A guy perspective - Page 12

Originally posted by: yhm_craze

Beautiful! bang on post!👏

And why just a guy thing..I mean just imagine if tomorrow Raman's childhood friend say Sheela Kejwani (😆) pops up and Raman keeps preferring to spend time with her and unknowingly keeps praising her in front of Ishita wont she feel bad? Well Ishita was throwing things around in the bedroom just by imagining Sanjana with Raman. Everything has a limit...being friendly, sharing secrets and so on. Like what if tomorrow Raman decides to share things about his wife that only he knows with his brother Romi like Ishita shares with her sister Mihika..I remember how Raman did not show Ishita's anesthesia tantrum video to Romi and even when he desperately needed to solve his attraction towards Ishita dilemma he started telling Mihir in a round about way and stopped as soon as Mihir guessed it was about Ishita. I believe there are some things that should remain between just a husband and wife and not shared with anyone else however close you may be with that person.

Originally posted by: --mancityfan--

Your post has added another dimension to whole thing

No worries

Everyone has different views

Again let me clarify

This post is not about who is right or wrong

Yes I agree

Raman needs to change his behaviour and attitude towards ishita

If he is serious about her needs to step up

My post is about what the guy could be thinking about the whole mani ishita angle

Hopefully things will change

Originally posted by: jay_bpm

I understand where you are coming from & makes sense as guy.

But that's the problem. We guys only look at things from our narrow perspective. Female are able to incorporate other side easily.

I too hope they change soon as aa loko aapni biradari ni vaatt lagavi rahya che

Originally posted by: Bul3

If this is a guy's perspective than guys need to grow up!! I am sorry I in no way want to offend you or anyone but I find this Mani hatred totally overreaction..

Nothing is wrong in Ishita-Mani friendship..Mani has till now not crossed any limits..him knowing Ishita better is not his fault..he being concerned about his best friend is also not wrong..

Ishita praising Mani is nothing out of the world..she sometimes overdo it but it is a way of teasing Raman as well..she goes to dine out with him and friends can hang out together and it does not need to mean anything other than they are friends who enjoy each-other's company..Ishita is not hiding and meeting Mani..She tells everytime Raman when she is going out..infact she has asked him to join along too but he refused plainly..And him butting in when in hospital is totally a wrong statement..he nowhere butted in..he was there and trying to be there in need of a friend..he was not taking place of a husband but only was there as a good concerned friend.. Even when doctor was asking questions about Ishita he chose to reply because Raman had no idea about any of the questions..and even when doctor commented on it he very politely said that he is a childhood friend so he knows these stuff..It was for Raman to realize not for him to feel insulted..

His genuineness is obvious when he asks Raman to stay with Ishita while he goes and brings the file..It is then that he meets Ruhi.. Raman is worried and the only thing in his mind is Ishita so I don't understand why him bringing Ruhi needs to be taken as anything else than a sweet understanding gesture by a friend/family..

I am sorry but Raman's jealousy and the hospital scenes cannot be seen as similar..While his jealousy was to feel possessive about Ishita this is way mature scenario where he needs to acknowledge deeper things and Mani is just being a catalyst in that realization..

-PS-personal opinion and no offence..

Originally posted by: howzzat

I feel like dedicating the song, feelings from maroon 5 for raman ishita. Has anyone heard it yet?

Originally posted by: always_a_TV_fan

Res :)

Office jaana hai, will reply in detail in a couple of hours Leo

*** EDITED

Leo...

The following may sound like 'gyaan' but I cannot seem to just say agreed/disagreed to this post😆

I have 2 answers to this post... so please read both (if after reading this, you don't want to talk to me, its ok😆)

Answer 1 : If this were a post about a hypothetical man and woman, my views are:

Boundaries are present in every society, and every relationship defined by the society.

BUT, I personally believe (and l practise this too), that the limit of that boundary is defined ONLY by the 2 people in it. Be it friends or partners or siblings or parent-child.

So, if the woman is intentionally or unintentionally stretching that boundary, so much so that its making the man uncomfortable, I'd also expect the man to speak up about it.

If its too sensitive a subject, by all means give hints, but the man should not cower down and indirectly blame the woman (or even that third person) for breaking the rules. Because in his own way, he's just piling up the mistakes. 2 wrongs don't make it right

Of course, this being an hypothetical couple, I am assuming that they have an understanding (spoken or unspoken) about how far they can go without stretching their boundaries.

My answer may seem vague and too preachy, but it comes from personal experience.

Answer 2 : If this is aboutRaman & Ishita:

The Ishita I knew wouldn't do so much Mani jaap without even having an inkling of how it may seem to Raman (or for that matter her in-laws). She is a person who knows her boundaries, and she is by no means naive. and I think it's quite interesting that her Mother in Law is not around to witness this. I wonder how Toshiji would react, let alone Raman. I know Toshiji is on holiday and all, but the timing is very interesting to me

The Raman I knew wouldn't really think that his wife is better off without him. Yes, he would be extremely sensitive to the relationship between Ishita & Mani, but by now he would have shouted and screamed at the top of his lungs to get a straight answer from her.

But, like I said in your inconsistency-waala post the other day, I think the lack of depth in Mani's role (and to be fair the speed of Mani's entry into the track) is making Ishita's action and Raman's inaction both unrelatable to me

Done Leo...

aur agli baar se aise post banaao jiska one-word mein answer de sakoon. Please Leo😆

Originally posted by: --mancityfan--

Lucky

This is a pretty interesting answer

I would just give answer to both your posts

And that answer is inconsistency in writing

And characters behaving out of character

Normal ishita would not react in such a way around mani as she is pretty aware and level headed person

And yesterday got proved that cvs are forcefully fitting mani angle and made him give factually incorrect answers

So that is core of issue

And yes it is two ppl in relationship who decide the boundary of an relationship