thats the way GOd made them
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So if women think 'moulding' men enables them to tamper with fundamental facts of nature they are going to be in for a nasty surprise. The powers of women are as limited as the powers of man . A man cannot conceive and give birth to his own baby even if he decides never to need a woman in his life ..........either he will have to adopt one , or if he wishes to see his own , he will HAVE to consummate with a woman . Similiarly , if a woman denies man sex for too long , he will either stray and look for it outside or force himself on her at home. What will NOT happen is he will remain like a monk as years flit by just because the woman is NOT yet ready . He is structured that way , will always have lesser control than a woman . These realities don't change.
There is no question of whose fault it is etc . We cannot afford to be immature and childish here and live in deliberate dream worlds where we fantasize about the extent of our powers and our influence on men and how we can 'mould' them . Neiother does this mean we should be scared of this fact and give ourselves up to men on demand ...thats not the issue here . All I am saying is this is the reality and we can only do so much ...........we have to know our limits. However beautiful a wife is , howmuchever a man may be in love with her , curbing his sexual desire for days if she plays hard to get is NOT easy for him , his body isnt wired that way . He seeks emotional intimacy thru physical intimacy . If bulls don't get grass on their daily turf , they slowly venture towards greener pastures. Human beings are animals too , let us not delude ourselves here.
Shakti's crude example sheds one reality check........even during pregnancy months it is difficult for men to abstain for long . In case the teeny boppers who idolise Pratigya don't know this fact , when a woman becomes pregnant after a certain point the doctor calls the couple and advises them to abstain and tells this ESPECIALLY to the man . Why ? Coz the man is wired that way , blunt fact , take it or leave it . Educated , uneducated , sensitive , unsensitive doesn't work here , reality is reality . Well Krishna has been abstaining , without any rhyme or reason , for so long now.
If he had done exactly what Shakti has been doing , bringing prostitutes home during her HAte spree where she repulsed him every night and fought with him by hurling insults , what would she have done ? What would she have told the world....that he is NOT justified in seeking sex outside coz I am NOt giving it to him deliberately as a punishment ? And I am going to do it for LIFE yet he shud be loyal to a non existent relationship ? Any sense in this ? With what face wud she have defended herself or reprimanded him ? Coz not giving him physical intimacy was HER choice , he is free to seek it outside then , isnt he ? Fair , right ?
But the Maharani didnt face this situation coz she got an amazing man . One who loved her truly and remained loyal to her , struggling with his biological needs. She on the other hand remained choor in her ghamand that all this was due to her spirit and strength as a woman , and went on taking his love for granted .
Yes , men stray even if their wives are nOT witholding physical intimacy at home , just for the fun or heck of it . It proves my point even more .That those who do it even when everything is ok at home , see how much the possibility of their straying is if they are deliberately kept away in a marraige . Do young girls really think they will ADMIT to them about having affairs etc outside if they choose to be like Pratigya ? Men wont be as stupid as Shakti to bring women at hiome. The Straying will indeed start ........there are offices , parties , prostitutes , internet po*n ................various ways the women won't even understand .
At the same time there r men who , when their wives are crippled etc after accidents look after them devotedly , totally forgetting their biological needs. But it has to be noted that these r exceptions to the rule . And in most cases , this emotional bond comes coz the wife has won them over with love during their best days together , and that love helps them to rise above their biological needs later .
In real life if a woman tries to emulate Pratigya only two things will happen .......her marraige will land in divorce court and the court will give her a divorce promptly sympathising with the mAN not her , or , she will suffer a fate where she watches her man go out of control as he strays and quenches his thirst outside .In both cases , as starlight rightly said , the woman will suffer .
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