Does cheating have redemption? - Page 4

Originally posted by: Ashviniv

Cheating is a choice and since cheating doesn't leave any physical mark it's still not termed as crime and is not punishable by law. But does that make it any less an offsence?then no. It actually Robs the partner of their confidence, self worth,ability to trust self and others and respect. It can take lifetime before getting these things back or not

Many a times partners accept the partner if he/she apologized or for below reasons in majority cases

1. Children are involved. They don't want their child to choose or loose a parent

2. Financial stability or independence

3. Societal or family pressure or no family support

4. Sense of security. If a single woman stays alone she might be considered as easy meat after she is been cheated on by husband

5. ONS under questionable circumstances like under the influence or something

I am not sure how much love or trust is there after te relationship again starts. Personally I won't be able to accept a cheater as I will never be able to trust that person.

Now in this serials case, Fateh has realised his mistakes, trying to understand the pain others got and sure he can build his life and be a better person and he deserves that but whether Fatejo should be together I am not convinced at all

Tejo has known Fateh for 2 months before their marriage, out of 6 months of their marriage he was cheating for almost 5 months.When things were not going his way he gaslighted her, assumed she is of less character to feel good about himself. Tejo didn't know this initially so sure she fell in love but looking bk she should relate all these things and understand how he treated her and then decide what should be her stand. A relationship doesn't survive only with love and lac of respect and trust. On the other hand a relationship having respect,trust and honesty cn survive beautifully even without so called love.

I am not getting that clip of new dhadkan serial dialogue. "Pyaar ki baat nahi, baat respect ki hai"

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CXlgggms6Qr/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

here is this clip nd awesome comments below it..👍🏼

Originally posted by: Aniash

Well written on the situations.👍 It differs individually.

But for fatejo part i will disagree . Pardon me for that. Just my pov.

they were not written well with jasfa glorified too much. That's the reason why people find it difficult to accept them fully

On top of that jasmin non stop interference.

Tejo and angad were written beautifully initially so they garned a lot of attention but unfortunately the writers ruined them with fake engagement crap. Should have made it a short simple beautiful journey. He becomes her supporter and then leave. Another relationship wasn't required too fast.

The problem is they rush into things . Greedy for trps. Now face the consequences.

I like fatejo those days before EMA . I still like their chemistry but i need a strong story to ship them again.

They need to restart the jodi onc e again so viewers can accept them fully

I hope they will restart Fatejo story.

Originally posted by: Aniash

Me too

Hopefully with olden days

I can't forget that scootie scene 🤣🤣🤣

Yes

They can have so many cute scenes 🥰

Originally posted by: Chir-Cute

I have a curious question. A lot of us have talked about Fateh and his proper redemption etc, but, my question is, does cheating on your partner actually have any sort of redemption? Cheating is a choice, never a mistake so does it really have redemption? If so, what form of redemption are we talking about? Thoughts on this please.

Also, clean discussion will be much appreciated 🙏

Indian serials only have one theme forgive not only cheating but insult of any level done by hero as he realized he was wrong because person he loved wasn't what hero thought. Like jesmine loved her dream more than him. Otherwise feteh ever thought what he did to tejo. For tejo feteh is ashamed is enough 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Same track for making ml love like her ranjha they ruined jesmine than angad character 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. This serial have nothing. When I will again watch ish pyaar ko Kya Naam do 1 or geet type serial again. Now a days cheaters trending as hero.

Originally posted by: Marathi_Mulgi

it could have redemption if one would have return back on way of redemption before it's sins cross limits then it may easy to forgiving him. Only ibadati ishq can get redeem at such fast speed.

here with fateh it was acceptable if he would have back out when tejo got shot but after that also he continued with his ibadati ishq and acusing tejo for butejo affair. still she is having fb of only his lovey dovey memories which i can't digest. All redemption what they shown is so quick and he is protecting tejo from jasso then he is the one who left her loose knowing all what can she do against tejo (bring back jass)

about have love with him and can't move on she herself not followed any rule told by herself to him for move on. if one can not move on in life but can proceed his/her life further with all career or other life living things and can get into love 2nd time if get good partner.

they rushed and ruined angad's character just like to show a small line big make another big line they made him psycho, negative to minimize feteh's cheating effect. instead of this wasting of time they should meet fatejo asap and end the torture of viewers.

once i was also fatejo fan and felt bad for them now evenif they would show restarting fatejo love story the feel will not the same or that cuteness will not be there. when fateh said 'woh bhi muze shiddat wala pyar karti hai' it feel saying him why are you again spoiling pyar word

That all I also wanted to say. For me ftejo died as this serial

Originally posted by: Ashviniv

i dont believe love happens only once. thats a myth tbh. you can fall in love multiple times.

just because you love someone you cannot ignore their mistakes or sins which can lead you to heartbreaks and sadness and pain again and again.

Cheating robs you of your self confidence and ability to trust. you will always think 'was i not good enough' just saying sorry and apology can get one's confidence back? also what is a guarantee that the person wont cheat again.

Plus the relationship wont be an organic one like before,it will have lost its charm

'Gath agar pad jaaye to phir rishte ho ya dori, laakh kare koshish khulane ko waqt to lagta hai'

yeh agreed with you

and @bold true said and gath khul bhi gayi toh bhi wahi original wala charm toh nahi rahega

Originally posted by: Chir-Cute

Interesting points you guys. 😊

While I have never had second thoughts on forgiving a person if I felt that they genuinely mean well after apologising. Taking them back or making them my part of life has been the challenging part. Of course, it's all about the choices of the individuals about how they decide to go about that as well but, I for one noticed that I can never see them in the same light as before. Trusting them again, is totally another story altogether. I had my fair share of heartbreak due to being cheated on especially when the core foundation of the relationship had been based on the trust that if ever, one of us felt that the relationship was not working, we could talk about it and part amicably without causing unnecessary hurt to another. Nevertheless, shit happened. It's been years since that and I no longer have any grudge against that person. I have always maintained cordial relations with him due to our very close-knit friends' circle and also because we knew each other's families, so that too. I knew he tried his best to begin afresh and bounce back in my life by constantly proving that he had changed, and while I respected the change he brought in himself a certain part of me didn't budge at all. Like @Ashviniv said, it was no longer a matter of love, it became a matter of self-respect.

As for redemption, definitely, the cheating party decides how to go about it. Getting forgiveness is the victim partner's choice and how they go on from there is absolutely them and no one else with or without forgiveness.

The point being of that little TB, I just wanted to know what goes into the minds of the other partner, if and when they do decide to give the cheating partner a 2nd chance. Is it just a choice, love or something else? Let's assume that finance, children etc are not the factors here. I am just trying to understand that mindset. I am not even sure if what am asking for even makes sense. Had you been Tejo, what would have been your line of action?

I am sorry that you have to go through such situations in your life and very proud that you have taken right decision in your life.

If I have been Tejo I would have completed my P.hd, I would have rejected Jass's proposal and no matter how much my father Rupi try to pressure me in getting married to my sister's two year stalker/lover for my family's respect.

Coming to the most important point EMA, due to my job in state govt. I have come across many such cases.

Case 1: A man had multiple partners and he had no sign of shame to tell that publicly.His wife stuck to him thinking he would change if she gets pregnant. To her suprise He left his pregnant wife in her maternal home and didn't pay visit to her after that. Later she came to know that he never wanted to marry her as he was already in love with another woman. He only used her for giving grandchild to his parents from woman of their choice and left as soon as she beared his child. She lodged a complaint in Police Station and they are still dealing with this case. Woman doesn't want to give the child to him. She wants to divorce him and live with the child alone. Here woman is not even educated she chose to open a small shop and now doing well with support of locals.

In this case the guy never liked her from the very start of their relationship. He just played his game very well and ditched her. He just took her for granted.

Case 2:

This is my colleague's experience.He was in relationship with a girl for 8 years. I have known him for two years now due to my job. We work in different departments but in our office we all gather during lunch. One common thing he says everyday is that how he wants to marry his GF and live a happy life. During COVID second wave my family and I entire family suffered from COVID delta variant. We were both financially and mentally troubled. I took one month medical leave and when I resumed to my work I have come to know that my friend is seriously depressed and tried to harm himself many times. His GF kept him in dark that she was marrying someone else and when he confronted her she denied about marriage. But that 🤬 got married two days later. He was devastated.

In this case the woman two timed her BF with whom she is emotionally attached and her family who are financially supporting her even now. Here she chose money over the emotions.

There are still various experiences but I don't want to elaborate post. Cheating happens when the person thinks he/she is doing nothing wrong by choosing what he wants. It happens when he/she disrespects the partner and relationship. He doesn't acknowledge the importance of his/her in relationship and thinks he is doing some kind of sacrifice by not telling them his/her's partner's that they are cheating. This is what I have observed mostly.

I think if someone take you back. That person is a very strong-minded and compassionate enough to give you a second chances, don't abuse it. It's not a weakness to love your spouse unconditionally we are human that's where the weakness is we have urges and needs we need to be able to Communicate all are needs to our spouse partners or significant others God Bless you all

I hope it works out for them.

Reconciliation is a beautiful thing, and I have seen couples successfully navigate this. I am glad for them.

But I don’t think it is easy, and I don’t think reconciliation is always the right answer it always depends on your own circumstances and experience, nobody should/can help it this.

It is only them who has right to decide what they want and what they need and how they can trust back.

I will answer it straight. Since you asked cheating is a choice , can it be redeemed.

Answer is : Yes

Explaination : Life is long and some choices can be changed/corrected once you realise that they are wrong in right time. Cheating is one of them. Now coming to partner who got cheated. Well it's his or her decision if they want to give their relationship a second chance. They can decide on the basis of damage done. If it has caused you enough emotional /physical torture, you have all right to file a case. If you realise loosing that person will cause more damage to you better give it a chance. Or simply break up and take your time or just move on if you can.

None of aforesaid choices makes the victim selfish , arrogant , doormat ,shameless or despo. Important is your mental peace and your priorities in life.

Well in itvs that matters.

Only their leads

Nothing else.

Trp slopping.

Looks like people doesn't want them together