I dint mean to say babita should have understood fake smile. I am not talking about the stage just pre marriage or after marriage. With babita she always had a habit of loosing sense and blaming people randomly. We have seen this from the begnning. No one really told her that she was hurting them with their words. Even mini just understood her everytime and said nothing. Getting angry and showing disappointment, disagreements is a part of every relationship. And I feel mini should have expressed very early on that babita is hurting her instead of just forgiving her. And this blame game by babita has ben going on even before the divorce happened. I could sense then itself that mini never shows disappointment and babita keeps slapping her blaming her for things, one day both mother daughter relation will have issues due to this. And it happened. What I dint know is that they would not get back by resolving their issues. The issue with keeping someone everytime above you, functioning only according to their emotions(which mini did before marriage. She was always about babes ke liye) dosent work out in the long run. I don't think that is a sign of a healthy relationship. One becomes too dependant and the emotions of the other person are drained out. There are lot of pent up issues underneath which will blow up one day. I always saw that coming between babita and Mini.Originally posted by: Sakurablossom
Bold1: A woman (rather let's say a girl) getting married at 17/18 and having a child at 18 can't be expected to become a pro at raising a child- mother herself is a child. Also age of 18-23-25 when we usually go to the college- somewhat start taking charge of our lives is extremely important for confidence. In my opinion this phase is where we turn from a child to an adult. Someone who gets married at this age loses a lot of experience that is pivotal for next phase. That clearly translates into babita's ideology, lack of self confidence and flat thinking.
While I agree with almost all opinions Minnie had, there's a limit to how much you can do to change a person. Besides most of the times her way of convincing her conservative mother is preachy and in your face type- doesn't work most of the time. Also if someone refuses to be empowered- you can't force them. Just let them be and focus on your own. If Minnie wants babita to accept and respect her opinions, she should do the same. When babita became a whacko and started having weird ideas about Minnie's marriage and all- she could have involved Hanuman instead of fighting with babita directly- that's my opinion. . That could have been one easier way to contain babita's eccentric behavior- Hanuman would have never let her do such thing . Minnie loves open confrontation but many times getting your way without confrontation is better for both parties- especially when you are talking about your own family.
Underlined: If babita isn't smart enough to see through Minnie's fake smile then why can't Minnie just start speaking what she feels instead of expecting babita to become antaryami? It's not an unreasonable thing to do actually. And I refuse to believe she ''always" understood - her whitewashing of misdeeds of Khuranas, saying that lovely dil ki buri nahi hai, choosing to be with Khuranas while her mother was getting married (probably the biggest moments of her mother's life) and her turning away from Hanuman Singh and lack of willingness to give him another chance after CD drama for example....
I'm still not able to understand her sudden transition from overenthusiastic wedding planner of her mother's wedding to backward steps when Hanuman-babita are getting married. She was asked about her opinion numerous times- if she had any problem she should have said then and there. What was the point of turning away from her parents when they were getting married?
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