should sandhya's parent be somewhat blamed?

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Posted: 13 years ago
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i dont know the answer to this question but it just came through my mind last night. should we blame sandhya's parents for not teaching her any household work- not even making a proper tea????? they did taught her good values, morals, and left no stone uncover to give her the best education as possible, which is a very good thing and every parents should encourage their children to pursue their dreams. BUT my question is that did they think that sandhya will only become an IPS officer and remain and IPS officer all her life?? did they not think of her becoming some1's wife, DIL?? wont she have any responsibilities towards her household works??? remember when babasa told bhabho that even they are educating chavi so what if sandhya is educated and then bhabho replied that chavi is studying but i've taught her work too so she doesnt have to struggle at her in-laws (think from bhabho's point of view (even if chavi doesnt know any work lol)) we're living in a society where when a DIL comes to her sasural she is expected to look after her husband and handle the whole house and its chores with mind and pace. ofcourse there are ladies who work outside but they also handle their house and family. they have to balance it out. even if sandhya's parents thought of her being married to some judge, or engineer, doctor etc she would be expected to cook or atleast serve them with a nice tea in the morning. im sure sandhya would not be a kaamchor like chavi but shouldnt her parents have focused on her doing household chores as well as studying i mean lots of us girls do that dont we???? or sandhya kept on studying for 24 hours everyday. there is no right or wrong answer to this question but i only want to know what do you guys think. are sandhya's parents to be blamed about this or not? be polite and plz consider all the sides of the coin(situation) when answering. thank you😊

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I agree with your pov to some extent. But when you are young and in school or college, where is the time to really learn? Between homework, exams, tuitions and other activities how can a girl study and learn good homemaking skills??
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Posted: 13 years ago
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No Sandhyas parent did the right thing by giving her education. I do believe if you have good education you can learn anything in this world . Learning how to cook is a piece of cake. I never lifted a glass of water before marriage but within month or two I became a very good cook. Becoming a pro at cooking was full six months. Whereas if you dont study at an early age then study becomes tough later in life. Today if both the spouses are working then household work is for both not just wife. Those days are gone where wife would sit at home and husband will work outside.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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No Blame for Sandhya's parents...In Fact all credit goes to them for raising a kid to such nice, wise, down to earth and sensitive human being...
As I mentioned on some other thread few days back...Generalkly Now days Gals get a cooking crash course before marriage...She never got that time as her parents died in accident...
Anyways dont worry , Her husband is one of the best cook in Pushkar. He is nice guy and will teach and help her...And also he never blame her parents instead teaches in cool head🤗
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Isn't Sandhya only 18 or so?
She was obviously very studious, i doubt she got much time to do chores and learn how to cook! I know a lot of people that didn't learn how to cook till they were about to married 😆
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Posted: 13 years ago
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No blame on Sandhya's parents. Sandhya is still young and in her student phase and academic education is the main aim at her age. Cooking and household chores can be learnt at any time but education has an age limit (I am excluding adult education here).

Bhabho is totally wrong in my POV. What has she taught chavvi? Has she ever seen Chavvi doing any housework properly? She is lazier than Meena and grumbling when asked to do work. On top of that, a big liar and manipulator who has no interest in studies nor has she learnt anything from her studies so far. Bhabho is annoying when she boasts on her parenting skills.
Edited by b2011 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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like everyone cannot be a doctor or engineer, everyone cannot learn to cook...some ppl. can be really good cooks, even if they didn't learn cooking at an early age but not all...in my opinion, parents must teach their children (not girls in particular) some basic house work so that they don't struggle later..that much is taught in the schools also...it's good not to be dependent on someone else for your work...what if the servant goes on holiday? for how long can one eat outside? for how long will the house remain dirty? in our school we had craft classes, cookery classes which turned out to be useful to me...i never entered the kitchen before marriage but now i do everything on my own bec. after a day of hardwork, i want to have good food which my servant cannot cook

Sandhya is a smart girl n she learnt cooking and all house work quickly...that's what she will prove to bhabho now that since she was educated & well aware, she was a quick learner, she can run the house better than bhabho 😎
Edited by _charu_ - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Cooking or making tea isnt a big deal... what matters is education.. my pov
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Partly yes and no ... No denying they gave her lifes best gift, education , where she can be independent when time asks for , gave her good values , how to respect elder and yet hold ur ground ,

I agree when in school or college asking them to learn kitchen work is not done and pretty rude for kids, yet once ur done past some age , its not wrong for a parent to expect kids to learn and teach them...some parents even say ur past this age , just learn basis of cooking 😆

Being third and last kid in family me and my sisters use to share work, so i never got into kitchen mess, i still donno how to make tea when i can make decent lunch and dinner 😆 ...though the curiosity and enthu made me enter that mad world 😆 ...

I know many ppl who had learned cooking after getting married , my mom learned it after marriage though she comes from a biggg joint family , a complete villegie ...


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Why to blame parents's, specially daughter's parent's for not teaching particular thing to their daughters. 😔

what if meena who is 4 th pass had been married to more educated person. Then she have to learn the importance of education.
What is important is to maintain the balance, earlier women do not goes outside for work , so they need to be good in house hold work. now-a days women does multi tasking , work outside so education is must with other activities.
Person should not be judged by what he/she knows, but how much they capable and willing to learn,
Why not bhabho is blamed for Chavi's attitude?😳

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