Originally posted by: dsm123
This is my explaination on why I feel Ani loves Bondita. Those who are reading this and are not regular here don't take anything in a wrong way.
Love is not about what you say or preach.. it is more rather always about what you feel and what your actions say. I always believe whatever one person says depend on so many things.. like situation,mood, surroundings,at times it's momentary, or bcuz of misconceptions..there are lots of things. But what you feel and what your actions say always come from your heart. You can't pretend there, you can't lie there. You do things subconsciously.. your actions speak your mind/heart.
Look at Ani he always said he loves mini. Be it as lover or friend.. he shouted saying this, he believed what he tells is right but his actions were always otherwise. He cried 1/2 days after getting married to bon more like remembering his letters n stuffs or fact that he Can't marry her now. Like it's printed on his brain that one day he'll go and marry mini. But he's pretty normal in 1/2 days. Yes he does care for mini but I always believed its more as friend..he does feel uncomfy with her. He has moved on pretty soon.. the main thing I notice is he lacks emotional connect or attachment with mini. He always did.
Coming to bon.. ya he said harsh things to her but couldn't look at her while saying so but he did that with mini, he did say kuch nahi lagti tum meri looking at her, ye baat alag hain that he's normal later but he could say that looking at her.here with bon he couldn't even see her going away from him. And since a moment she's left his restlessness is increasing. He's unable to think unable to do kuch.. he didn't even find that wrist watch which was in front of his eyes. He's constantly thinking about her. Even though she's not with him but he Can't get over her. He clearly rejected mini's marriage proposal pretty visible he doesn't wish to move on. He's doing bakbak of bon even in his sleep. Even in sleep he is unable to stop thinking about her. He has this deep emotional attachment with bon that he never knew how to imagine or live a life without her. When ppl like bihari or sampoo are giving him reality checks he's not getting angry on them. Bcuz his heart knows they are right.
He's quite confident about his 2 zimmedari crap when bon was with him or around him. Now since she left he is not even feeling like fulfilling his zimmedari towards mini..technically mini is in worst condition than before still he's unaffected as he's totally occupied with bon's thoughts. Even as Binoy said If Ani never considered it as shadi or her as his wife and now he has left her why is he not able to digest this fact? Why is he not thinking to marry mini if he believes he's cut all ties with bon? Why is he just unable to stop thinking about her? If she's just his responsibility I'm sure he'd have moved on easily or at least be normal. But he is not. He's not even changing into his night suits.. such a basic/routine He's failing to follow. Why is he feeling so empty, lost, vulnerable, restless?
I dunno if it is not love then what is love? Ik rather we all know they won't show anything like this in show like clearly but his actions are quite clear. I'm already sure but I'll be more confident once I see his reunion with bon. Rather I wanna see how he reacts when he'll meet her,finally see her in reality. Once he gets she's innocent he'll feel guilty angry, when he'll go in search for her he'll cry beg dugga ma but I'm more interested in watching when he meets her how he would react.. trust me it'll be a terrible situation for him to face her.. he would never ever wish to face something like that in his life ever.
Now this is coming from my real life experience and since bon is gone and Ani is suffering my friend keeps reminding me that don't you dare to criticise Ani as you have also done this kind of kand (not this extreme or dramatic obviously) in your life. Trust me when it's others fault it is so easy to blame them but the moment you get fault is yours and you've hurt the person whom you should have never that feeling is terrible and facing that person is more disastrous.
It became too long and lil personal and I've miserably failed to put things in right manner I guess. Even while typing this whole I'm feeling restlessđ
Dhanuâ¤ď¸đ¤đ¤
What a beautiful post dearâ¤ď¸ you have penned it down so nicelyđ¤
I agree đŻ
I also feel he loves her ( don't take me wrongđ) Infact she is the only one probably to whom he is emotionally connected very deeply. Maybe its because he lived alone from a very young age that he doesn't seem very connected to his family also.
Regarding Ani Mini i never felt they were in love. Love chodo they aren't even good friends. Kaise honge, they hardly spent time with each other or know each other.
And from Ani's side atleast I see a care for her, but from Mini𤢠for her he is just a trophy who she wants to get by hook or crook.
Ani always just thought he loved Mini but he really doesn't. I guess he was in love with the idea of love. But for Bondita his connection really goes very deep though he never realised it, or never thought about it at all because she was always around and they were faced with one after other problems. He didn't dwell on how much she means to him or rather its very uncomfortable for him as she is a kid. So he always calls her a zimmedari and ao even sent her away at her one small mistake thinking she was a mistake
But now that his anger has subsided ( i guess it had subsided on the next morning onlyđ¤Ł) he is feeling the emptiness, the void in his life without her. He can't think of anything else, he is just restless and roams around, sleeps on sofa with shoes on, murmers her name in sleep also.
She had filled an emotional void in him, it was only with her that he was happiest, he became a kid with her, laughed his heart out, talked with her. Now that she is gone he is slowly understanding her importance as he feels completely alone and lonely. His friendđ¤˘, family noone seems to be enough. Even his books can't give him sukoon anymore.
And he has now completely moved on from Mini whatever he had for her. He could have agreed to marry her easily now and noone would have questioned him but he just couldn't. He can't give that place to anyone anymore.
I am too looking forward for their reunion. How he reacts on seeing her and how his behaviour changes towards her after this because by the end of this track he should know ke she just isn't a zimmedari. I hope he learns some lessons here- being patient, listening to her properly, giving her enough time, and moat importantly controlling his anger.