Can a woman/ or wife change a bad man/husband into good wid her love?

Can a woman/ or wife really a bad man/husband into good wid her love? I am not only tslking sbt tv serials but it happens in real life too. Some women willingly or forced to stay wid her bad men however bad or abusive they r in terms of changing them. Some women think dat they changed their men into kind, loving n caring person. Some women r told by her family n friends dat they sud not leave their men as they will change one day wid their love. Can they really be changed? Edited by angel_juhi04 - 8 years ago

Angel, Definitely it is possible a woman could change her husband if he is a bad man to a good person. But when is she able to do that? For that, she has to be adequately loving to herself and she has to be taking care of herself. She has to have so much love for herself that she is not disturbed by how her husband is. She has to be constantly with the divine essence within her. Once she is this way, it is quite possible, she could change her husband. Note it is only possible and it is not always the case. The husband when he is bad also abuses himself and is tormented within. If he is moved by the way his wife is based on how much she loves herself and her husband, and is willing to change, it is possible he could change to be a good person. That is because he too has divine essence within him and it is possible only when he recognizes this part, he could be happy.

But then, this does not mean she is to put up with the abuse of her husband continuously. And her family members and her friends must not force her to live with the man who abuses her. What is interesting is, the woman who is able to change her man with her love is not someone who needs to be forced by her family members to stay with her abusive husband. This type of woman has her own way to take care of herself and finds her own plan of action. Just because there are women, who could do the needful using her love does not mean, every woman is to be forced to become a woman who needs to sacrifice herself hoping that some day her husband will become a good person.

The first responsibility for the woman is to take care of herself. She has to hear all the pains within her and needs to take loving action on behalf of herself. if the loving action for herself is to get away from her husband that also she has to accept to do. Once she practices being loving to herself, she will know what she is to do. It could also be possible, she has to part from her husband endlessly.

only in movies.. today woman would stay away from bad guys.. and those  who marry do so for the thrll of the bad things they get to share

The best loving action that a woman can take is to keep away from jerks who expect her to do the impossible 😆

 Look at a point. In those stories in which a good woman is able to change her bad husband into a good husband or a good man, one thing stands out.  Her parents, her well-wishers and relatives warn her that the man whom she is marrying is not a good one. But she does not listen to what they tell and goes ahead marrying him and that is based on her inner knowing. Her inner knowing is that she has the purpose to bring out the divine essence within that man and God will take care of her in that mission.

Woman in Indian society is considered as an idol of sacrifice. It is expected of her to continue in a relationship so long as she is alive. Her upbringing is such that right from adolescence she is taught to live for family and not for herself. Since she has imbibed such teachings from an early age, it becomes difficult for her to overthrow the age old school of thought.. Later on it becomes her way of life. Perseverance empowers her to withstand all humiliations; but she never dares to severe the relationship .  Edited by Bertibotfanatic - 8 years ago

Why will anyone want to 'fix' anyone?
Let these 'bad men' marry 'bad women' and goody types marry each other and let all live happily ever after😆

IMini, We can't say one person fixes another person.

Did Ramakrishna 'fix' Swami Vivekananda? What we can say is Swami Ramakrishna awakened the love within the heart of Swami Vivekananda. The point here is the love within one person's heart can awaken the love within another person. That is the way things work spiritually. The wife's love can awaken the love within the husband's heart and the husband's love can awaken the love within the wife's heart.

Of course this does not mean, the wife has to stay with the abusive husband that some day the husband will change for better or others can force her to do that. If at all anyone can change another person, that is possible only if the person loves herself and is able to take care of herself. Just because we read the king Shibi could cut flesh from his body, everyone has to do the same. No one is to be forced to cut flesh from the body.
Edited by maha2us - 8 years ago

Look maha2us,question was if a 'bad' person be turned good using marriage. Your point had been valid if it was just about awakening love in your spouse. Two good people can be in a loveless or one sided marriage.
I am quite sure swami Ramakrishna and Swami Vivekananda weren't each other's spouses.In a marriage spouses have more responsibilities than just living and teaching each other via words or/and action.