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Posted: 9 years ago

#31

Anandi has her own pitfalls - her priority for Jagya and BH, loosing Nandini and believing every one with blind eyes.

But she cannot be considered as a total failure. She has raised Shivam well. Even staying at BH shivam has his own self. Anandi could have been the Badi Maa of BH but she created SN and has a life of her own as well.

She intervened in Jagya and Ganga s matter but with new Jagya I think Jagya and Ganga has their own life. I remember when Jagya was going to Mumbai for MS he called her Up Anandi I am going.

Yesterday when G said they are going to Delhi, it was obvious Jagya nowadays do not share his agenda with Anandi.

Anant s presence in the serial - Kabhi thikha kabhi phika. Purpose - we do not know.

Single mom marrying has to be a self decision and if a person feels like. Looking Anandi I do not see any desire from her for a new man in her life. Being a serial CVs will not make Anandi dancing and getting married. It will be a pushed one by kids n Dadisa, which is a gross insult to an woman proving WOMAN is the end result of family pressure.

CVs have started on a new season with Nimbuli s story so it should go that way. Buttt in serails anything can happen.

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Missesha

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Posted: 9 years ago

#32

If it is only a show and a journey of A balika vadhu then what's wrong if she is married for the third time?

We have seen her journey till Shiv, with Shiv and post Shiv. She has lived as a widow for 12 years and in her journey she can have one more marriage.

When Jagya left Anandi, I saw an empowered Anandi. When Shiv left Anandi, I am seeing a weak and directionless Anandi who needs emotional support. So what's wrong if she remarries and shares her burden / her life with someone? Why does Anandi remarrying in this phase become something of lesser dignity?

If living under the same roof as her ex and his family and taking continuous help from them, has never impacted her dignity, then why would remarrying be any derogatory?

People may say that BH is her maika, but she and Jagya are not siblings.

On the other hand if she had made a life for herself, I wouldn't want to see her marrying for the sake of emotional support. But here she is quite weak.

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As for finances, yes Shiv and Daddu left her enough and she also has a share in DSa's properties, but won't all this dry out eventually? what is Anandi's source of income? Is SN a commercial institute?

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aparnauma

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Posted: 9 years ago

#33

A woman who started an institution which helped women earn their own money won't know how to make money for herself and her children?

She was running Bhaili on her own and when necessary she took advice from Shiv.

Didn't she put Bhaili back on it's feet after it received set back all thanks to Anop? Why nobody talks about that?

Talking about finances we have never seen Jagya Ganga or Dsa running family business either.Jagya is juggling between politics and hospital Ganga hospital home and kids and then Dsa in SN.

So how are they managing business?

When it comes to Anandi everything becomes unbelievable.😛

A woman who set up two institutions doesn't know how to make money for herself?

Weak? Just because she trusted a woman who took care of her child?

Weak? She just told Anant to stay away from her personal affairs in a nice manner.Is that weakness?

As a pediatrician his job ends with informing his observations to his patient's mother.It was he who was interfering by talking about Mangala and telling his opinions about Mangala.

If Anandi trusts Mangala it is wrong if she didn't trust Mangala then also she is wrong.

Right now her two kids need her the most and people want her to remarry?

One child who is used to having his mother's fulltime attention and another child who was deprived of her mother for so many years people want her to marry when her priority should be her children?

Or may be they want her to marry so that they get some more chances to criticise her for failing to balance husband and her children😛

Wonder what will happen when Anandi the character stops breathing one day. Perhaps she will be criticised for that also

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Missesha

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: aparnauma
A woman who started an institution which helped women earn their own money won't know how to make money for herself and her children?
She was running Bhaili on her own and when necessary she took advice from Shiv.

Didn't she put Bhaili back on it's feet after it received set back all thanks to Anop? Why nobody talks about that?

Talking about finances we have never seen Jagya Ganga or Dsa running family business either.Jagya is juggling between politics and hospital Ganga hospital home and kids and then Dsa in SN.

So how are they managing business?

When it comes to Anandi everything becomes unbelievable.😛

A woman who set up two institutions doesn't know how to make money for herself?

Weak? Just because she trusted a woman who took care of her child?

Weak? She just told Anant to stay away from her personal affairs in a nice manner.Is that weakness?
As a pediatrician his job ends with informing his observations to his patient's mother.It was he who was interfering by talking about Mangala and telling his opinions about Mangala.

If Anandi trusts Mangala it is wrong if she didn't trust Mangala then also she is wrong.

Right now her two kids need her the most and people want her to remarry?
One child who is used to having his mother's fulltime attention and another child who was deprived of her mother for so many years people want her to marry when her priority should be her children?

Or may be they want her to marry so that they get some more chances to criticise her for failing to balance husband and her children😛

Wonder what will happen when Anandi the character stops breathing one day. Perhaps she will be criticised for that also
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Was Bhaili a profit making institute or NGO? Or SN a commercial institute, that profits will come her way?

Jagya's hospital is a commercial hospital (even though he doesn't charge some real poor people) and he is a MLA too. One can assume where the income is coming from.

Anandi is weak because she can't make decisions or stand up for herself. That is why whenever it is questioned that why she returned and stayed at BH for so long, blame is conveniently passed to daddu. Daddu never said that she should live in BH forever. It is clear that this woman can't decide how she should lead her life or speak up when necessary, hence she is called weak.

If her two kids really need her, then what is she doing about it? Why can't she tell Shivam who Nimboli is?

Anandi couldn't succeed as a single woman in 12 years, re-marrying might help. Just as Shiv supported her back then, somebody else can do it now.

What if Anandi stops breathing tomorrow? Well the earth will continue to revolve still. Anandi is only a fictional character. And since she is a fictional character we hope to see some ray of hope through her story. And not just her fake pains in the name of some meaningless fight over custody of a child.

If the mother daughter reunion was all about, somebody else solving Anandi's problems, then Anandi might as well remarry.

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aparnauma

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Posted: 9 years ago

#35

This is Balika Vadhu and her relationship with the family into which she has been married into as a child.

Singhs were brought back into Anandi's life simply because child marriage has come into centre stage again.

Singhs and Anandi came together because of child marriage and child marriage was the reason why they faced problems and child marriage was one big reason for the failure of the marriage.

Jagya Anandi relationship as husband and wife failed majorly because of child marriage which was unnatural relationship and their friendship survived against all odds because friendships formed at that age are lasting.

Jagya Anandi relationship is to show that they were not right for each other as husband and wife but are right for each other as friends.Good friends from childhood days need not become ideal life partners.

Sumi Bhairon even Dsa all of them were nice she and Jagya shared a beautiful bond still that was not strong enough to sustain marriage simply because the marriage was wrong

That is being juxtaposed with Nandini and her sasural and her balak var.

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As for problems in life didn't Jagya Gamga have problems with Mannu and Abhi? Didn't they have their own issues.

So why single out Anandi?

Didn't Anandi help them find Mannu when he was lost?

Don't people have problems in life for every problem marriage is answer?

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Bhaili's profits obviously will go to the women who are partners there.

SN is an NGO.

If she can help other people earn money and create facilities for them raise funds to organise all this manage these funds and run the organisation why is she expected to be ignorant when it comes to managing her personal finances?

In Bhaili wasn't she doing business on other's behalf wasn't she getting them the contracts managing the suppliers and clients then why people are assuming that she doesn't know how to manage her life?

All I can see is an irrational bias against Anandi.

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tellygeek

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Posted: 9 years ago

#36

Anandi moved back to BH to create some screen space for Jagya and Ganga just like Mangala was turned negative to show Anandi mahaan. CVs wanted it this way.

Anandi created Shiv Niketan in these 12 years, I guess as a single woman.

Anandi is financially dependent on Jagya is news to me.

I really don't see a connection between Anandi remarrying and mother daughter reunion. Keeping Nandini's interests in mind, Anandi is working to get closer to her daughter in a systematic manner.

What is meant by single woman? Woman who stays alone or the one who has a life without a man !

I hope it is not being hinted that a woman who can't take independent unbiased decisions shouldn't remain single ! As for Anandi, I still remember her bonding with dadisa and the family and hence the connection being still intact. It has been firmly established that Anandi is pretty clear on how she wants to lead her life. Even otherwise, going by the much drawn assumptions, her dead husband has left enough for her and the kids.

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fast trak

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Posted: 9 years ago

#37

Running bhaili and a success school like SN cannot be done by a weak woman. This is a woman who has no husband and her inlaws have moved away to another country . Thankfully she has dadisa and Jagya who mean a lot to her. Her pain after losing her daughter is also added onto her other miseries. But this strong woman never stopped moving ahead. Coming to dadisa for emotional support doesn't indicate her weakness. However strong s person may be still they look up to a mother figure for hugs and solace. Dadisa also gives her a lot of strength and she herself is a strong personality that Anandi derives a lot from her. What's wrong in that? Why does it have to be looked at only with negative viewpoints or as her ex sasural . Can't she have any rights to have good bonding with her e. Sasural?

That's the perfect lead for the story Anandi.

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aparnauma

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Posted: 9 years ago

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It is not just Anandi who sees emotional support in Dsa. Dsa also sees Anandi as her emotional support.

If Anandi living in her ex sasural is not right then how did it become right when she got married out of that same sasural and the same sasurji and sasuma did her kanyadan?

Calling the parents who did her Kanyadan as ex sasuralwale is an insult to those people who made Anandi their beti.

This is the same sasural wale who didn't leave any stone unturned to find a suitor for the girl whom their son has abandoned and gave her a much more beautiful life.

There was a point when Sumi addessed as Bhairon SIngh Anandi ki bapu.

Anandi was criticised for being too pre occupied with Mannu and Pooja affair rather than her own daughter.

This familu stood by her in the hour of her need and she was doing the same for him.

Now if Anandi is continuing to stay in BH it is not because she needs sahara but Singhs wanted to develop same kind of bond they have with Shivam.

They also wanted to assure Mangala that the child will never be alone she has a big family who cares for her along with her mother.

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The fact that they don't want to create a seperate track for Singhs just to give them screen space is also a main reason.

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leavesandwaves

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Posted: 9 years ago

#39

In order to make anandi goody two shoes, they stopped her from growing and using her past experiences as lessons. Everyone changed except anandi. Everyone grew except anandi. Because CVs think she is perfect as she is and there is no need for growth. If she had self respect and common sense, she would not have stayed in BH for such a long time. And now she is repeating the same thing with Nimboli and her caretaker also sitting in BH indefinitely. What space and scene Ganga is getting except dressing wounds of Nimboli and Mangala. Bringing Mangala with Nimboli is the worst possible thing. Otherwise anandi would have taken Nimboli to SN along with Shivam and dadisa as dadisa cant live without anandi. What happened to Mangala? She has become a parasite in the name of Nimboli and interfering in the family mmatters just because she saved Nimboli.

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aparnauma

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Anandi has learnt from her mistakes as well as from what she has seen of life.

The biggest lessons that she has learnt are lack of education and her fear of speaking up are the reasons for her miseries as BH beendini along with Dsa ignorance arrogance and Jagya's selfish ness.

She used that as a fuel to her growth and the growth of girls like her.

She has seen what unbalanced upbringing can do to a child from the way Singhs handled Jagya from childhood till the time Jagya came back after breaking up with Gauri and she used all that to fix problem child called Sanchi.

She tried to learn new things in order to fit into Jagya's life and she saw Sanchi doing that and she believed it to be Sanchi's love for Jagya and she stood up for Sanchi and ticked off Jagya for repeating what he did with her and Gauri.The moment it became clear to her that Sanchi is putting up a facade she made sure Sanchi got punished for that and ensured that Sanchi was not isolated by the family like Jagya was.This is all she learnt from life and practiced it.It took a nightmarish experience for Sanchi to realise the value of relationships which stood by her.

She learnt a lot from Shiv too when it comes to handling issues. Importance of self defence is a lesson she learnt from most painful experience of her life.

But there will be things that will never change about Anandi - she will take peoples'goodness on it's face value and makes assessment or judges them based on only what she sees and how she perceives. She will take time to get the facts right before pointing a finger at someone.If that makes her slow and look like she is stupid then so be it.

She has no reasons to suspect Mangala from what she has seen.

Just because she believes her own perception of Mangala rather than Dsa and Anant's that doesn't make her stupid.

As for Anandi staying in BH it is Singhs who want Anandi to stay in BH because they want to spend time getting to know Anandi 's daughter.

Singh family does have a story as of now and that is quite obvious so to give them screen space Anandi is in BH and Mangala'sstory without Nandini has no potential either so she is sitting in BH.Singhs are the extended family of Anandi'sand now her children.

They have shown enough and more of Jagya Ganga Mannu Pooja Dsa drama post leap and Anandi's story was put on hold at that time.Anandi and Shivam disappeared for days together.

But people didn't seem to have a problem then but now just because nothing much happening on Jagya Ganga story people seem to have a lot of problems 😛

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