Duty or love

Actually this dialogue really made me think about BP, Pooja's diary and then pen my thoughts on the same. Sakshi says after the abortion Pooja's love for Adi died and she did only duty. Was it really. Have she ever loved him. Or she was dutiful towards him. Dutiful as a friend, dutiful as a wife. Same with Yash. Did he love his mom, sis or Zoya or was dutiful towards them.

Do you know what is the problem with dutiful. It follows a checklist, someone has set at some point of time. May not be relevant to today's times. But then to perceive yourself good in front of the society you follow the checklist, burning yourself. Pooja followed the checklist of being a friend and wife. Doing homework, leaving her ambition to be with adi in the same college, not working and taking care of him. In that way she was doing things some of which she didnt wanted to do, but the checklist of a friend or wife demanded she do. Same with Yash, there were things he didnt wanted to do, but the checklist of being a good son, brother, husband demanded he do. They were burnt out and took their anguish outside which resulted in the break up of the marriage.

Now love. Love doesnt have a template. it doesnt follow any checklist. And when i say that I am not limited love to the romantic relationship, I am talking about love in all forms. Love finds way, when there seems no way, love take trouble as if it doesnt matter, love gives happily because that is what you feel like giving. And Adiya from day one has loved. Unconventionally. Zoya leaving her parents for yash was her love, that imperfect heart was her love. The 5 crore Adi gave to Pooja was his love, the special salwar he stitched for her was his love, the holiday he planned for her was love. The fact that he wanted her to do art exhibitions across the country was his love. But then that love didnt follow the checklist of how a husband should be. The duty bound Pooja and Yash who followed the checklist for playing their roles didnt understand love is beyond those checklist.

And why Adiya understand is that they dont folllow checklist. With a call Aditya, Zoya made Adi drive the car again. That's love. He made her stand in front of the world and claim the award, that is love, the most beautiful transformational power of love. Zoya walked to Aditya with the pregnancy report, she worried for him the whole night that is love. He gave statement proving Yash innocent that's love and even bringing that ring to Zoya was love. He didnt regret doing anything for Zoya, she didnt regret doing anything for him. Even she didnt regret her marriage with Yash and took the learnings and made him not regret his marriage to Pooja. That's love.

Love is beyond duty, but since love cannot be seen but only felt only people who have loved understand love when they see it. Duty can be seen, love only felt. But does that mean you need not be dutiful. No. Life is somewhere between duty and love. It needs to be balanced out. You have to know the checklist. But time and circumstance decide whether you follow the checklist or you follow your heart. And let the duty never burn you, and let your love doesnt burn others. Learn to manage duty and love.

Not bad.

Now that I equate it with Poosh, duty seems to be on top of their list.

Adiya have only loved. So no checklist for them then.

So when they do marry each other, there would be a balance between both of them. Because they would follow checklist only for love.

Their love would be their duty to each other. And their duty towards each other would be carried out due to love. Not due to undue expectations.

Sorry for the haphazard post. Hope you understand what I am trying to say.

Wikipedia says that its a remake of Marathi movie Happy Journey.

Aditya was the only man in Pooja's life since she was 12. He gave her and his mom shelter in his house. He treated his mom as his own mom. In fact, he respected her mom more than his own mom. On top of that, he was good looking, intelligent, has good sense of humor. All these attracted Pooja to Aditya and they got married.

Yash too was attracted by Zoya's child like enthusiasm, her positive attitude, optimism, beauty. Now she too left her parents for Yash.

The most important thing in both these relationships is Adi gave gave Sakshi more than she deserved and Zoya left everything for Yash. This is what made Pooja and Yash obliged to their respective spouses.

After marriage, Pooja felt Aditya doesn't love her. But did she ever love him? If she had, she would have accepted him the way he is and not try to change him. For Pooja, Adi became irresponsible because he was unromantic? What exactly did she expect from him? Doing and saying lovey dovey things? If we compare Adi with Yash then Yash would look at her lovingly, would dance with her to Abhi na jao chodkar, drench with her in rain, buy flowers for her. If she wanted Adi to do that then she would have told him to do all these things. The pregnancy scene was quite controversial. I feel it was both, Adi's and Pooja's faults. Adi didn't see the pain in her eyes and Pooja also gave up without making any effort to convince him.

In ZoSh's case, their marriage is in trouble since the day Yash didn't bring Zoya to Mumbai with him. Zoya didn't understand Yash's problems because he didn't make her understand them. He already had this opinion about her in his mind that in their relationship, he is the giver and she is the taker. He never made her give him anything. Just like Pooja, even he didn't communicate with her about his problems and expectations.

What Yash and Pooja did for Aditya and Zoya was because they thought they were obliged to them and not because they loved them.

In AdiYa's case, both were not obliged to each other yet they did so much for each other because of that feeling of love that they keep suppressing when they look at each other's eyes.

Anyway koode looks like nice movie as per what u said...I hope to see it sometime soon..naziriya ude naal Varsham shesham Ula Padam ale.. excited to watch more of Prithvi n parvathy. After ennu ninde moideen😳

@subha yes obligation that is one part of it. But what Yash did for Pooja like singing the song, drenching in the rain etc is what is shown romantic in movies, it is the checklist of being romantic which Adi might not have followed, but according to her she followed the checklist of being a good wife. A man is supposed to woo a woman and not vica versa. That is what the checklist says. But if you are seeing the spoilers for next week Zoya seems to be completely khullam khulla in expressing herself. I mean not the romantic love, but her feelings.

Funny thing is we are living in a land where all the epics talks about woman wooing the man. Sita's garland was fixed for Ram, she even prayed in Mata Gowri's mandir to ensure she blesses the man she has given her heart to satisfy her father's condition of lifting the bow.

Parvathy woos Shiva and when that doesnt work, does penance to get him as husband

Rukmini writes a love letter and run away with Krishna on her wedding day and still we say man is supposed to woo woman.

For me woman of those days knew to use their femininity the right way, which the current crop simply doesnt know 😆😆 because we are taught anything remotely having something to do with shringaar raas is not the quality of a good woman. She only has to respond to a man and need not make a man respond to her.

Koode is a slow movie which lights up only with Jenny played by Nazriya. Dont go for it expecting another banglore days.