Seven Vows Chapter 71page 145 - Page 77

I love technology Vipraja. Since story is in 90s I have to limit technology use as it was at that time things started, post liberalization period. I set the story in that era for the romance factor as technology would have taken away the romance of Suman-Sree by just having a secret mobile phone 😆😆.

Shruthi, people like Jithendra nd his family are in abundance in real life but what matters is the girl coming out of the trance. One of my cousin who is an advocate married one of his client who had suffered the misfortune. Even after 5 years of their marriage, the girl is unable to come out of her sadma. She has attended many counseling and he is patient and considerate and has told her that physical relationship is not all in life but the girl feel guilty for depriving him. At the same time she can't stay with him alone in closed room without lights. She know he is her husband and he will not hurt her but what happened during her teenage is still haunting her. We as a family support her but the strength to over come the fear has to come from within. If not for that one thing, she is too happy and a very good wife and DIL, Even though her husband is OK with their current status, she is unhappy but she goes rigid just with the thought of getting close to a man.

@jaya really happy to know about your cousin. It is hard for a woman, girl to come out of it and lead a normal life. They themselves has to take the step as you rightly said. And like everything you have come across lot of positive people in your life, but I have come across a lot of negative people. Have seen more oppression than independence, so such things make me happy as I see it as a beacon of hope.

@ Shruthi, it is not that I have not come across negative people or negativity but I try to diminish their effect on my regular life. As every human being even I have faced lot of negativity from the community, relatives and even at work places. But I will make it a point to face them with boldness and give it right back and then try to draw line to that problem there only./ I don't like to ponder on the negativity and spoil the essence of life. And yes I am thankful to my parents and grand parents for giving me the insight of good life and how to brave the situation.

@jaya I take perspective, but it started only short time back say 2-3 years back. And you are right when you take perspective from both sides you see things differently, and have learned to let go of many things also. Lot of heart breaks. Till then the radical feminist in me was going about shouting and rebelling. I never looked from a man's perspective beyond a point. The whole world is against woman😆😆. It is not that I didn't had positivity, but I never realized my unconscious positivity and balanced views. It was always head as heart meant weakness. I never allowed my feelings to take charge and people have told me detached, emotionally cold. Currently I listen to them and validate them because feelings is your truth. The more you suppress them , more problem you end up with. Even now I am a detached person but not as emotionally cold. When I was burned and scarred and could not have been scarred and burned more fighting, I changed tracks.

Shruthi to begin with even I was a rebellion. But once My father made me sit and asked me one question " how to get rid of mosquito which is biting your cheek". and I will give you my answer later but tell me what will be your answer then (3 years back) and now 😊

3 years back, I will hit it Jaya. If I don't get it, then again will hit it and will continue till I don't kill it. Even if the mosquito is not in my cheek and roaming around me I will observe it, go behind it.

😆😆😆😆 Sure Shruthi, I expected this answer and believe me even I gave the same answer to my papa saying I will hit it ( I was a child then, may be in class 4 or 5) and papa asked what next, I said it will die but I missed the fact that while I lift my hand to hit, within that time gap the mosquito would have flied off or escaped the impact but poor my cheek would have had to face the brunt with hand print. Again papa asked me any other way to get rid of the mosquito? Then I Realized, it just takes you to shake your head and the mosquito is gone. at times, our anger might hurt us or damage us more than the opponent.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@Jaya revolt happens when you lose something, something precious to the system for no fault of yours. Silence don't earn you things there. The loss is something you have to feel. For me I have always taken it as a signal from God that my loss is because I have passed on without looking at the pain of someone intentionally. He is making me feel that pain so that I understand it and do something about it so that if not me, someone else benefit. My battles has been always personal, but somewhere the path I walked supported some others also. Especially my younger sisters.

One of the greatest lessons I learnt is that if you fear something, you will come in front of that fear. You can either succumb to it or accept it and overcome it. Succumbing doesn't take the fear away. If it manifests in one form today, it will manifest in different form. Only if you accept those feelings and overcome it you will feel liberated.

I was afraid of Physics. I studied 4 years B-Tech in Electrical, I was afraid of drawing paper as I couldnt draw. I cleared 3 drawing papers for B-Tech. I was afraid of computer programming. I ended up in IT did programming. I was afraid of marriage. I got married and living a pretty good life with my spouse. And I know what is the next fear Lord has planned me to face. But this time I am prepared. I have accepted it. I know I cannot run away, will have to fight it out

Jaya What a simple yet effective way to deal with anger. Just shake up ourselves the way we think the way we perceive