Originally posted by swathi1990
Originally posted by harshita27
Can you imagine yourself 4 years later, married to someone else?
If not, this is the guy. If he is not soo important to feature in your imagination, its not him then.
Career you cant really predict how important it is for you after a certain number of years. Ypu have to enjoy your work. if you arent enjoying, the most respected of careers can look boring to yourself.
Sure...but 4 years later, will I regret going back to India and missing out the oppurtunities here ???? The problem is same Harsh...I want both...and I am not able to decide...I am afraid that by going there I am losing a part of myself...my passion...my individuality...
But I dot want to miss the guy as well...Becos he gives that R&B feeling u know...
If I were you, I'd go for the guy. I used to think like you and turned down a marriage proposal from verryyy good friend of mine coz my career was high flying at that moment. He didnt want to take it slow n wanted straight marriage. He was then posted in India n I was about to go abroad. He got married n am still single.. To say there was bad blood between us is understatement. I now know that if I had to redo that transaction, i'd choose the guy. But I cant undo it. Now, my job's biggest draw is the perks of it. The validation that I didnt marry toh kya at least am on a good progressive career path n that it gives me enough to fund my travel dreams. I dont have to go ask my parents for money. I've had series of misses in my decisions. Some were bad judgement n some were pure bad luck. But if its one decision I want to redo, it would be that. That was my single most honest relationship in my life. We both were good people but we were bound by situation.
I too wanted both, but when it came to choice I couldnt decline the lure that long term abroad tenure which took me to next rung in my career. There were people jealous of the major career boost. Every practical person would have said declining that offer n staying back to marry would be foolish. But having lived it, I now know its otherwise. Maybe I would have been happy in India too.Edited by harshita27 - 6 years ago