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Almost Everyday I read posts saying Khushi should have told about Shyam to Arnav or at least Nani
Almost Everyday in some post or the other whenever Khushi is hurt by Arnav, bang comes the retort she should have told the truth.
Almost everyday I read posts where people ask why she gives Shyam so many chances.
I also read posts that Khushi is encouraging Shyam by being silent. She should tell at least Payal. She should slap him etc. etc.
I have been reading this for so long and never spoken on it. Today I just had to because once again she was a victim of Arnav's wrath and did not tell him about Shyam's mishandling her.
Let's go back to before marriage.
- She tried to tell Anji. But her mangal suttra broke and she stopped herself.
- She decided to keep quiet for Payal and Anji
- She can't tell Naniji because Shyam is a trusted member of the family. Who will believe a new entrant in comparison to a trusted member. Moreover there is the family peace to think of and the fact that Khushi has just been accepted by Nani
- She can't tell Anji, goes without saying. Anji is pregnant, she worships her husband and she would just be devastated.
- She can't tell Akash because he worships his jija and jiji. Also he is married to her Jiji. If Akash knows Payal hid the truth all hell may break lose. Not only Mami, even Akash may turn against Payal. At present Khushi cannot risk it.
- She defenitely can't tell Arnav. He already distrusts and appears to hate her. Imagine what reaction, an accusation like this can evoke in Arnav. Khushi doesn't know Arnav knows about Shyam. She thinks he will be deastated.
- She can't tell Payal and her family, because they are too wrapped up in their own world to care for Khushi. She can try and tell them, but how will they help?All the problems which applies to her, also applies to them. Anything against Shyam may destroy Payal. Moreover, this stupid family watched as shyam came towards her during Holi. No one asked her anything. Her family is not her real family. She is adopted. She cannot risk losing them. As it is they are reeady to tell her she is adopted and not their blood. We know the Gupta family doesn't care because they as elders should have told about Shyam to the Raizada family but they failed. Bauji is the only hope. Had he been normal, I am sure Khushi would have told him as she trusts only him.
- Khushi stands to lose all relationships if she reveals about shyam.
- Shame and fear of social stigma. Girls often think people will say they attracted the unwanted attention from the stalker. We all know it happens
- Fear of upsetting the apple cart when the stalker is in the family. Most victims think if things can resolve itself without upsetting anyome, then they should ignore the stalker and the problem will be solved.
- Optimistic hope that the stalker will change his behavor some day and reform
- Fear that if they slap them or do some physical harm to the stalker, he will overpower them and force themselves on them. Many of us girl do not slap an eve teaser for similar reasons
I think in this case the CVs have portrayed what really happens when the staker or sexual advance maker is in the family.
Beleive me it is a nightmare no girl would like to be a victim of.
Here the only person who can help Khushi is she herself. God helps those who help themselves. She is too strong to be a victim. All I am trying to explain is why she is not telling anyone. But when the time comes, I am afraid when Shyam gets even worse, she will have no choice to let the hell break lose.
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