flirt with her

He is constantly trying to prove I love her to ishita

He keeps getting all the praise even for things Raman did like throwing Romi out for being drunk

Why try to interfere in husband wife relationship without being asked

And again like I said this is about what a guy would think on current situation

Not who is right or wrong

And btw Raman hasn't really doubted her

thanks for understanding the POV!

Well I think CVs are not trying to show Raman the bad guy or Mani the good guy..The intent is to make Raman realize how less he knows about Ishita..Raman has always been a caring husband but as I read somebody post in the forum Ishra are more like friends than spouses..If they need to move forward in their relationship than first should come the realization that something is missing and does it make a difference that something is missing?

As far as Mani, yes he flirts with Ishita but in a casual jolly manner..he has flirted with her even in front of Raman and that shows that he is just kidding..And Raman has heard Ishita replies to his flirting which are always like I am married, you do not have any copyright on me etc etc.. She also has praised Raman various times to Mani..And Ishita praising Mani for finding Romi drunk was not wrong again..he is the one who found on gate that Romi was drunk and she was having a normal convo with Raman that thankfully pooja was not compromised and Mani found out in time..because otherwise Romi would have entered and raman would not find out about it until its too late..Again there also Mani liked and praised Raman's behaviour..Also I am not anti Ishita or anti Raman but I am also not anti Mani..I feel nobody is wrong in this scenario..and this situation will only be fruitful for Ishra relationship..and I feel if anywhere Mani crosses the line Ishita will be the first to react..

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