I like how Tanya is handling it

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Posted: 16 years ago
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I feel another debate coming over so here is my view before anything starts. Tanya is not wrong at all. I know we are going back to "they hid secrets from trish once now they are doing it to Tanya" But it's not the same.

When secret was hid from trish:

The situation was different. Tanya's hands were tied. raj made her promise while kul did everything to stop her. She tried to tell trish but Trish stopped her. I have to give it to the girl who by the way is quite weak atleast tried. Bechari suffered a lot from it. Also trish never questioned anything. She questioned Raj once after he insulted her she started taking it out. She was really mean to Tanya. The most cruel one has to be where Tanya asks her for forgiveness and she breaks the dollhouse and leaves.(thanks zubi for reminding me) Tanya broke down after it and cried holding the doll. Even after Trish got married she was mean to Tanya. She stayed mean and showed not a single emotion toward her till she found out the truth. Then all of a sudden she became an amazing sister. So is that what a sister is? be good to her when she is good to you? and forget about her when she is not good to you? Really literally forget about her.

Now that it's Tanya's turn::

Most of us agree she is the weakest of the bunch and also doesn't think. I don't really think that's the case but most of the her care for the family rules over everything. Tanya thought something is going on between Raj and trish. Now again to all the people the girl already knows they loved each other so it is MORE than that. She really thinks something is going on. Something more than hidden past feelings. She asked herself and gave it time, she actually questioned her eyes. Smart!! Trish on the other hand didn't. She asked once then cut them off. So Tanya is actually handling it in a more mature way.

Next she asked trish what's going on? trish lied.

She asked Raj what's going on? He lied!

What is the girl suppose to think when she finds them together at night and see them in the garden where Raj is touching her face! Oh yes some of us consider her dumb, what will our genius trish think if she was here? From what I have seen so far trish would start cutting more relationship or take out her fury again. Now if you are into the " yeah yeah go girl, take it out" Trish would be your role model. On the other hand Tanya is handling it with great patience. And Patience is a great virtue , not everyone posseses it. She is definitely hurt but she is not taking it out on everyone. Again I think that's a more mature way to handle it.

Last but not least Tanya has warned both of them. Tanya told her sister that he is her husband, reminding her to he is married now, but she did it in a nice way. She wasn't cruel like trish was in the past. As for Raj again she asked him to let trish live his life with Rajdeep.

So Basically she has asked them about the problem and she also told them what she wants out of it. No hidden games on her part.

As for the anger part, I thought it was adorable. She is mad, a little frustrated and upset. I always take it out on my food too. Everyone has a way of taking out their frustration and this is how she is taking it out. It's better than breaking precious doll house.

And part of reason why I think she doesn;t want to confront Raj and tell him that she feels he is lying because she respects him, she trusts him and still prays her trust is not broken, and she also doesn't want to lose him!

Now have to back! bye bye

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-dhruvi thumbnail
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Posted: 16 years ago
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I 2nd this notion 😉

&& lol i take it out on my food too, sometimes ill run and run and run till all the angers out physically and i cant do much.

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Posted: 16 years ago
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Originally posted by: indianchaklii

I 2nd this notion 😉

&& lol i take it out on my food too, sometimes ill run and run and run till all the angers out physically and i cant do much.

that's what I did yesterday!😃
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Let's get a few things straight:



Tanya's hands were NEVER tied after the trauma. People, like Tanya, are free. If she wanted to tell Trish, she would have done it--yes, I just said that. Lock her in a room, slap her across the face and tell her the truth, say it loudly in a private place over Trishna's objections, give her a letter and tell her that Yuv married her not out of love. That he loved Trishna. The decision to keep quiet was made by her, Yuv, and Kul. She could have opened that mouth of hers so fast. She could have walked away from the wedding, gotten an annulment. I'm going to posit a question I am going to beat up for: if Tanya were truly a good sister and selfless, she would have not allowed the marriage to go through or get an annulment.



Trish broke the dollhouse--so what? I pulled my sister's hair, my sister was fond of slapping me in conflicts, my brother likes to walk away. Who's better? And do you have a right to say it? And can you say my brother handled it with more patience? Because when you do not resolve things and be patient, it hurts the relationship more.



Don't worry. Tanya will become more upset and angry. But of course Tanya has a right to be this....that.... oh yes, angry. It is her right. Now, I would challenge Tanya to make Yuv fall in love with her. Telling people she wants this or that is not enough.



Why is Tanya patient? She is indecisive and not used to acting on her own. You say potato, I say po-ta-to. And I'm assuming Trishna is not. The difference in my mind is that Tanya was upset over seeing Yuv with Trish, touching her face...and she was sooooo patient and mature in the way she handled it, right? Now she knows Yuv does not love her, all she expects is for him to be committed so that they can have a life together. Now holy terror TRISHNA broke the dollhouse, gave the silent treatment. YOU KNOW WHY? Because she LOVED Yuv and he LOVED her, and they were about to get married (perhaps despite Deep), and they knew their marriage was based on love and the desire to be husband and wife in all senses. I can understand why Trish was explosive in her rage! She and Yuv were in an emotional relationship. Tanya and Yuv are in a convenient marriage...with no perks.



I know some of you take it out on your food, but really that is not the point is it? It's about being you know, SELFLESS, and putting yourself second to the innocent baby.
Edited by gp00 - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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i agree.. and even i take my anger out on food.. ahah i won't eat until i get things my way (bhok hartal!).. however, it stopped working on my mom.. after 19 years, i think she knows that after 2 days of only water (when she's not looking) i'll eat again, but only in silence, until i get what i want.. and its not like Tanya said that she'll never ever eat.. she just didnt want to eat right then.. if Raj can not eat when HIS WIFE (yes, i'm putting the emphasis on purpose - so shoot me) made him breakfast, then why should she eat when he tells her!
no thank you.. she'll eat when he's gone, and is worried sick! =))))))
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Fatima: Lol 😆
what did you do yesterday run or not eat?
gp00: I disagree, a bit. Tanya was sort of tied down. When the family thought she was uber sick they called the doctor and she said she was fine. why? b/c kul told her not to! at the marrige, she tried to take the sindoor off, raj stoped her. when the family blamed raj for messing with trishna and now tanya, she wanted to clear it up, so no one blamed him, the poor girl blamed herself for all this and still raj said no! && even if she wasnt tied down, she would have never yelled it to her di or slapped her to get her attn, she's just not that type of person. as for the annulment, the creatives would never do that, after all the show is called "vivaah" they wouldnt break such a sacred thing.
Trish was hurt and angry and she has every right to, but she still should have tried to listen to her sister, couldnt she see the tears and sadness in her di's eyes? could she do such a terrible thing to her w/o reason? i would be pissed if my sis did this to me, but i would at least give her a chance to explain herself, and then judge whether to forgive her or not. i wouldnt jump to conclusions and say oh i will never forgive you. i know you'll be hurt but does it really kill you to just listen for a second? that's what bugged me. you can't give you own di you've know your whole life one teensy bit of a chance to clearfy herself? so to me trish breaking the dollhouse was kind of a big deal. she just basically broke off all ties to her. && your right, me and sister fight each other all time sometimes (once in a blue moon)it gets physical and your right, no one can say which is right and wrong till you have been in the person's shoes.
As for Tanya she's not trying to make yuv love her, she is in no way saying she want yuv to love her. she just want him to trust her and her to trust him, she doesnt want him breaking it, she prays he doesnt do anything to make her break the trust. She's upset about what saw, actually not upset but bothered, not in a jealous way, but b/c she's hurt that they cant go to her and discuss whatever, that they have to hid out like this. She knows Yuv doesn't love her in a romatic way. But he does love her as a friend, as her "savior" protecting hubby way. From that she just wants him to be able to come to her and tell whatever that is bothering him, is that so bad to ask? No! && She's not putting herself above the baby, she was just being stubborn for a moment.
bibbo: yeah i do that too, i wont eat (but when mommy's not around or anyone else in the house, i sneak it. My mom eventually after an hr or so makes me eat, && after much discussed lecture-her pov-i get my way)
&& your right she never said i will never eat the food. she's just being stubborn as her hubby is. im sure it wasnt to neglect her baby, it was just a "oh you wont eat this lovely breakfast i made you when im telling you, fine i can be stubborn too i wont eat it when your telling me to eat it" and im sure she ate after he left.
Edited by indianchaklii - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Originally posted by: indianchaklii

Fatima: Lol 😆
what did you do yesterday run or not eat?
gp00: I disagree, a bit. Tanya was sort of tied down. When the family thought she was uber sick they called the doctor and she said she was fine. why? b/c kul told her not to! at the marrige, she tried to take the sindoor off, raj stoped her. when the family blamed raj for messing with trishna and now tanya, she wanted to clear it up, so no one blamed him, the poor girl blamed herself for all this and still raj said no! && even if she wasnt tied down, she would have never yelled it to her di or slapped her to get her attn, she's just not that type of person. as for the annulment, the creatives would never do that, after all the show is called "vivaah" they wouldnt break such a sacred thing.
Trish was hurt and angry and she has every right to, but she still should have tried to listen to her sister, couldnt she see the tears and sadness in her di's eyes? could she do such a terrible thing to her w/o reason? i would be pissed if my sis did this to me, but i would at least give her a chance to explain herself, and then judge whether to forgive her or not. i wouldnt jump to conclusions and say oh i will never forgive you. i know you'll be hurt but does it really kill you to just listen for a second? that's what bugged me. you can't give you own di you've know your whole life one teensy bit of a chance to clearfy herself? so to me trish breaking the dollhouse was kind of a big deal. she just basically broke off all ties to her. && your right, me and sister fight each other all time sometimes (once in a blue moon)it gets physical and your right, no one can say which is right and wrong till you have been in the person's shoes.
As for Tanya she's not trying to make yuv love her, she is in no way saying she want yuv to love her. she just want him to trust her and her to trust him, she doesnt want him breaking it, she prays he doesnt do anything to make her break the trust. She's upset about what saw, actually not upset but bothered, not in a jealous way, but b/c she's hurt that they cant go to her and discuss whatever, that they have to hid out like this. She knows Yuv doesn't love her in a romatic way. But he does love her as a friend, as her "savior" protecting hubby way. From that she just wants him to be able to come to her and tell whatever that is bothering him, is that so bad to ask? No! She she's not putting herself above the baby, she was just being stubborn for a moment.
bibbo: yeah i do that too, i wont eat (but when mommy's not around or anyone else in the house, i sneak it. My mom eventually after an hr or so makes me eat, && after much discussed lecture-her pov-i get my way)
&& your right she never said i will never eat the food. she's just being stubborn as her hubby is. im sure it wasnt to neglect her baby, it was just a "oh you wont eat this lovely breakfast i made you when im telling you, fine i can be stubborn too i wont eat it when your telling me to eat it" and im sure she ate after he left.

I ran yesterday!😃 felt so good! But I often go on bhook hartals when I don't get my way.😆 I cry too!
I agree with everything you said. Sure Tanya's hands weren't literally tied down but there were lots of things that stopped her from telling trish. As for Trish I can't say it enough times. Yes she had every right to be mad. But what got to me was that do you really care about yourself THaaaaaat much where you wouldn't see the pain in your sister's eyes for a second. She cried and begged infront of you couple of times. Atleast let her speak. I am all about my sister so maybe that's why it bothered me so much. And the dollhouse meant a lot to me too. It stood for the sister's relationship from childhood to present. I actually consider it more precious than any love for a guy. And Trish shattered it (literally) in a second without looking at it twice. It was cruel!
I dont think Tanya dares to hope for love. But she is used to his company now. he makes her happy. She wants him by her side and she is scared she might lose him to trish. Literally lose him. She can't question his heart since she already knows he loves trish. More is at stake here.
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Posted: 16 years ago
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I agree that tanya is dealing this matter with maturity... and if she is lil upset thats her right she cant be submissive to yuv all the time.......thats her reaction.......and also she tried to support her sis infront of rajdeep.... also she gave warning to trish... and next day she was very nice with yuv....... she didnt just jump and attacked him or trish.. she wanted answer from trish...she trusts raj.. its pretty clear...... its not a trust issue... she is reacting to what she is seeing and she was much polite ...... trish never went to tanya to ask what happened she wanted answer from Yuv.... and also tanya didnt attack her... she supported her..... that shows that she still loves and cares for her sister........she didnt show her anger infront of others....(rajdeep)
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Since we talked about the dollhouse so much here is the doll episode for anyone who didnt see it? seriously Tanya was in pain. That girl was in pure anguish. My heart broke for Tanya! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DXk-W9R6fjI

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Posted: 16 years ago
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how can u say tanya is betteR? seriosuly
you say tanya is right in being angry and being rude to trish. okay lemme tell you this;
- tanya got mad just coz she saw raj-trish today (who were ex-lovers and it was because of trish's love tht raj married "her sister") you say tht it is okay for her to do that BUT trishna doesnt have a right to be mad and angry when her sister and her boyfriend show up at her doorstep "married"?????what??
- tanya could have spoken the truth to trishna anytime she wanted. i refuse to believe tht she dint get a chance, like gp00 said, she could have locked the door slapped smacked done something to her to make her stay and say the truth to her. you wanted trishna to come up to tanya after she sees her married with her boyfriend and ask her "hey why did u marry my boyfriend, did u get raped by any chance"? i mean i dont mean to sound rude but is that what a good sister means in your eyes??
- you say tanya is a better sister i say baloni!! trish found out yuv-tanya were married, she got mad at BOTH OF THEM and rightfully so. tanya saw yuv-trish together, n she just got mad at trish and went to serve food to HER HUSBAND, is that what a good sister does??
trishna is so much of a better sister than tanya!
Edited by crazyfan - 16 years ago

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