Originally posted by: nirvanlove
Unfortunately, Arjun isn't a toy the girls could share and it is best way forward is for Archana to say she support none as both girls are equal for her and to her even now the truth is Arjun has two timed them, so in her eyes because of this action of Arjun ' he isn't fit to marry either daughters (this is a character statement that isn't proved as of yet ' the challenge has always been a fiasco in my eyes ' it didn't to anything the prove Arjun's character (regarding girls) in Archana's eyes)..
in todays episode something happened , dont remember and dont want to recollect that it was actually discarded that he did something wrong.
something to do with i wasnt succesful in love even after loving each other - vishwas uth gaya tha - arvi ka pyar ni dekh PAI--
W*F happened to someone who had ovi nd purvi in the bush, thats called cheating/two timing. if am in love, i do not forget that am engaged to someone else or vice versa. Arjun is loser no. 1 for me and Archana is Hypocrite no.1
Yes but he was not 2 timing anyone. He agreed to commit to Ovi for the sake of her happiness...not his...when he was in Canada...and in fact, made it clear when he refused the first time that he did not love her like that...but only as a friend.
He did not plan on coming to India and falling in love...indeed both these 2 were at such loggerheads initially..the change in Arjun himself was so gradual. Just like Teju herself said..."we cannot stop ourselves from falling in love with someone...and we cannot stop someone from loving us" When he realized he was in love with Purvi...and was in love for the first time in life period...
he immediately called Ovi to call off their engagement...and tried repeatedly many times after that as well. He did not want to do something so serious via email...but wanted to at least have an actual phone conversation...in this case via phone considering she was in Canada...to inform her the truth. As a matter of fact he tried this immediately upon realization of his own feelings...before Purvi even returned them...but solely on the basis of his own feelings he wanted to end it with Ovi...with or without Purvi's love in return.
So where does the 2 timing come into play?? He made a mistake in not going public right away...1) Due to his dad's instructions of not to do anything until he came back, and 2) Ovi's career being put on the line with that lawsuit...this seems to be the major thing...He didnt realize Ovi had risked her career...the one thing she could fall back on...to come to India to marry him. He thought if he gets her career issues out of the way then she will have something to concentrate on and he can come out and confess the truth. Which he was ready to do...at which point Purvi stopped him since Teju/Ovi had found out about Archana being their mother.
Ovi has to accept the fact that Arjun does not love her...and he clearly never did...she knows, he knows, entire Deshmukh clan knows that he did agree to marry her because it was what she wanted badly--not him. As to the engagement...he didnt even know she was in India...he was put on the spot in public...in front of an entire ballroom full of people- family, friends, business associates, etc...and when he tried to rectify the situation...his dad informed him it was not the time or place. He did, however, immediately afterwards, called DK on the carpet and tell him the truth...which is what he was supposed to do.
He never loved Ovi...and that is a fact. There were a bunch of twists and misunderstandings that got thrown in...and I will agree that he made some serious errors in judgement and some of his actions were just dumb. However, his intentions were never wrong...which means we cannot point the finger at his character for this---period. When Archana came to realize this...that he had never loved Ovi and loved Purvi all along...she realized the truth and acted accordingly.
This whole coming between 2 daughters and favoring one kid over the other is ridiculous too. There is nothing to favor!!! He doesnt love Ovi...he never did...so how can there be a question of favoritism here??? She is not choosing at all...the choice has already been made by the kids themselves. Ovi is just too delusional to accept this. You cannot force someone to love you...and Ovi needs to realize this. Even history has proved this...you can own a person's body...but you can never own their heart and mind...that is their own and belongs to them. It sucks and stinks that Arjun committed to Ovi though he did not love her...when his priorities and personalities were different...and before he even knew what love really is. But Ovi knew she was going to get engaged and married to somebody who did not love her...and who even stated that she was not going to be his priority...that he was going to be devoted to his business first and not have any time for her...still she agreed...and so that is her cross. You cannot backtrack and say he is supposed to love me now just because I bamboozled him into a surprise engagement!!!!!
Again, "God grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change. Courage to change the things I can. And the wisdom to know the difference." For her sake and everyone else's I hope she grows up and moves on soon.
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