Originally posted by: Sakurablossom
First of all take a bow for all the work you've done here. Seriously. I tried to watch episodes on sonyliv app but for some reason there's echo effect in every episode of PB- annoying as hell.
So I think rosy picture inside babita's head or her denial about Ashok's lack of interest in her was her coping mechanism for loneliness. And when that illusion shattered she tried to escape the pain by ignoring the fact altogether. Which is actually very normal thing.
The fact that Minnie recovered from shock much sooner than babita makes her a stronger person, although it doesn't mean babita is weak- she's normal, most people would need time to take grasp on the reality. Another factor I consider important here is babita's family has raised her conservatively, her in-laws favoured/praised her for being docile and obedient vs Minnie who is raised in a more liberal environment and allowed to express feelings without fear of being judged or at least her carelessness about judgemental statements isn't frowned upon.
I think your analysis about Minnie's speech behind curtains and Ashok overhearing that speech gives me more insight than I got from watching that scene.
About meeta, I could never hate her. Even in the intro of her character- she was a good person in messy situation. It's just a shame how her character ended. The relationship arc between babita and meeta is the most unusual and intriguing in this show in my opinion. Even better than Hanuman- babita and babita-Minnie. Now that I pay attention I realize how much dysfunctional babita- Minnie's relationship is. I noticed that before as well but these episodes just take it to another level. Mother daughter being more like friends is a good idea but there has to be a boundary where friendship ends and parent-child relationship starts. That is totally missing here.
Thank you!
Because of the vast content in these episodes, I think I'm gonna limit it to two at a time. There is simply so much to get through and I feel like I wasn't able to give them their due time.
Babita definitely used it as a coping mechanism and you could see it during the few instances Minnie tried to poke holes at it. Whether it was the lipstick or the AC, Babita was literally rattled when these things were questioned. When she couldn't defend herself further, she merely shouted at Minnie as if that would end the matter once and for all. Unfortunately, Minnie was right to question Ashok's love for her. She should never have had to, but it was the right thing to do.
In that moment, I don't think Babita was weak. She acted in a way that most would have: angry, denial, heartbroken etc. Minnie who had her cry, knew she had to be the strong one otherwise her mom would be trampled all over.
Even later on, I don't think Minnie ever got to properly grieve over her loss. In episode six, she did it briefly when she mentioned how Ashok betrayed both of them, but it wasn't revisited. Once the revelation happened, Minnie's entire life literally began to surround her mother's. And this is where the imbalance in their relationship took place. Minnie giving Babes initial support is fine, but Babita really should have recovered enough to support Minnie in return. Instead, Babita began to rely on Minnie for most things when she should have comforted her, or at least checked in on her to see how she's doing emotionally and mentally.
Babita and Meeta definitely intrigued me, and I would have been curious to see how their relationship went forward, if it did at all. Meeta really was the Other in a lot of ways for Babita. She is completely fine with showing her skin whether it's in dresses or saris, she is definitely sensual since we have seen her be physical with Ashok. She is also very bold and honest, and never fails to demand for her rights. Definitely a professional woman as she has not only the education to back her up, but also the work experience. However, despite all these qualities, she has a very fcked up past that she overcame with the help of Ashok. I don't know how much counseling she got before him, or if she ended up becoming too dependent on him, but Meeta was strong. She stood firm in her decisions and completely owned them whether they were good or not.
Babita on the other hand, never had the opportunity to explore all these sides of her. She had an education but not the work experience to follow through. She has very simple tastes in dressing, but still feels a lack of confidence to carry them. She has her own wants and desires, but is always to afraid to voice them out loud. All these things were being slowly transformed and we would have gotten to see a full fruition of it with HS' help. But again, KK had other plans in mind. 🤔
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