Tejo's fault

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I just started dis show by binge watching all episodes bcz I liked Fatejo . After yesterday's precap I am kind of repenting hving found this show.

The promo has kind of made me feel so restless. I feel so heartbroken for Tejo. It bothers me that she has to face so much humiliation at the hands of the person who once claimed to be her best friend. What did she even do to deserve so much hatred and ill treatment ?

Den I got it. Yes Tejo is definitely at fault. It's her fault that she meddled in the lives of two very stubborn and selfish people. If it wasn't for Tejo , probably Fateh and Jasso would never even have come together. It was Tejo who would made the idiot Fateh understand Jasso and her dreams ( clearly not enough) . It was her who made attempts to make Jasso see how much Fateh loved her. If it wasn't for her Jasso would hv rejected him on first instance bcz he didn't have Canada Ka visa. She did so much for these two people to come together and this is how she is being repaid. Everyone forgot everything. She is getting paid for being selfless , for caring for family , for friends , for being responsible and level headed.

And Fateh and Jasso are even blaming her for the marriage. Jasso left the Mandap on the day of marriage. Refused to come back down ......but again dts also on Tejo somehow.....bcz she didn't try hard enough.

Fateh dragged Tejo to the Mandap and basically implanted that idea into his parents's head but again dt is also somehow Tejo's fault coz she agreed to the marriage seeing her father almost getting a stroke. Even after all dt she waited for Fateh's answer before giving her approval. Still the guy blames her. Bcz he was heartbroken , so it can't be his doing at all.

And I don't get one thing.....if Fateh still wants to pursue Jasmine and if he is confident he can win her back......he might as well try dt , instead of humiliating Tejo every day. I don't think Tejo even has any expectations from the marriage at this point. She being herself won't even say a word if he divorces her and marries Jasmine the next day. But no the guy won't even do dt. He can't convince Jasso , so let's take it out on the easy target.

Sorry for the rant. But I felt so bad for Tejo. I feel her so burdened by others dreams and responsibilities so much dt the girl hardly has time to dream for herself.

I hope this show is heading somewhere better from here. Can't keep seeing the insults being thrown at her.

I really wish writers do justice to tejo character....

I want her be done with after wedding rituals and find a nice job (do not keep crying and blaming her own fate...etc) .... make her career.... focus on her own life.... take help of fateh's father if needed..... and ignore fateh 100%

(Yes I meant it - he deserves it, delusional dumbo.... do not deserve anyone's care / sympathy .... live alone love).

Let fateh come on earth from the cloud & repent.... accept reality and.... understand...how difficult tejo's life is...

On side note:

girls.... never be delighted or proud or marry a man who goes against his own father - mother and family to marry you..... even though it is fascinating .... like tejo was praising fateh's love...... in real life it is a red flag.

If a man is going against family for you or anything else...means is NOT listening to anyone ... does not care of family member's feelings.... very soon you can be in that family members, too...

in future if he does some terrible mistake.... or worse even falls for... some one else.... he would NOT listen or care of his parents advise or share anything with.......

Tejo has done no wrong. She doesn't deserve this treatment from Fateh. I am disappointed by her upholding Fateh's love over Jasmine's dream though. It isn't Jasmine's fault that Tejo had to marry Fateh. Had Satti not lied in the Canada ball & the family would have not been so desperate for Canada (barring Tejo and Abhiraj) and investigated Jas , Tejo wouldn't have to forcibly marry Fateh to save the family 'izzat'. It is Satti and Rupy's fault. I don't like the way they pressure Tejo and Jasmine all the time. I am proud of Jasmine for choosing her dream over everything else and Tejo for starting to stand up for herself.

Most disappointing is Fateh's character. First, he breaks his promise to inform Jasmine about his job loss first. Then he agrees to marry Tejo and is now constantly venting at her. Worst he is expecting Jasmine to come running to him after his marriage. What about his best friend, Tejo? He doesn't spare a thought towards her.

Fateh always chooses his love over family, Jasmine her dream over family and Tejo her family over her dreams. Tejo is suffering the most since the beginning because her family takes advantage of her good nature. The message I take from all the events is that self respect should be over dreams, love and frankly over family too especially if the family is like Sandhu family. Tejo's father's life was also destroyed to the extent that he is banned from entering Canada ever!

This show is also giving the wrong message by glorifying Fateh's love and degrading Jasmine's dream. For some people, their dreams are their life and it is regressive to say that dreams don't matter in the face of love. It's everyone's choice. Jasmine didn't cheat for her dreams, she was clear and for now is firm on her decision.

Originally posted by: PranPriye

Tejo has done no wrong. She doesn't deserve this treatment from Fateh. I am disappointed by her upholding Fateh's love over Jasmine's dream though. It isn't Jasmine's fault that Tejo had to marry Fateh. Had Satti not lied in the Canada ball & the family would have not been so desperate for Canada (barring Tejo and Abhiraj) and investigated Jas , Tejo wouldn't have to forcibly marry Fateh to save the family 'izzat'. It is Satti and Rupy's fault. I don't like the way they pressure Tejo and Jasmine all the time. I am proud of Jasmine for choosing her dream over everything else and Tejo for starting to stand up for herself.

Most disappointing is Fateh's character. First, he breaks his promise to inform Jasmine about his job loss first. Then he agrees to marry Tejo and is now constantly venting at her. Worst he is expecting Jasmine to come running to him after his marriage. What about his best friend, Tejo? He doesn't spare a thought towards her.

Fateh always chooses his love over family, Jasmine her dream over family and Tejo her family over her dreams. Tejo is suffering the most since the beginning because her family takes advantage of her good nature. The message I take from all the events is that self respect should be over dreams, love and frankly over family too especially if the family is like Sandhu family. Tejo's father's life was also destroyed to the extent that he is banned from entering Canada ever!

This show is also giving the wrong message by glorifying Fateh's love and degrading Jasmine's dream. For some people, their dreams are their life and it is regressive to say that dreams don't matter in the face of love. It's everyone's choice. Jasmine didn't cheat for her dreams, she was clear and for now is firm on her decision.

Rest everything I agree wid but not on Jasmine's dream completely.

Yes everyone is allowed to dream and dreams do matter as it should but not to an extent that the your family and their respect becomes lesser than that dream. Also I do not understand the fact of associating dream wid marriage. If Canada is Jass's only dream, she should hv worked towards building it and achieving. She need not hv to marry someone to fulfill her dreams. It's like my dream is to be rich, so instead of working hard , I make it a policy to marry a rich guy. And what if that guy once loses all his money......should I leave him bcz my dreams are at stake now ???

What would hv Jasmine done had Fateh's job interview been cancelled after the marriage ? Had he never been able to take her to Canada inspite of everything working out in her favour before marriage ?

The way I see it , if her dreams mattered to her more than anything , She should hv made sure to marry a NRI living in Canada. Bcz dreams over love , ryt ?

And besides everything , her father could hv died bcz of the insult the family had to endure bcz of Jasmine. I would always and always choose my parents over everything. Dts why I understand Tejo. Jasmine is selfish. Dts it. Dreams can be more than love but should never be more than your parents .

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

Rest everything I agree wid but not on Jasmine's dream completely.

Yes everyone is allowed to dream and dreams do matter as it should but not to an extent that the your family and their respect becomes lesser than that dream. Also I do not understand the fact of associating dream wid marriage. If Canada is Jass's only dream, she should hv worked towards building it and achieving. She need not hv to marry someone to fulfill her dreams. It's like my dream is to be rich, so instead of working hard , I make it a policy to marry a rich guy. And what if that guy once loses all his money......should I leave him bcz my dreams are at stake now ???

What would hv Jasmine done had Fateh's job interview been cancelled after the marriage ? Had he never been able to take her to Canada inspite of everything working out in her favour before marriage ?

The way I see it , if her dreams mattered to her more than anything , She should hv made sure to marry a NRI living in Canada. Bcz dreams over love , ryt ?

And besides everything , her father could hv died bcz of the insult the family had to endure bcz of Jasmine. I would always and always choose my parents over everything. Dts why I understand Tejo. Jasmine is selfish. Dts it. Dreams can be more than love but should never be more than your parents .

What about her own father hiding from her that Fateh lost hos job so that she doesn't refuse to marry? All families are not created equal & some families are manipulative. See Tejo. She is a sweet, hard working, kind and understanding girl whose parents forced their wishes and expectations so much on her that her Ph.D. dreams were ruined, she had to agree to live in a foreign country against her wish, she got insulted in front of all NRI's in Canada ball and now married to a man who doesn't love her. In such a case, your dreams should be bigger than family and their so called respect. Only 1 person , here Tejo, cannot be expected again and again to sacrifice all her dreams and life while the parents themselves will not consider 'respect' before taking any action. Same for Jasmine & all the cousins. It was Fateh who broke the promise while Jasmine stood her ground. If Canada Ball & Jas wouldn't have happened, the family respect would not have been threatened to the extent that Tejo would have to marry Fateh.

Jasmine's way of reaching her dreams is certainly wrong. She should go to Canada on her own merit instead of waiting for an NRI guy for marriage. Otherwise, she will have to face the consequences if her husband for any reason has to shift back to India permanently. Leaving that, she has always been upfront and clear about her dreams and her way of achieving her dreams to every single person.

Jasmine's father could have died but now because of his hiding the truth on purpose, Tejo is dying everyday. Some of us are blessed with families who love us and we can give up maybe anything for them without a second thought. But everyone is not so lucky. Especially, Tejo, Jasmine and Dilraj because Satti and Rupy put their wishes before their families and that's not what a family does.

Originally posted by: PranPriye

What about her own father hiding from her that Fateh lost hos job so that she doesn't refuse to marry? All families are not created equal & some families are manipulative. See Tejo. She is a sweet, hard working, kind and understanding girl whose parents forced their wishes and expectations so much on her that her Ph.D. dreams were ruined, she had to agree to live in a foreign country against her wish, she got insulted in front of all NRI's in Canada ball and now married to a man who doesn't love her. In such a case, your dreams should be bigger than family and their so called respect. Only 1 person , here Tejo, cannot be expected again and again to sacrifice all her dreams and life while the parents themselves will not consider 'respect' before taking any action. Same for Jasmine & all the cousins. It was Fateh who broke the promise while Jasmine stood her ground. If Canada Ball & Jas wouldn't have happened, the family respect would not have been threatened to the extent that Tejo would have to marry Fateh.

Jasmine's way of reaching her dreams is certainly wrong. She should go to Canada on her own merit instead of waiting for an NRI guy for marriage. Otherwise, she will have to face the consequences if her husband for any reason has to shift back to India permanently. Leaving that, she has always been upfront and clear about her dreams and her way of achieving her dreams to every single person.

Jasmine's father could have died but now because of his hiding the truth on purpose, Tejo is dying everyday. Some of us are blessed with families who love us and we can give up maybe anything for them without a second thought. But everyone is not so lucky. Especially, Tejo, Jasmine and Dilraj because Satti and Rupy put their wishes before their families and that's not what a family does.

I agree that their family is somehow manipulative but the reason her father took a decision not to let jas know was not ill intentioned. Sometimes parents hv a different way of seeing their children's happiness. He knew jasmine was adamant abt Canada and at this stage her breaking off the marriage would not be wise. So he kept it from her

No doubt it was wrong on his part but it was not ill intentioned. In his heart a father thought of a daughter's good future.

So in my eyes their parents are not that bad that they should rank lower to Jasmine's dream of going to Canada . They might not be ideal parents but they aren't bad parents .There's a difference.

Rupy is an okay parent. He would have been a good one had he allowed his children to make their decisions and supported them in their right decisions. He had hidden from Tejo about dowry demand from Jas's mother too, otherwise Tejo would have figured out about fraud Jas way before marriage. He could have taken Tejo into confidence about the Fateh matter as soon as he got to know from Khushbeer and they could have handled it well before things got to marriage. Rupy wanted Jasmine to get married to Fateh at any cost and his family izzat mattered to him more than Jasmine's dream. After marrying if Jasmine had come to know that Fateh didn't have the job, she would have been shattered and reacted even more terribly.

If he had told Jasmine from the beginning that her way of going to Canada was wrong then I would have been with him. Though when Tejo had explained that to Jasmine, she had clearly said that she wasn't smart or talented enough to make it on her own & the marriage method was her only option.

Rupy's intentions are good, I agree with you. His habit of hiding information and taking decisions for his children, however, has caused both of his daughters to suffer & after fraud Jas incident, he still kept doing that. Jasmine left her own marriage and then he begged Tejo to marry a boy who is heart broken over Jasmine. How can izzat be greater than life (here, Tejo's life)? I can't like a parent who does that.

Satti is a bad parent. Tejo had to face humiliation time and again because of Satti's obsessive dreams. Satti didn't even know that Bebe's daughter was in Canada. Her desire to live a lavish life in Canada ruined her husband and Tejo's life. Satti is also majorly responsible for Jasmine's wish to reach Canada anyhow.

IMO, in a really loving family, there is no need to rank dreams above or below anyone. Family members understand each other even when they are very different from each other, be it personalities, habits or dreams and wishes. Jasmine is put down quite often for her Canada dream, Tejo is not allowed to pursue her Ph.D. dream, Dilraj can't have his favourite parathas even for a day as only Canada type breakfast is served. In Sandhu family, decisions are made without considering the childrens' feelings into account and I do not agree that good parents do that.