DT 5 A Cup of Tea?

Dramatic. Over the top. Exaggerated.

It is more than a cup of tea.

It is about habits.

It is about preferences.

It is about the things a girl is used to all her life.

It is about a mentality that a woman should adjust in her husband's house no matter what the situation is. Change herself for her husband and his family. Who is changing for her? Let's not generalize things. I know a lot of men are sensitive and understand this and even are willing to change themselves for their wives. But let us talk about those men who don't. Men like Uma who think that women are just maids of the house. I know a lot of men like that.

For some men it is duty. For some it is love. For some it is courtesy. For some it is this is how our society is. For Uma it is Dharam. Just a reason. Just a damn reason to feel superior. Just a reason to keep the ego happy.

Whatever Kanak said was not even treated with a little respect. All though, I appreciate Kanak's character for at least putting across her views. Many women are conditioned that it is wrong to even think about it.

Being in a marriage is like this only.

Adjust or you will live alone.

Yes, you need to let go of your likes. How can you go against your in laws?

You are a woman. That is your job to keep the family together.

How many times have we heard these statements? And Uma repeated them.

Pyaar bhi ek nasha hota hai, Uma.

Aur ussi nashe mein kissi ladki ko utthakar shadi karna? When will this man realize that he is wrong on so many levels?

Aur bittuwa, tea ki patte banana koi baccho ka khel nahi hai. How can you waste so much of tea powder? Just to prove a point to your wife? To show her that you are the boss?

Saras jayegi shaadi mein?

Aur uski book kho gayi hai?

And she even showed anger.

May be this is her weakness.

Books!

Jhumka giradey Baraley ki bazzar mein. Aur thodi barfi? ;)

Originally posted by: manj

Very well written.

Totally agree

If a veg girl marries a non veg man, she is expected to cook non veg for him, but if it the other way round, the man and his family makes sure that she becomes veg

Kanak is going about this the wrong way

The only way to face such facism is to be financially independent, what is she doing wasting her life?

Uma has to compromise for her, if she is not allowed tea at house she can go out and have,

When I got married, My parents lived one block away,

One fine day my husband tells me , his parents are uncomfortable that I visit my parents two to three times a week as going often to Maika is not in their custom

I put my foot down and continued visiting my parents, my in laws had to accept it.

Kaannot and should not give in

Originally posted by: sneha_17

Our society comprises family who thinks Girls are born to compromise

Whatever in-laws prefer to do Girls has to do, you came to live in this family, you are just one person for you how many have to adjust, you adjust 😡

Your parents are no longer priority as if once you became wife you no longer daughter 😡

All stupid things no where written in vedas, just some MCP made rules which end up as rules..😡

One of friend just asked me a question, when Woman earn what's the need for a man in her life.

A woman can live without Man whole life, but a Man can't survive a day without woman

Originally posted by: manasa.123

Interesting desigirl

We all rejecting Uma rigidity towards Kanak wishes.

As you pointed out, In current social conditions are we enjoying equality in marriage. Definitely no, All male are bound by their knowledge of how a wife should be. They may broaden their views by sharing house work (but not owning the work as we do) or respecting our wishes as long as they think it reasonable. But they never going to accept 50:50

Kanak is in same position as a typical Indian wife is 50 or 70 years ago.

After 30 years ff our daughters or next gen think we are ridiculous too .

How we will know what is right or wrong?

The old wife followed every thing because of her ignorance of future possibilities

We are also bound by our own opinions which are correct at this time but they are correct forever.?

Sorry to throw the confusions I am feeling at the moment.

Happy to see your take on it . It may give a clear perspective to me

Originally posted by: Sachgirl

Very well written...I just feel Kanak is no match with Uma...Palomi is a perfect choice for him...I think Kanak should try couple more times and than just give him an ultimatum that he should just tyaag her or she will apply for divorce...and release from this so called Dharma jail.. 😉 ...And I want her to say this to him that " mujhe hamara bhavishya nahi dikta"..And than say what kind of man she wants...And Uma does not match it at all...And than let's see what is Uma's reaction!! 😆 ...zor ka zhatka dhirese lagega!! 👏 ..