Originally posted by: krangara
I dont agree with your attitude! I have never watched this serial, but these updates keep me informed!
Thank you for sharing your views. That is the purpose of this forum, to share different views and discuss them, so let's discuss! I do watch this serial, and am also a big fan of reality, where things are not so black and white, like Bollywood heroes and villians, but rather full of many shades of grey, which we cannot simply shove one way or the other. Let's just take this point by point, shall we? I have no problem defending or explaining myself. I know very well what I'm about, and its not some half-baked notion of reality.
From what I learnt, DK was this selfish rich tycoon who marries her just to force her to model for him! HE apparently flaunts his other woman in front of her eyes......
Yes, he was, and yes he did. But everyone has done wrong things in life. We do not hold it against people forever. Especially when someone has become a better person. Anyone who has seen DK regularly can attest to him changing for the better, even though it may not always come through in the words of the update. Humans communicate much through body language, especially facial expressions. The writers of the updates do not have all day to explain such things. So you may have missed some fairly important things.
Besides, it was her idea to get married, not his. And it was not an authentic marriage, in that it was in name only, on paper, specificly saying they had no rights or obligations as a married couple. So, really, where is the question of cheating on someone when there is no relationship to begin with?
now, all of a sudden he has fallen for her, and she is supposed to FORGIVE and FORGET EVERYTHING so easily? WHY?
It was not sudden. He started falling for her in the beginning, and it developed into love. When he canceled the shoot, she realized then that he was falling in love with her. So it has been some time. She herself is the one who said the past is behind her. She volunteered such a thing, on her own. Granted, easier said than done, but people have forgiven much worse in the history of mankind. It was not nice what she went through, but it really wasn't the hell on earth so many other people have survived and gone on to forgive. He never killed anyone, never raped or beat her, never imprissoned her. If she can decide to forgive him, perhaps you should, too.
I also realize that he accuses her at the drop of a hat (like her being pregnant with someone else!)....
She does the same damn thing. Every time something went wrong, she suspected him, even with no evidence to go on whatsoever, like when Sumitra's file went missing, she immediately thought he did it. And she has done things to make him suspect her as well, but we'll get to that soon.
now, she is this ideal, sincere, trustworthy woman....but he blames her unnecessarily many times.......
Oh, really? Since when do ideal women marry men with the aim of having said man fall in love and be ruined by so-called ideal woman? And he knew that, so how can he consider her trustworthy? And after she has lied and gone out with Vedant, whom she knows he doesn't like her to spend time with, is she so trustworthy? She also then came crying and begging for forgiveness, and still expected his trust in the future. And if you had seen how she and Vedant carry on, despite both of them knowing how DK feels about it, you may also have gotten suspicious. And rightly so, as we can see how Vedant is most certainly developing feelings for Disha. I think DK jumped the gun a bit, perhaps, but it is completely understandable.
Again, this ideal woman bit rubs me the wrong way. Gandhari was ideal. When she found out her husband was blind, she blindfolded herself for life. Draupadi was ideal. When her husbands, who were certainly better husbands than we can find today, lost her in a gamblimg match, she was certainly upset, but she also forgave them, didn't she? There are many other ideal women, such as the wife who helped her husband in meeting a prostitute he liked so much- her selflessness helped him overcome his bad habits. Do not compare Disha to such truly ideal women. She may be doing nicely for this day and age, but that in itself does not make her ideal. Perhaps if she bound her leg, forgave DK everything, and helped him with his questionable behavior, simply considering herself to be his servant, then I would be impressed. She has done nothing so spectacular. Even I have tolerated so much in life, and no one would call me special. Even I have kept loyalties and faith, despite trying circumstances, have made hard sacrifices. I am not so wonderful. It is a part of life for a good deal of the world. It is nothing so spectacular.
after blaming her, he apologizes and claims that he loves her....sorry, but his attitude doesn't signal that he truly loves her.....seems to me that he only wants to get physical with her! lolzzzz
Have you never accused a loved one of something? Have you never made a mistake in your judgement? If all he wanted was to get physical, he could have done so by now. He has said it, and even SHE HAS SAID IT! She told him, once, to go ahead, he could if he wanted, but he would only get her body, nothing more. That stopped him dead in his tracks. Why? Because he wanted something more, he just hadn't realized it yet.
Life is not some fairytale movie, where we fall in love and never have any misunderstandings, never betray or get betrayed, never make a mistake in our judgement of and reaction to each other. Love means you can work through those things, not that they never happen. Please, people, no one walk into a marriage thinking it will all be roses! Everyone has difficulties, but the one swho stay together are the ones who can admit mistakes, forgive, understand, and keep working at it to make it better. DK seems to be on that right path, in this regard. Trust is another one. Just because you love somebody, it doesn't make them trustworthy. I've said this before. You love them as they are, trustworthy or not. Keep your eyes open, peopledo not be blinded by your love! So many women have died at the hands of a man they had loved and trusted.
MOreover, since his attempts of making her his 'wife' in the truest sense fails, he takes the comfort of yet another love! Kaisa pyar hai ye! Would never admire a guy who knows he has made umpteen mistakes, broken his wife's trust, cheated on her, but doesn't have the patience to wait for his wife to develop trust towards him (which is def damn hard....how can she trust a man like DK?!), and hence takes the solace of another woman's arms! What nonsense!
I'd like to see if anyone else could get through it so easily. Neither of them are that trustworthy at this point. I've already commented on Disha's so-called trustworthiness, but here's another lovely incident- do you recall how she had set up DK and Sanya to be photographed and put on display in the paper? Now, would you be so willing to trust someone who did that to you? Now, our "ideal and trustworthy woman" didn't seem to be either at that point, did she?
Do you know what it is to love someone so deeply, and be constantly rejected by them? Have you felt the pain? If not, than don't be so quick to judge. We are all human, even DK, and we all need to feel something from someone. This fairytale notion of waiting forever and being the emblem of patience for someone who would just as soon crush our hopes of love from them- what a load of BS!!! I seriously doubt such people exist, and if they do, they are probably in therapy dealing with issues of low self-esteem!!
Just another FYI- Disha still hasn't become a proper wife. Not in action, not on paper, and not in her heart. How can can anyone then pretend that she is one? He would like her to be, but she keeps making it clear that she is not interested. So why expect him to consider her as a wife, and act accordingly? She denies him everytime he tries to see her that way. Should he go on forever in this way? Who knows if she'll ever come around? And once the contract is up, she could disappear forever, for all he knows. Not much of a wife!!!
And I can't believe many are siding with his attitude! lolzzzzz......
Perhaps we've seen things you haven't.....
is she a puppet? Should she stand in the sidelines whenever DK rejects her, and fall in his arms whenever he opens them? I am sorry, but the lady has her own identity too!!!!!
Ditto, for him! 'Nough said!
And, surprisingly, so many are siding with DK! Apparently, he can cheat on her when he wants to, accuse her at the drop of a hat, but also has the right to expect her to fully trust him within days and take him into his arms? WTH!!!!!!
Have addressed this all above...
I am sorry, but Disha should simply divorce him and find a guy who is loyal and knows the definition of 'true love'! It's DK who doesn't deserve a nice woman like DISHA!
Disha can't even recognize the love in her own heart! If she were to commit to DK, he would never, ever do anything to hurt her. But she is still not doing that, so why expect it from him? Relationships are not one-sided. That's right, he doesn't! He deserves someone who can understand him, accept him for who he is- instead of always trying to change him, that's a sure recipe for hell- and return his love and devotion! We all deserve that.
Cheers!
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