@ the Bold~~sachi bolu toh i relate on a personal level yaar...my Mom was from small town in India, Gurdaspur & had dreamz to become doctor, lekin due tight financial home situation couldn't...then got married to my Dad in Amritsar...she never wanted to leave her home country par after the '84 situation she took that step...came here and she'z made so many strugglez thru life i saw 2 raise me & now my priority i felt iz 2 stand my ground and despite our culture rulez, i being a dauther wanna take care of Her like how a son does...So, when i'd caught this one episode of Child Iccha scene w/ Amu giving encouragement 4 joining english school---THAT"S what initially drew me to this show...as sometimes i honestly do feel yaar ke my Mom is living her dream thru me, and so at any cost i have to finish my education and so these next months carry my Life's mission...
Long story short....i really yearned 2 see this in Iccha, not for making a career & standing ground to show off anything par just for herself & Amu's sake....and quite honestly i think if she'd just made even a tiney tiny place for her Maa and self to live at, many thingz coulda been avoided w/ Tapu situation & her Maa still coulda worked in haveli. If creators had carried show out this way, believe me i feel they coulda STILL made it interesting while keeping this storyline:-/
cuz Tapu in my eyez, i could carry sympathy 4 going thru her child phase, as not everyone in Life has a big enough giving heart towards others, so fine that was understandable human nature kicking in to the effect by Nani, but NOT entirely as we're influenced by our surroundings and INNER SELF too. SO Yess granted that indirectly Iccha (with a positive intention) and directly Nani (w/ negative intentions) did impact the Child Tappu LEKIN SHE ISSSS RESPONSIBLE 4 HER ACTIONZ. Because regardless of any pressure, if u'd switched Iccha in Tapu's place, she wouldn't have been insecure nor harsh. BUT STILL, IF U DNT STAND 4 SUMTIN, U CAN FALL 4 ANYTHING--THROUGH OUR ACTIONZ & LACK OF WE ARE ULTIMATELY THE VERY ROOT CAUSE OF OUR OWN HAPPINESS / UN-HAPPINESS---& this goes for both Tappu & Iccha, (even goes toward Umedji's relation w/ allowing(=indirectly goading) Mai's wrongs)!!!----both of the unrealistic extremes of positive(Icha) and negative(Tapu) that they've shown on this show, as i've stated before......cuz that'z where i dnt admire ALL the thingz about Iccha--->via covering up negativity/evil acts, ur indirectly supporting and allowing it to take place, and there'z no justification 4 that nor is this any positive admirable trait as per the laws of Humanity or any Religion...& seee it'z also EXACTLY why ALL the thingz she does (despite her "positive" intent) actually turn out super distasterous!!!!!!!!!!
Nonetheless, Nani's like many typical jealous desi ladies i can say in today's households, lekin Tapu actually crossed limits to think Murder----& to be in that mindset (medically speaking), a person is at the point of needing help and therapy. As i can relate to the Amu Iccha situation, some people may actually relate themselves to Tapu due to some point of happening in their lives and hence might attempt to justify it for the sake of their sanity....and i can understand that, but it'z not a healthy state of mind because despite any justifications Truth remains Truth and two wrongz never become a right...Like terrorist/criminal individuals, in my hospital rotations i've seen that such negative people usually have had some hurt childhood / past aka their reasonz 4 taking it out on the world. If you observe closely Tapu isn't just negative towards Iccha, just look at how she's rudely treated waiters or people of service at the hotel she stayed--in general she's grown into a very destructive personality, overall i can see diagnosis of borderline, narsisstic personality traits in her due her development of underlying insecurities
Our path is greatly shaped by our childhood--All in all, even if you were to take a look at babies--they each possess a God-given personality at birth~~this + our social upbringing period by family, friends, mentors, society, school are experiences and the numerous factors which play a role into the outcome of who we are & how we react, behave, or handle situations/obstacles w/ our family, life partner, kids etc..so on and so forth..
And when such insecure minds enter marriages, it will prove to be a shaky foundation where they suffer due to an unstable base because the mind's easily misguided n drawn to different vibrations, good or bad...
~People mistake their glittery relationships for substantial marriage material n get married under their illusions that a person w/ mere few cord connections to the heart & body are their "Soulmate"...such marriages cannot be stable, enjoyable and harmonious, until we seek the true soulmate. Every other criterion can at best hold secondary as today people lack the ability to even differentiate btwn "like & love" and if you marry for convenience, beauty, career groW*H, that is what you will get. There are hardly any chances that you will discover "True" love and ecstasy in your relationship bec. the mind's easily misguided n drawn to different vibrations, good or bad...and as the changeable mind is the biggest culprit it slowly realizes the closeness of common interests and motivations that brought them together is not compatible as solid a foundation both considered it to be & once the mind realisez that interests and objectives are just mental games of fluctuation---THIS is where whole foundation of marriage itself collapses. People in seemingly right(which are Obviously Not) relationships of the time in our modern-day society get compelled into marriage bec. desire and guilt are like the two sides of a coin. As long as the desire exists, the guilt will also exist and vice versa & in this dangerous play of the mind where people naively enter such marriages.....In fact, these are the very marriages, which often lack love. We should start to call them fascination marriages cuz it'z the very reason whyy the most promising of these relationships lose their charm & deteriorate overtime. True Bliss--which's not attached to anything else & is unbelievably powerful in itself...this is "true immortal love" and how great love's were achieved back in the times like heerRanjha, lailamajnu, sonimahiwal, etc who simply (w/o insecurities/agendas) became attracted, connected, and felt each other more and more with increasing and overflowing love for each other...that connection even minus the physical aspect was yet so strong in itself that see how powerfully it connected them...
~SO, if we delve deeper into the reasons of polarity--we realize that as the mind works at a gross level, functioning of the soul is very subtle
~where individuals of today who fail to differentiate btwn like & love...put themselves subconsciously on a path of soul weakening..
~where emotional dependency's subconsciously misunderstood as love...& it rules the strongest of us, the most determined of us..
~where one's own incompletion with themselves drives them in the process to attain that fullfilment subconsciously at the expense of their individuality...hence real love cannot happen 2 them due the phenomenon of this mechanism...& hence furthermore this is how the even so-called-deep love falls apart with the passage of time..
~if we're lucky we realize that in the face of everything, in the face of life who the real culprit is...............it is so sad that people fall in love, when they have the potential to rise...
***BASICALLY~my overall point is---> that All happiness (in itz True essense) comes from the desire for others to be happy, All misery comes from the desire for oneself to be happy....for we become what we behold. If the love within your mind is lost, you slowly begin seeing your own as others and others beings as enemies, then no matter how much knowledge or education or material comfort you have, only suffering and confusion will ensue. You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than yourself, your family/friends and you will not find that person anywhere...start w/ spreading light on your surroundings (for thousands candles lcan be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened for Happiness & Love never decreases by being shared...) and spread out to the universe with overflowing love to all beyond you..
btw: anything written can be interpreted n felt a million diff. ways, unless the reader is on the same page as that of the person writing it...........either way, yet this can all be a beautiFull array of dimensionz in itself:)
heheheeee hope i made some sense in the essay above LOL i think coming back from the exam had my drive on a Non-stop mode
PHEWWWWWWW********Okie taping my lil fingerz for a while & finishing organizing my room....advance apologiez if spoken sometin outta line...
Edited by simran777 - 14 years ago
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