For Every Member-Especially those leaving

Many members have posted topics here saying they are leaving. Everyone is giving reason that they were bashed/attacked by fellow members so they are now leaving the forum.

The first thing we would like to tell you all is that don't post such topics here on the forum. That is leading to more bad mouthing. It will not help you. It'll lead to more mis-understanding among yourselves. Better would be to solve them among yourselves through PM.

We have closed all those personal topics and in future too they will be closed. It is our request that those members who decided to leave the forum please get back. We are all like a family. Is it that when you have a problem with a family member you leave the house??? Please come back and forget what happened. Be friends and start afresh here.

Bhaskar
IF Development Team

Well said Bhaskar. I have seen enough for today. I am just disgusted today. Zahida, Santibai, and Chartbuster all are my very good friends. I will just hate to see anyone go.

Apparaohoare-G, thx for the sentiments. i hope everyone including fm_qazi and MPL would stay...

Agree...

if someone wants to leave the forum...why do they have to blame it on somebody??? looks weird to me...

Originally posted by: apparaohoare

Well said Bhaskar. I have seen enough for today. I am just disgusted today. Zahida, Santibai, and Chartbuster all are my very good friends. I will just hate to see anyone go.

I had told Zahida from day one not to invest her emotions and time in this make believe world, but she insisted that people were nice and everyone was a friend. No one is worth the tears in this forum. I am glad she finally has opened her eyes and moved on.

Originally posted by: CLS2U

I had told Zahida from day one not to invest her emotions and time in this make believe world, but she insisted that people were nice and everyone was a friend. No one is worth the tears in this forum. I am glad she finally has opened her eyes and moved on.

Sorry Sir, But I don't agree to your point here completely. Everyone is friend here true. Sometime we have issues that may cause bad feeling among ourselves. But that does not mean we'll leave. There are many here who would miss all these members.

GUYS JUST STOP IT MY FRIEND(AWWW)IS VERY HURT!

ya awwwdi is very hurt n she wants 2 leave
plssssssss plsssssssssss plsssssssssssssss stop it coz i dont wanna lose such a sweet didi 😭 😭 😭

Originally posted by: Bhaskar.T

Sorry Sir, But I don't agree to your point here completely. Everyone is friend here true. Sometime we have issues that may cause bad feeling among ourselves. But that does not mean we'll leave. There are many here who would miss all these members.

You don't have to agree with me, bottom line is Zahida has finally agreed to what I was telling her all along. She has spoken highly of some people in this forum and that includes you. I am glad she had some positive experience from some members in this forum. I am sure she will be around as silent observer. Anyway, I honestly don't think its worth going on and on. She has made the decision and I agree with her decision, wise choice.

Originally posted by: Bhaskar.T

Many members have posted topics here saying they are leaving. Everyone is giving reason that they were bashed/attacked by fellow members so they are now leaving the forum.

The first thing we would like to tell you all is that don't post such topics here on the forum. That is leading to more bad mouthing. It will not help you. It'll lead to more mis-understanding among yourselves. Better would be to solve them among yourselves through PM.

We have closed all those personal topics and in future too they will be closed. It is our request that those members who decided to leave the forum please get back. We are all like a family. Is it that when you have a problem with a family member you leave the house??? Please come back and forget what happened. Be friends and start afresh here.

Bhaskar
IF Development Team

Well said, Bhaskar - I too miss Zahida, Varsha-ji and Srianne - I don't know how many others left without saying goodbye.

But the thing is I can understand why these people may not wish to come back. One can forgive anything, but a person cannot forget betrayal.

This may be a make-believe world, but it is comparable to the real world. However disembodied our voices may be on this kind of forum, there are still real people attached to those voices at the other end. So, even if we feel a little freer to say things we might not otherwise, because of our anonymity, in the end, there is a real person receiving it at the other end.

I can see why Zahida might not want to comeback, family notwithstanding. Supposing you meet people whom you like, and you want to make friends with - so you call them, hang out with them, etc.. Suddenly, at some party, you hear them complaining publicly: "You know that Bhaskar keeps calling me - and I don't even want to get his calls!!" And then maybe sarcastically refers to something you do in all sincerity in your personal life: "Excuse me Bhaskar , I've got to go take care of my sick grandmother." If that happened to you, you would feel not just bashed, but betrayed. Then you would wonder, how many more people whom you sincerely like and reach out to, how many more of them out there feel like this.

Same with Varsha-ji.. .whoever called her "biased" had to have their cranial parts reassembled in China in some nether regions of their habitus.

One can forgive bashing, criticism etc. One can even forgive betrayal, but one cannot forget.

It's really not that big a deal in the end. The world is very big and this forum is very small.... the thing that upsets me is that I was only beginning to know these people, and I would have liked to get to know them better.

I say all this without casting any aspersions against anyone else. It's not a question of bashing... it's a question of refraining from attacking someone personally.