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As I sit at work and reply to your response, the hollowness of my words really hit home, living in the moment, in the present, is an ideology we aspire to because reality, as overrated as it is, gets in the way and prohibits our true desires and inhibitions to take over. Given the chance right now instead of being at work I would be out there with family, with friends, experiencing something new to ascertain that I am indeed living life, but alas such luxuries can only be afforded by those who don't need to earn to live life - so money is that our dream or a means to an end?

The concept of feeling cheated is interesting. I have a firm belief that everything happens for a reason, we are all on this earth for a finite amount of time, and what we are here to do we will discover along the way. When we come, when we leave, these are two factors usually beyond our control and so it is perhaps best to embrace them and remember that in the end it will all be ok. If we don't hold onto that belief we will go crazy trying to understand the strange logics of this world we call home. Once a person is gone, they are just that, gone. If and how we choose to remember them is an individual's prerogative but instead of mourning a death one should celebrate the life, however long or short it may have been. It should learn from the wisdom that person left behind, understand the person and help them to live in our hearts. We never truly let go, not really, so are we really cheated?

I agree completely Delilah and I think somewhere along the way that is exactly what I was trying to say, forging a memory right now with our family and friends, in many ways epitomises the joy of life. Being cynical isn't always a bad thing, it forces you to look at the world without the rose tinted glasses. It allows you to be pragmatic, analyse and be apathetic and not get involved in whirlwinds of emotion, but be careful that it doesn't hold you back, doesn't stop you from appreciating the finite things in life which capture mesmerising beauty, whilst in its juxtaposition breathes life into your soul whilst taking a breath away. And disappointment isn't always necessarily a bad thing, sometimes it is because something better will come along (because you make it come along) or you learn from the mistake and walk away a little wiser, knowing what you need to do to help bring a ray of joy in life, even in seemingly impossible situations it will be there, you just have to look for it. (Take this from someone with plenty of experience in this area)

Everything in life is temporary and yes you may be cheated of fulfilling a dream with a person, but that dream doesn't have to die with them, their personality doesn't have to die with them, their soul can and will leave and breathe through family and friends who remember them in the strangest and loveliest of moments, because that is what love does. This is my experience and my belief, but then one of the many beauties of life is that we are all so different in our thoughts and experiences it ensures we are all individuals in this vastly populated earth, it ensures that we are us.

Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You - Dr Seuss