Men are mostly older than women in relationship n marriage

I can't understand why mostly men r older than women in age whether in relationship or marriage. In almost all tv shows hero r as old as 10 years than heroine. There r very few serials where heroine is older than hero. In real life too, people make a fuss if d girl is even a year older to boy. Men older to women r seen okay but if women is older than men then people ask questions. Aisa kyu? In many serials, d heroine is shown 18-19 while d hero is shown mid or late 20s.

It's just a social norm most probably based on the fact that females usually mature earlier compared to males, sexually as well as in responsible behaviour, and also females reach menopause at around 45 yrs, whereas males can continue fathering kids as long as they live.

Many reasons for that.

Firstly because females mature earlier than males, secondly the female biological clock.

Rest are social norms. People prefer a stable, well settled, well earning man therefore groom might be older because it does take time before you get well settled in your career. Women are mostly valued for other aspects (looks, fertility, homemaking skills etc) than just earning ability. Plus many believe a younger woman will be better to "mould" and adjust according to new family compared to an older woman whose views and lifestyle must be more well defined and less receptive to change.

Though things have changed a lot now and we have come a long way. Otherwise there were child marriages or excessive difference in ages of bride and groom.
In certain marriages, the woman is older than the man, though it is still rare.

If you're talking about TV serials then let me tell you they are no barometer for reality. We have daily serial format and they have gruelling shooting schedules. Younger girls are more easily available and are less expensive as actors compared to mature ones who might find it tough to shoot for 18 hours a day. Similarly many middle aged actors on TV are ones who were flops earlier and were kind of out of work. They are only too glad to get an opportunity so they don't make a fuss and are easier to handle for the producers. Young actors have their own demands and might not stay loyal to the show if they get better opportunities.
Age is a joke in TV shows as they often cast very young people as grandparents. The same business and convenience reasons are behind this, because an actually senior aged actor is difficult to take care of and might not be able to fit in the gruelling shooting schedules.
It's business, convenience and economics behind state of affairs on TV serials. Not exactly gender or social issue alone. TV actors have crazy schedules and poor working conditions.

Originally posted by: atominis

Many reasons for that.

Firstly because females mature earlier than males, secondly the female biological clock.

Rest are social norms. People prefer a stable, well settled, well earning man therefore groom might be older because it does take time before you get well settled in your career. Women are mostly valued for other aspects (looks, fertility, homemaking skills etc) than just earning ability. Plus many believe a younger woman will be better to "mould" and adjust according to new family compared to an older woman whose views and lifestyle must be more well defined and less receptive to change.

Though things have changed a lot now and we have come a long way. Otherwise there were child marriages or excessive difference in ages of bride and groom.
In certain marriages, the woman is older than the man, though it is still rare.

If you're talking about TV serials then let me tell you they are no barometer for reality. We have daily serial format and they have gruelling shooting schedules. Younger girls are more easily available and are less expensive as actors compared to mature ones who might find it tough to shoot for 18 hours a day. Similarly many middle aged actors on TV are ones who were flops earlier and were kind of out of work. They are only too glad to get an opportunity so they don't make a fuss and are easier to handle for the producers. Young actors have their own demands and might not stay loyal to the show if they get better opportunities.
Age is a joke in TV shows as they often cast very young people as grandparents. The same business and convenience reasons are behind this, because an actually senior aged actor is difficult to take care of and might not be able to fit in the gruelling shooting schedules.
It's business, convenience and economics behind state of affairs on TV serials. Not exactly gender or social issue alone. TV actors have crazy schedules and poor working conditions.

Onscreen, only serials now are way too regressive. They weren't thus earlier.

They don't even show girls educated or working. Or even if they do, it's laughable because it shows mere romance at workplace or tying family matters to profession (Sandhya in DABH usually solves cases involving family!).

Age is just one of the issues they have. On the whole, the portrayal of men and women in serials in pretty warped.

Originally posted by: cineraria

As posted by the members above, since women usually mature faster than men and may hit menopause as early as in their thirties, traditionally women have been the younger partner in a relationship. Plus education and career for men was taken more seriously, since they had to earn compulsorily (while a working wife wasn't a necessity and in some situations not even liked) so they were only married once they got settled in their jobs.

With time there's been a shift. Women now are as career oriented as men but social norms have carried themselves in a somewhat less stringent format. You would hardly see an age difference of ten years in a couple now, mostly 2 to 4 years and marriages between younger men and older women aren't surprising anymore. Sachin Tendulkar and Abhishek Bacchan have married older women. You see that a lot now-a-days and people don't usually mind. But mostly you see relationships and marriages between people of same age in urban India.

As far as your TV serials are concerned, it's got nothing to do with what's largely prevalent in real life. It's another TRP gimmick. You may not perceive it to be so but a younger woman and an older man appeals as "romantic" to the masses. Just like the broody asshole falling for the naive cray cray chick does. It's merely a romantic cliche catering to dominant notions. Mills and Boon romance novella has been consumed by women since past many decades. These novels till date have been fostered by the same cliche.

Apparently an angry young woman in her late twenties with Mommy/Daddy issues falling for the happy-go-lucky nincompoop 20 yr old lad doesn't strike as romantic. (What apparently? It just doesn't, even to me! 😆)

For instance, Jee le Zara didn't have the high TRPs of a show like IPKKND.

Well yes. Majority still want a younger girl and often even less educated one so that she is easier to control and dominate.

Originally posted by: atominis

Well yes. Majority still want a younger girl and often even less educated one so that she is easier to control and dominate.

Originally posted by: angel_juhi04

Na Bole Tum Na Maine Kuch Kaha had a widow wid 2 kids marrying a bachelor guy younger than her. In recent show Warrior High too, a 17 year old girl has 2 possible boys of 16 years old who cud fall for her n they also have a 16 year old boy getn attracted to a 21-22 year old teacher. AnD both d shows r very popular. So, people may be realizing dat its not a sin for a younger boy to fall for an older girl. There r many people in various forums who questions n seems to not like if heroine appears to be older than hero. Also, they never show a serial where heroine is d boss of d hero. TV serial companies r MCPs in all these matters.

In real life, d family of a boy wants as young girl as possible so dat she don't have d chance to have any previous relation. They want innocent girls of younger age who may not know properly abt wordly knowledge n will be easy to be controlled by them.