@Dear deeps, sorry just have time to answer you & have to think hard for this 😆
I dont understand hindi, so never know what's exactly he said, but allow me to cp from wu "Uma says we should first explain by Dharm, if they go in Adharm path, then power can be used, they know the importance of Dharm, they will come"
What he said sound really cruel, but please notice, did he really use his people power in Payal's case? ... You know, even im feel so scared when he dream burned Kanak on the bed, his imagination very wild ... but in fact he's fair enough to let Kanak win her test, though he already know Kanak's motive, he's too kind (if my brother did the same like him, i'll never stop to called him idiotic)
Fr what i see he often explain to make others understand, use his power will be the last choice for him ... In Payal's case, her parent finally came, so his predict was right ... Then when Payal run away from marriage ceremony, he dont let his people catched her, he came & speak to her
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Looked use people to get what they want is such as habit in Toshniwal's fam, we can see how Adythia used the lady fr rathi's fam to cheated Bhabho & even Maasisa firmly order Gabasa to chased Kanak when she run away, but Uma stopped her ... I think Uma try to do different way from his fam habit as he can
About fam rules base on their belief, its not come from him, even he has to face it like we can see how cutest Shiv has to face it too ... Maybe that why he read a lot of book about Dharm, bcz he need the answer why he has to deal with it, maybe he finally understand positif thing from his Dharm & follow it without complaint, it makes Maasisa so proud of him & ask his bro-sis to follow him as role model
When Kanak gives rational reason about woman period, he looks just realized it (i just wonder where has he been for all the time, but realized maybe he didnt notice about this bcz he never cure women 😛 )
He kept silent & let Kanak accept the punishment ... I think he has dilemma at the time, he know Kanak was right, but he never complaint about the rule of his Dharm before & he respect his family more, he didnt want storm come to his family & that time is important day for Shiv, cant we imagine what will happen if he help to support Kanak at that moment?
I cant adapt with all rules in his house too, my husband fam are open minded peoples, the rules of Uma's house looks like a silly thing for them ... But still i give YES for Uma, bcz i believe he has a good heart, this's important thing when we married someone
When he has a good heart, then he can learn to understand love & love can solve every problems & limits between two souls who has different mind, upbringing & beliefs ...
And he loves her mother very much too 😳 (my mom ever said, when you see a man who loves her mother, then he'll loves & understand you)
Then why he doesnt changes? In silent he's changes step by step, he's kind of a rigid & quiet person who live for 30th years in his fam upbringing, and he's not Payal, when someone said something to you, then you changed your mind so easily (thanks God for this one)
Just my op
Edited by mirade_007 - 8 years ago
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