Today was proof what Baby means to Tappu ! - Page 8

Originally posted by: sonali_dg

Honestly Krystal, I ain't here to prove my intelligence. The way you've judged me, I can do the same to you. You have used choicest of words to disrespect me and insult me. I am not going to take that.

AS YOU ARE ENTITLED TO YOUR OPINION SO AM I. YOU ARE NONE TO PASS RANDOM JUDGMENTS ABOUT ME.

The other day you did the same with Anmol didn't you?

P.S. If you have no opinion on the main topic, then get an opinion and talk about it, maintaining limits of decency. Education and culture are not just about typing in English and operating a Computer!

Originally posted by: serialjunkie

What a debate!!

If we can solve this here, it would resolve issues for women world over forever!.

Jokes apart, use of childcare services for children as young as 3-months is a highly personal and painful choice for many. I know single mothers who thought they were in a solid relationship when they decided to have the baby but were later divorced or single and had to support the baby by working. They have no choice but to go back to work force asap and find alternative care for children.

For as long as childcare system is well placed and provides safe, comfortable and enlightening environment for the child, it cannot be automatically perceived wrong. Its about offering choices for women who have to work for financial reasons. However, I would not pass judgment on women who want to pursue their career after babies are born as long as they are responsible parents and provide safe environment for the babies. In many european countries men get maternity leave just as long in duration as women because companies understand that child rearing responsibilities could be taken over by man or woman of the house.

We expect women to be the primary care givers however, there is nothing wrong in a woman wanting to be back at job while the man takes care of the baby. Babies respond well to any touch be it mothers or fathers. Every family is different and every family must find its balance.

Before motherhood, I had these grand notions about being mothers etc. But life has taught me that nothing about motherhood is simple or comes defined straight from a book. You improvise learn and hope you dont do any permanent damage. LOL.

As far as divorce is concerned, we see more divorce rates in india because women have chosen to react to unjust and unfair expectations from them. Just look at our parents marriages and see how often our moms made silent sacrifices so our dads could have a better career and we could get hot meals everyday. Mothers sacrificed their individuality and identity to be known as someone's wife or someone's mother. While many accepted this as their inevitable reality, I have seen several brilliant and intelligent women had to give up their dreams of doing something they are passionate about to tend to a man-not of her choosing to being with.

But these days, women have choices. And when families including husbands, in-laws and relatives fail to acknowledge this, many women choose divorce. Again, men choose to divorce too, but we always end up blaming the women.

Choices make every relationship voluntary. But this is the best form of relationships because nothing is forced on anyone and everyone stays with full cognition of what they want from the relationship.

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

If you read very minutely through my post, then you'll see that NOWHERE have I posted anything directly in reference to YOU. All the adjectives used by me have been accorded to your views and NOT you. And that, I believe, is the way a debate is done.

About Anmol, it was the same thing---I poked fun at his stance on fictional characters and you'd jumped in there as well with your accusations of "Personal Attack" when there wasn't any. Clearly you're not used to debating.

And let me reiterate once more...that what you'd said in your original post

This is Clearly offensive. If you've the right to post something as incredulous as this, then its within my full rights to try and negate it in the harshest possible manner that I can.

PS: Yeah, I've chosen not to have any opinion on the particular topic of this thread, and that is my call.

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

^^ I think you should first try to work out the differences between criticising someone's views and criticizing that person with the views. The boundaris are often thin...but they have to be sometimes, for the sake of debate. Perhaps you should've concentrated more on Logic than on Maths 😉

Originally posted by: sonali_dg

And talking of poking fun, that signature under your posts, that cheap sentence is your idea of fun is it? 👎🏼👎🏼👎🏼

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

^^ I think you should first try to work out the differences between criticising someone's views and criticizing that person with the views. The boundaries are often thin...but they have to be sometimes, for the sake of debate. Perhaps you should've concentrated more on Logic than on Maths 😉

Whoops...sorry, but I don't see you really Debating anyone, at least not Debate in a real sense.

PS: thanks for the compliment, I'm a fan of dramatics, literature and Drama were my favs in High School. 😃😆