A guy perspective - Page 9

Originally posted by: Tanyaarora11

I don't agree with your post and with due respect, I honestly don't think this can be generalised to a 'guy perspective' though I'm glad you shared your pov.
TRUE, Raman is bound to feel jealous,insecure and dejected. But still that does not give him the right to do anything and everything under the sun.
He is surely not at fault because that is his demeanour, he shouts and gets angry at people he cares for, he has a different way of showcasing his love and Ishita understands all that however, when she is on the hospital bed,How can one expect her to get into fights and stand for him and all that because in her mind, everything is normal, Mani is a friend and Raman is her husband. She trusts him completely and she expects the same from him, beyond a fun jealousy moment, such deep thoughts that she is not happy with Raman and Mani is better and all that doesn't even cross her mind. I understand that once she did compare the two in her thoughts, that I would say was a terrible fault of the CVs. What I can gauge from the current scenario is Raman realisation which is absolutely essential, not because he's been lacking in his care or love, not even because she has felt bereft of the love and care. However, it's time they took a next step and I'm loving the way Cvs are portraying that bit. What I absolutely hate is when they involve mani lusting over Ishita, that is pathetic. But mani being her best friend and knowing everything about her is but natural. Raman is no way at fault, so many husbands don't know about their wive's illness, that's justifiable. However, it's time he learned all that. This is just a way for him to take an initiative to know her better, it doesn't mean he was wrong or had been wrong. In the entire scenario, not once did I see Raman in the bad light and honestly speaking I don't think even the Cvs intended to show that. It's realisation, the way Ishita realised she should have handled the Pammi matter better. I agree that was too small a matter! But what the Cvs are trying to show that it's not necessary for the male protagonist to always be so righteous and awesome. He's a flawed character and he has more than one reason to be one. His defence mechanism is to shout at people and we all know that, and I don't even say that he should act indifferent towards her when she's in the hospital. I'm kind of sure, Ishita loves his rudeness as well. Give them some time, the moment she learns about what's going on in his mind, she'll come around and clarify. It's ISHRA after all, we've been super crazy for them, there's a reason for them to have such a sizzling chemistry and writers would never ever want to mess that.
Also, about Mani I think it's absolutely okay for Ishita to be bestfriends with him, what's wrong in that? As long as neither of them showcase lusting for each other. I really don't think she has crossed any boundaries as of now, she never hid the fact from her husband that she's meeting him or never lied to him. Well that star struck behaviour is an inherent trait of hyperness which she possesses, honestly I've been there so I know that. There is absolutely no wrong in two people of opposite sex being friends. Raman is acting like this because of his past, he's insecure and rightly said he has every right to be that because he's endured too much. That's what the writers are playing on ; her oblivion and his insecurity which will eventually commingle and give us a beautiful heartfelt conversation when things get clearer.

Thanks Tanya

You have given other viewpoint

I again repeat

This is not about what is right or wrong

This is about what a guy might think

I agree ishita has not crossed her boundaries but it is unintentionally happening

We all know mani is interested

That is where it is uncomfortable

Originally posted by: anjs

everything is maaf for apna NM cause he is 'the genius'😉

sad but true :( had it been Raman, who brought Ru, a 4 pgs lecture was ready by "bemaar" ishu 😆

Originally posted by: mnr123

Omg Vyas what have u done here,

Will reply in detail tomorow.

P.S : it works both ways -boundaries should b maintained by guys (Husbands)too after marriage.

oThis is for all the people asking us to grow up or for being opinionated-

Well this is true, we r not animals (who believe in having multiple partners) we r Human beings n we r civilized amognst the species. N Marriage was introduced as a system for this very reason that a man n a woman can come together in a matrimony and procreate. There r certain rules n civil conduct we need to follow in society unfortunately we like it or not. Same applies to marriage - having boundaries, loyalty is part n parcel of Marriage (of at least a healthy marriage). If u didnt wanted any limitations or loyalty factor in ur life y marry? Stay whole life bachelor n njoy having multiple affairs but when in marriAge u r bound by certain principles.

Very well said megha

Originally posted by: rupali_rout

I am sorry but I disagree. I don't think mani butted in. Nowhere did he comment about their marriage or their relationships. It's common yaar. Friends do ask if you are happy in a relationship. That's not wrong. I have guy friends who don't interfere until and unless needed. Mani just said Ki why yell when you can clearly solve the issue in a polite way.
If Mihir after marriage treats Mihika like this then don't you think Raman will object? Obviously he will do. We have to wait and see how this will unfold. C'mon cut ishu and mani some slack.

If he forces ishita to leave Raman, if he keeps butting in their private moments, if he keeps commenting about their relationship like Ashok then yes he is butting in. But just asking someone to behave properly is not butting in. This is my opinion and no offence to anybody.

He did comment to himself ishita deserves better

From there

His intentions are compromised

You Re comparing oranges and lemons

Mihika is family to Raman

He has a right

Here ishita whole family is there

They seem happy

So why but in

Originally posted by: MJHTMonayaSajan

I am a girl and yet I agree...I mean be it a guy or gal...the way they are showing d situations...anybody would feel jealous and unwanted...

I just hope Raman doesnot go all "I'll sacrifise Ishita for Mani" n istead goes n tells Ishita that he loves her...finally a confession from Raman...

N true...Ishita behaves like starstuck teenager on seeing Mani...its getng irritating how she s lyk "Hawww...maniii...tum bhi naaa"

Lets hope and see

Originally posted by: ...EhSaas...

Haha akhre je Ghana divas thi keva mangata hata te kahi didhu

As a generally we should stay in boundaries. Here this applied to everyone either raman or mani or ishita. Agreed raman has crosses his line many times and now ishita mani doing same.

Each and every relationship should stay in boundaries either marriage life or friendship.

Ave su karay jaya

Je kevu che te kevu pade

Originally posted by: shavi2311

suprb post...dnt knw whts going to happen bt dis is too irrititng...evry relatnshp has its own limits...betr our cv's undrstnd our views...

Very well said

Originally posted by: Colt.Pixy

Spot on vyas

even if ishita was most hurt when she was made to apologize adi and shagun, Bala did give her right direction. she asked for his help, he gave and he maintained that relations even if raman was truly jerk at that time.

Yes spot on

Bala had the right to question Raman

But he guided ishita

Lets see

Originally posted by: attiya1.3

gud one👏👏👏

thanks

Originally posted by: Megher_Palok

hadd hai... ab ek PATI apni PATNI ko daant v nahi sakta uske na khane pe?

and how come ishu didn't say anything to mani for bringing their daughter to hospital??

in amma accident, despite wanting, Ru n Shravu were kept at home. hospital isn't good for kid!

Very well said peu