Today was proof what Baby means to Tappu ! - Page 12

Originally posted by: IisBliss

i agree with u sonali... its an individual 's circumstance and choice... nothing is right or wrong as everybody's aspirations, situation and priorities are all different.

and i more so agree with ur point that one of the reasons that divorce rates have climbed steeply in today's india is certainly the unwillingness to compromise... i have no doubts in my mind abt it ...

wht was indian women's strength in yester-generations is now labelled slavery/ lack of self esteem by the youngsters today!! u call it slack values or woman empowerment, but its the truth...

by saying this i dont intend to say that the onus is on women to upold a relationship... but women have additional responsibility which comes naturally with the the blessing they have - their emotional strength and resilience..

Originally posted by: ankit111

i think in practical, its very difficult to generalise any theory, becoz its depend on individual preferences and conditions. but one thing is sure, nothing can replace parents caring. but due to financial situations and other preferences some parents cant afford sitting with baby and we cant criticize thm too. but one thing i m sure if u can afford, u must care ur kids urself atleast few yrs, but again this is my personal POV. i m only against if anyone make it status or modernity symbol. in practical its not always possible to do ,wht sd be ideal and u hv to do a lot of compromises.

Originally posted by: _Invincible_

well said ankit

but i just feel dat if due to financial reasons parents cant afford to sit wid baby den wats d use of earning dat money which dey r in turn handing over to baby sitters'?
and why to plan family extension at first if ur pocket doesnt allow?????
i mean dere is a lot of financial pressure once a baby is born so shouldnt we secure ourselves first?

though its just my pov and reaons and decisions of others may b right acc. to dem...

Originally posted by: _Invincible_

Hmmm
quite a controversial and interesting topic ...lemme put in my 1 penny(recession time)😆

regarding day care...and Nothing can come close to the love that a mother feels for her children...and here in western countries no doubt day care facilities r much better but still dey dont treat ur child as special as u treat ur baby...and every baby is special and needs to gets its share...i m a mom and i used to work before my baby was born but i dumped work 4 my baby coz i believe d schooling starts right wen d baby is born...i can bear her fussiness,weird tantrums for nth limit but not d others...most important fact is dat I BELIEVE dat 1 should not have baby untill dey cant care 4 d babies demselves or dere near and dear ones...
as i dont believe dat dumping ur child in day care and u taking up job is sign of being progressive/modern...

day care will teach kids facts, theories or laws, reform or amuse them or make them excel academics but not to unsettle their minds, widen their horizons, inflame their intellect, teach them to think straight, if possible, but to think nevertheless.

regarding mother/father parenting...baby is flesh and blood of both...so both need to play equal role in bringing up d child...i agree wid concept of father helping in bringing up d child but not sole father...i mean why it has to b like only 1 parent can work and other will baby sit kid?
both can divide and equalise d time for work and baby and here in west every next door family is successful in creating dat equilibrium...where both mom and dad work and raise kids without letting dere kids b sole responsibility of baby sitters...yeah its kinda hard 4 ur social life but who cares 4 social life wen it comes to good child upbringing...
and every1 specially NRI's is not lucky to have a hubby who will b ready to baby sit kid and let u earn bread and butter 4 dem and infact we ourselves will not like dat fact...so both need to stand up at all d fronts...

Both MALE and FEMALE should have equal choices and it shouldnt b one sided affair coz dats a cause of frustration and broken marriages 4 sure...

Originally posted by: ankit111

u know sometime people think tht by earning more they can create better conditions for their kids. but sometime in this process they push away their kids from thmself and kids start treating thm like ATM😆😆

Originally posted by: ankit111

u know sometime people think tht by earning more they can create better conditions for their kids. but sometime in this process they push away their kids from thmself and kids start treating thm like ATM😆😆

Originally posted by: sonali_dg

Ankit 👏 This and your previous posts 👏👏👏 simply to the point. Thats what I was trying so say from so long. If you are financially not sound and out of majboori you are going to work -- I fully respect and support such parents. But when you are happy and content with money, just for those extra lakhs, your "individuality", your modernity, your own personal life you want to ditch your kid And as Pooja rightly said, why should you give birth if you cannot afford it? This exact mentality-- social pressures... ek kaam khatam kar daal na hai.. isliye? And I have seen worser mothers who ditch their kids to enjoy their social life of parties/ pubs/ shopping/ events etc.. I have practically seen women who dont want to breast feed because they are scared they'll ruin their figure 👎🏼 I condemn such acts.

Originally posted by: ankit111

Sonali, my post in BV abt parents was only for the parents, which created some uproar, was for the parents, who do a lot of compromises for their kids and not for those who ditch their kids and enjoy the parties, so naturally their kids ditch thm latter😆

Originally posted by: sonali_dg

@ Pink-- Are you feeling insecure by any chance?😳

@ Blue-- you love contradicting don't you? You ask me to "Grow up, man. Grow up! 😆"
1. I am not a man 😆
2. What are those after the exclamation? That too 4 of 😆 in a row 😳
3. What is "La la la la...😛" ??
"Never heard that word before, what is it? An Alien Weed? 😕"
4. Point number 2 completely contradicts point number 3 😆

Haven't you heard the collquial term, "Oh man..."? If not, then you're so lost.