Should Dev and Sona get back together?

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Posted: 8 years ago
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I see posts about how Dev and Sona still love each other and how Suhana will try and get them together. And I wonder, can people actually want to see them back together?


Is there attraction between them ? Maybe. Is there affection between them? Certainly!


For Dev, Sona was the first thing he desired for himself, so he will always have that soft corner for her, no matter what happened or will happen.

And for Sona, he was her first love and women are sentimental fools.


But given what Dev put Sona through and allowed his mother to put Sona through, I dont think Sona should ever return to him.


Yes, at one level I feel, it would be lovely for Suhana to have both her parents together but to have two people who have years of distrust, breach of faith, lack of respect between them, live together for the sake of a child, is a recipe for disaster.


Dev is a spineless man who couldn't stand up for his love and her self respect or even her dignity because his mother came first. And looking at his current behavior he still cant look beyond himself and his grief and his slights etc - he doesnt deserve another chance. People dont generally change their intrinsic nature. They work n it when they recognize what is wrong and what need stone corrected, but Dev does neither. He lives in denial of his own culpability.



And should Suhana be brought up in a house amongst people who do not respect girls and women? Look at the way Sona got treated and look at the way Ishwari treated her own daughters! And you want a girl child to be brought up amongst people like that?


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Posted: 8 years ago
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I want Dev and Sonakshi to get back ...for themselves and for their daughter...but away from their respective houses.

I do agree Dixit house is not a place for Suhana to grow...now I feel even Bose house is not that good because of Bijoy...

One should never speak bad abt a childs parents in front of the child...So considering Suhana and her life its best Dev and Sonakshi decide to live in a different house...and as far as their behavior to each other is concerned it will eventually change ...the anger that is there with in them will be soon replaced with love...

The thing is both these ppl will do any thing for Suhana...so eventually they will learn to adjust ...soon trust and acceptance will grow betwn them...

if they were like Vicky and Elina I would have said its better they don't get back because they don't care for their Golu...

Edited by WeRockTheWorld - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I would say it's all about perspective.For some ,Dev and Sona both loved and respected each other .Their seperation was due to misunderstandings and distrust from both the end not just one .

For some, The spinless Dev who stood by Sona during all the major issues at home and married the women who had less chances to conceive by putting his desires to be a father aside is definitely not a spineless man who doesn't deserve happiness or wife in life .

For some , it's not about women issue .Sona was respected at Dixit house and there was no restrictions on her .As a women she was not mistreated nor any women in the Dixit house .Giving preferential treatment to one of the kid was out of blind love not because of gender issue .If gender was an issue ,Neha would not be supported when she left her husband's home nor they would have cancelled the Ria's engagement without the fear of society .Neha had the freedom to go to the classes of her choice n was not judged when she was seen with Ranveer at different places in the name of tuitions .The above are enough examples to say women were treated well in Dixit home n they were no less than any men .

For some , Bose family is same as Dixit family where one child is given preferred over the other infact it's worse .In Dixit family Neha was not given equal opportunity due to their poor financial condition but yet was never ridiculed for being uneducated or made comments on her appearance or mannerism whereas the educated Bose family always ridiculed Saurabh for his overweight , for his unconventional career choices and there was constant comparison between two kids of the house .So for those some , Bose family is not perfect nor Dixit family is a devil home .

For some , if Dev made mistakes then so did Sona .If Sona was asked to leave the home so was Dev insulted infront of the whole neighborhood by Bose family . Both had their own share of mistakes and both of their the over possessive parents played a role in their breakup

Now answering your question.For some people,they want to see two lovers together in the end .For rest of the fandom who believes otherwise they prefer to see their favorites with imaginary "perfect" partner .

Edited by yyyy - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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You ask an interesting question.

As it stands, Dev and Sona can co-parent but not live together.
I just can't see how they can even live together when Dev has thrown so many insults at Sona freely. And the biggest problem is he openly shows hate and distrust to Sona.

It is a shame he hasn't been shown with a stronger personality with a better moral code.
His statements and actions are contradictory and if I take them as is, I would never go back to live with a man like that.

Here are my examples:

Sona says" You didn't bind your mum and I together. Instead your lies only caused a rift between us. Take responsibility now"
Dev says "Yes, I should have never loved you and should have never married you... Get out. Just leave Sonakshi.".

Sona tells him she values a father in a child's life and why he came to see him with the baby and left messages too. Few days later, Dev says "Have you women got together and decided that a child doesn't need a father?"

Sona says "no one can take the fact away that you are Soha's father and Ishwari is her grandmother. But please go easy on her. Lets not rush her"
Dev decides to jump through the window to meet his child and then claims Sona/Bijoy wouldn't have given permission anyway and he wasn't harming the child so its okay.

Sona says "you are a good son, good brother and good friend but couldn't be a good husband. You have a chance to a good father now"
Dev says" I'll prove to be a good father and you will lose".

Soha says to Dev "My mom says I should spend time with you, Mr. Dixit"
Dev ties Sona hands, abandons her and says he is going to bond with his daughter ( did he imply he can't bond with Soha in Sona's presence OR did he just try to be cruel to Sona?

Why oh why? Either he has hearing problem, trust issues, just low IQ or he is vile by nature.

In real life, it is absolutely unacceptable to say "leave" in a marriage. The equivalent would be saying talaq in a muslim marriage. Why did he say leave and why is it acceptable??

I have discussed this with my friends at Women's Institute (women for all ages here- 25 to 95!), the one thing that has broken marriages is when either partner said the words Dev said. And the one thing that has held our marriages is our refusal to use those words to our partner even in the worst of situations. Trust me none of us are angels in our marriages!

The point is, there is boundary and that has been crossed. I guess my bigger problem is my lack of understanding of modern Indian society. My experiences are in South East Asia and the UK. Perhaps its acceptable to say these words in India today?

Even if this is a fairy tale, when the princess kisses the frog he becomes a prince. Here the prince has turned a frog and now a dragon breathing fire at the princess. Don't tell me she needs to kiss him again ;-) Then Stockholm Syndrome is the best term to describe this story.




Edited by jigsaw1234 - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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NO

Dixit home has one Psycho looney tune mom "Ishvari"

Son Dev Attached to her umbilical chord. She still is nursing him.

Evil duo Ex Gareeb Ki beti & her son.

Suhana is better off being raised by her mom ofcourse visiting rights fromher father Dev but but Sonakshi should never go back to this MCP verbally threatening weakling Dev who cant stand up to his mom and support his wife.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Yes! But with an agreement 😊 as they have signed so many agreements till Now, let dev sign one more agreement that for his mom or family he won't leave sona. Dev loves sona a lot but love for Mother and family overpower it and he later regrets for it. I was going through old episodes, during the first breakup he did it for his mom but was broken from inside. After marriage also family came first for him, like karna forgets his vidyas at battlefield same way dev forgets his love. If they comes together and same thing happens then Sona was strong enough to handle all this but I don't this Soha will be able to!!!
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Not now.


First dev should learn to stand for sona.becoz its d major problem.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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In my opinion, I believe Dev and Sonakshi should or rather would get back together because they truly and deeply love each other.

We all know that Dev and Sonakshi separated mostly due to external factors caused by their interfering families, misunderstandings, lack trust between them.

But in the past few episodes it has become evident that Sonakshi somehow always wanted Dev by her side and that's the reason why she went back to meet Dev( she did have hopes of reconciliation as she said in the episode when Dev confronted her regarding Soha that there are no chance for them to reconcile now).

And we know for a fact, if Dev had met Sonakshi when she came back, he would have immediately wanted her back not only because of their child but because he so desperately needed Sonakshi. And because Dev had already seen the true colours of his family/ Mother, their relationship would have emerged so much stronger.

However, because 7 years have passed which is a way Long time, it has become so hard for them to reconcile. And because they couldn't love each other all these years they have harboured feelings of bitterness and hatred for each other.

However I believe the more they spend time together(due to Soha) their love for each other will resurface again.

Their misunderstandings would hopefully be cleared(prenup, eviction of the house).

And then I believe there would be no reason left for both of them to remain separate as all the external factors between them would have disappeared and they will only be left with their increased love, trust and understanding for each other and of course the most important unifying factor ...their child.


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Posted: 8 years ago
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Sona n Dev should get back together not only for themselves but also their child. Dev loves Sona v much n will keep her happy for sure... but problem is the sasural. Sona or Suhana doesnt deserve GKB, vicky n specially Ishwari. N Bijoy too doesnt want to separate from Suhana... so its really confusing. Dev suhana n Sona shd live separately... but will that ever happen??
Edited by luvurishbala - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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A BIG NO from my POV.. 😊

Dev-Sona - Both have core values pointing to complete different directions.. One expects the world to adapt to the whims and fancies of his and his family needs because the world has been cruel to them.. The other expects the people in the world to be adaptive without compromising on the moral values and be aware of right/wrong to make the world a better place to live in..

While one is all about taking as much as the world can offer for him, the other is all about giving as much as she can to the world in return...

While one believes in asking what I do to the world.. Giving an answer that by being good one can make the world a better place to live in.. And the other believes in asking what did the world to me... Giving an answer that I don't care about the world because it didn't care for my family...

One expects the whole world to understand his emotions and emotional needs without bothering about the need to understand the other's state of mind and emotions.. The other expects everyone to give equal understanding to each other's state of mind and emotions...

I don't think these two values can be aligned in any possible ways without changing either of their ways... Now the question is who's gonna change their ways? Which side is the physical balance gonna take it's side? If not is there a balance in between? I don't see any midpoint between these two.. 😉

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