Anandi: Respect must be commanded not demanded

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Ansh & Law of Diminishing Returns





"Simply stated, a "diminishing return" happens when adding units of a resource (for example, workers, raw materials, capital) in the act of creating a product does not yield as much benefit as previous, equal units of the same resources did"



Shivraj Sekhar, The district collector met Anandi in a dramatic way and was initially impressed by her beauty. Later on he fell in love with her for her virtuous character. She was educated, intelligent, hard-working, compassionate, brave and what not. He found much potential in this village belle.


He did not give it a second thought when Dadisaa asked him for Anandi's hand knowing that even the legal proceeding of her divorce is still not over. He came to join her in her biggest shock of lifetime; her mother's marriage. He did not let her go when Jagya came back to claim his rejected ex-wife even went up to threaten him when he realised his ill intentions.


After much hue and cry finally they got married. Anandi was mentally not ready for consumation. he gave her space. Finally Anandi fell for this dedicated lover and gave in. They fulfilled their relationship in the picturesque Kashmir.


So the returns of this long time-cum-energy invested relationship was at its peak. The man and wife had few months of quality time together.


Now the curve of returns goes downwards.

Anandi left her job. She does not prepare mouth-watering pakodas anymore, or may be not upto the taste of her mom/sister-in-law. She has nothing meaningful to do; she alongwith the other duo of house watches Sas-Bahu serials on tele. Listening to tantrums from anyone & everyone of the show is her goal of life now.


The curve now moving down-down-downwards beyond the red mark as Shiv might have realized his mistake in choosing the life partner who has no goal, no initiative and no coping mechanism in life. For how long someone speak for somebody if a grown up man/woman can not stand for him/herself. Even the mother kicks her children from the nest if the baby bird is too scared of flying. May be that's what Anandi needs now. A big shock which would make her think where exactly she failed miserably.

Being only good is not enough in life. You need to make your own place in life so that others would start respecting you on their own.

Anandi; respect could never be demanded; but commanded.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Excellent post Debbie. This is what I was talking from few days on main forum when everyone are blaming shiv for not supporting in this track. He married her not only for her beauty but her balancing work and family so well. He likes the strong and independent anandi a lot. Why cannot she talk boldly to Ira about her stand in the family and not be scared of her. Did shekhars tell her to be a housewife and serve them 24hrs. Why keep saanchi faults to herself and even excuse her for her stupid faults like pandit bribery. Why so much melodrama on choosing maayka and saasra. BV writer has lost it now,
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Loved the graph 😃,. Good post.

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Originally posted by: Sheetsden

Excellent post Debbie. This is what I was talking from few days on main forum when everyone are blaming shiv for not supporting in this track. He married her not only for her beauty but her balancing work and family so well. He likes the strong and independent anandi a lot. Why cannot she talk boldly to Ira about her stand in the family and not be scared of her. Did shekhars tell her to be a housewife and serve them 24hrs. Why keep saanchi faults to herself and even excuse her for her stupid faults like pandit bribery. Why so much melodrama on choosing maayka and saasra. BV writer has lost it now,


He must be bored with her passiveness towards tantrums and expressionless face. I don't think he is expecting much from his ambition-less wife apart from a baby now 😛

And so do we viewers feel 🤢
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Though I agree with your post, as Anandi's behavior has jeopardized my faith in her off late, but I must mention few points out here..
When Anandi was not in agreement of marrying Shiv, it was not Anandi's fault.. As an individual she wasn't ready for committment.. It was Shiv who fell in love with her.. So of course the initial hardships will have to be faced by him.. It was not a favor to Anandi.. Shiv had chosen the path for himself.. He chose the struggle, the journey, without Anandi's consent / permission..
But now AnSh are in a committment.. When Anandi was not ready for consummation initially, she always had the guilt that she isn't able to give in to him fully.. Her tone was not harsh, she sought for his permission before playing the Amnesia drama with Jagya.. It never created a problem between them cuz Shiv was much understanding and Anandi was mature enough to go for any decision only after Shiv's approval for the same..
But I cant see Shiv doing the same for Anandi.. Now I dont expect Shiv to stop Ira or anyone from shouting at her.. But where did the support and understanding go ? Now it's role-switch.. Anandi is more understanding here.. But does Shiv care for her approval or decisions or comments like Anandi used to do once ? No.. Shiv has become full of himself and doesnt even bother to acknowledge Anandi's emotions even in private..
Sorry to defer with your view here buddy, but I think Shiv has failed miserably here.. Right you are, a mother needs to push its kids off the nest so that they can fly.. But when others would attack the baby, mothers would go to any extent to protect them.. Anandi has no protection in KB anymore..
My POV.. Thanks 😊.. Lovely post btw !
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Having said that, God helps them who help themselves.. Anandi can give lectures to all village wives/girls not to tolerate any nonsense from anyone, always to stand up for the right and against the wrong, and here when she herself is required to follow the same, she gives such confusing expressions and is letting anyone come and insult her, treat her liuke doormat.. !!
Practise what you preach Anandi ! 😡
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Originally posted by: Debbiee


He must be bored with her passiveness towards tantrums and expressionless face. I don't think he is expecting much from his ambition-less wife apart from a baby now 😛

And so do we viewers feel 🤢

True. Thts why he wants a baby soon 😲 any husband will expect a baby when his wife does not have any ambition in her life. He even gave her some work like NGO so that she keeps her mind away from saanchi Ira politics.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I think Shekhars respect tantrums/nakhras more. Anandi needs to start showing spunk. Throw some nakhras, attitude and start to pout and sulk. That should get the attention of Shv and his illiterate family because that's the only language they understand. Ambition means nothing to them because Shiv behaved like he was doing Anandi a favour when HE suggested she start her samaj seva again. Truth be told, she should have continued without stopping or waiting for permission.
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Originally posted by: PRB_Shonit

Though I agree with your post, as Anandi's behavior has jeopardized my faith in her off late, but I must mention few points out here..

When Anandi was not in agreement of marrying Shiv, it was not Anandi's fault.. As an individual she wasn't ready for committment.. It was Shiv who fell in love with her.. So of course the initial hardships will have to be faced by him.. It was not a favor to Anandi.. Shiv had chosen the path for himself.. He chose the struggle, the journey, without Anandi's consent / permission..
But now AnSh are in a committment.. When Anandi was not ready for consummation initially, she always had the guilt that she isn't able to give in to him fully.. Her tone was not harsh, she sought for his permission before playing the Amnesia drama with Jagya.. It never created a problem between them cuz Shiv was much understanding and Anandi was mature enough to go for any decision only after Shiv's approval for the same..
But I cant see Shiv doing the same for Anandi.. Now I dont expect Shiv to stop Ira or anyone from shouting at her.. But where did the support and understanding go ? Now it's role-switch.. Anandi is more understanding here.. But does Shiv care for her approval or decisions or comments like Anandi used to do once ? No.. Shiv has become full of himself and doesnt even bother to acknowledge Anandi's emotions even in private..
Sorry to defer with your view here buddy, but I think Shiv has failed miserably here.. Right you are, a mother needs to push its kids off the nest so that they can fly.. But when others would attack the baby, mothers would go to any extent to protect them.. Anandi has no protection in KB anymore..
My POV.. Thanks 😊.. Lovely post btw !


Well what u said regarding Shiv's change in character is fine. But that's what I call extra mirch masala that CVs are adding may be for an extreme or temporary separation track. 😉

But I think Anandi could have done much more for her own stand. She seems all powerless now.
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Originally posted by: PRB_Shonit

Though I agree with your post, as Anandi's behavior has jeopardized my faith in her off late, but I must mention few points out here..

When Anandi was not in agreement of marrying Shiv, it was not Anandi's fault.. As an individual she wasn't ready for committment.. It was Shiv who fell in love with her.. So of course the initial hardships will have to be faced by him.. It was not a favor to Anandi.. Shiv had chosen the path for himself.. He chose the struggle, the journey, without Anandi's consent / permission..
But now AnSh are in a committment.. When Anandi was not ready for consummation initially, she always had the guilt that she isn't able to give in to him fully.. Her tone was not harsh, she sought for his permission before playing the Amnesia drama with Jagya.. It never created a problem between them cuz Shiv was much understanding and Anandi was mature enough to go for any decision only after Shiv's approval for the same..
But I cant see Shiv doing the same for Anandi.. Now I dont expect Shiv to stop Ira or anyone from shouting at her.. But where did the support and understanding go ? Now it's role-switch.. Anandi is more understanding here.. But does Shiv care for her approval or decisions or comments like Anandi used to do once ? No.. Shiv has become full of himself and doesnt even bother to acknowledge Anandi's emotions even in private..
Sorry to defer with your view here buddy, but I think Shiv has failed miserably here.. Right you are, a mother needs to push its kids off the nest so that they can fly.. But when others would attack the baby, mothers would go to any extent to protect them.. Anandi has no protection in KB anymore..
My POV.. Thanks 😊.. Lovely post btw !

When anandi keeps on saying J is not wrong and saanchi is wrong why will he listen. Atleast he has taken a stand whether it is right or wrong. Anandi better stick to her thoughts and tell truth in court and leave it to shekhars. No need to take tamasha from Ira and give her back boldly. Shiv is just cold and if anandi does not like his behavior with his father tell it openly to shiv and make him realize his stupidity. But please crying buckets of tears is foolishness.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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good post Debbie!!
i just want anandi to stand up and speak for her self and for truth...then let her line of fire be her in laws, sanchi, J and even her husband Shiv...even he needs some session from her.
but it is stupid to always wait for Shiv to stand for her or else keep crying...

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