Thendral Wednesday - 15/02/2012 - Page 9

@Shamz Let TA first attempt to talk to her and apologize for his ignorance and behavior towards T. Lets see what she says, also he should thirunthify himself. The realization should come from within for him. We cannot expect T to do it by living with him. She tried for one whole year but she failed. As I already mentioned just because she put up with MM's torture we cannot expect her to do the same with TA/his family. She has every right to expect a normal happy life like any other young girl. T did not change MM. MM changed only after he witnessed padma's selfishness when Vel threatened to murder him if she doesn't agree to get her daughter Pavithra married to him. She didn't care about her thali and her husband's life. MM got life time shock.

Originally posted by: jinju

@Shamz Let TA first attempt to talk to her and apologize for his ignorance and behavior towards T. Lets see what she says, also he should thirunthify himself. The realization should come from within for him. We cannot expect T to do it by living with him. She tried for one whole year but she failed. As I already mentioned just because she put up with MM's torture we cannot expect her to do the same with TA/his family. She has every right to expect a normal happy life like any other young girl. T did not change MM. MM changed only after he witnessed padma's selfishness when Vel threatened to murder him if she doesn't agree to get her daughter Pavithra married to him. She didn't care about her thali and her husband's life. MM got life time shock.

No jinju, she did not try to change, she just put up with his mess ups. She rather had the thankfullness in her mind and had a inferior feeling towards him, bcos he saving from Vel and court issue.😕...She could not argue well for the mistakes he committed. She accepted it too in the case when TA went against Deepa and chased her...Now that both T/T are in same platform, things would deftly look different...the inferior feeling would have gone for her and same time superior feeling is no more for TA...Thats why I said only after this issue I really feel T and T as real husbd and wife. They seem to be in the same level and hence my argument too. Both have to listen to each other for their actions/reactions here on if they put up together, and TA will have to prove himself worth it wrt to T where as T has already proved she is worth it for marrying him by proving that he is her first priority even before her education. So now its T and T who have to prove together and justify their wedding.

Originally posted by: shubba

No jinju, she did not try to change, she just put up with his mess ups. She rather had the thankfullness in her mind and had a inferior feeling towards him, bcos he saving from Vel and court issue.😕...She could not argue well for the mistakes he committed. She accepted it too in the case when TA went against Deepa and chased her...Now that both T/T are in same platform, things would deftly look different...the inferior feeling would have gone for her and same time superior feeling is no more for TA...Thats why I said only after this issue I really feel T and T as real husbd and wife. They seem to be in the same level and hence my argument too. Both have to listen to each other for their actions/reactions here on if they put up together, and TA will have to prove himself worth it wrt to T where as T has already proved she is worth it for marrying him by proving that he is her first priority even before her education. So now its T and T who have to prove together and justify their wedding.

@shubba She put up with his mood swings and tantrums no doubt. But she has tried to argue with him that he is wrong but he never listened to her and gave importance to her feelings. At GW's house whenever she tried to advise him he is wrong his mother will come and defend him yelling at her. "Endi en paiyana nimmadhi ya ve irukke vida maatiya". How many times we have heard such dialogues from GW? Because of GW's pampering he just got worse. He got fooled by his mother's fake paasam. He believed GW was his only well wisher in the world.

In my opinion T should finish her studies without interuptions from Gw , La etc. that is possible only if Ta lives alone and his mother is barred from entering his house or stay separated from Ta until she finishes studies. By then she would be a stronger woman with age, education and experience an will b able to handle and put Ta In place if h is getting out of hand. Though Chaaru matter is out, I am not sure if it is really over. What if she escapes from hospital and joins Gw to take revenge on TA/T? Usually in psycho movies , when we think all is clear suddenly the mental case is back with a knife.

Also it was very immature of TA to get irritated when T was ignoring him and not ready to come with him. I would have appreciated him if he told MM "Ava angaiyye irukattum maama. Naan andha alavukku avala kaaya paduthirukken. Avala enna manichu en kuda eppo vaazhanum nu thonudho appa varattum"

Originally posted by: jinju

Also it was very immature of TA to get irritated when T was ignoring him and not ready to come with him. I would have appreciated him if he told MM "Ava angaiyye irukattum maama. Naan andha alavukku avala kaaya paduthirukken. Avala enna manichu en kuda vaazhanum eppo thonudho appa varattum"

@jinju - both ur comments after mine about TA's behaviour and what he shd have told to MM - a typical men ego, or rather a husbds ego that too infront of their people. They become more dominating in front of their family and keep taunting just for the sake. lol...thats why the other day I enjoyed when T did not even look at his eyes but kept on ignoring.
Husbds never ask a sorry directly, antha word mattum never comes from their mouth (atleast 90% i wd say) and u know what would be the answer when we point out their mistakes...athaan u know right i m at mistake aprom enna...??...When their wife are at mistake, they just make it big. But one opposite quality is husbd forget the wife mistake and their mistakes as well...but a wife never forgets husbd's mistakes and keeps taunting when time comes in favour of them, at least using their kids mistake...lol...

Originally posted by: shubba

@jinju - both ur comments after mine about TA's behaviour and what he shd have told to MM - a typical men ego, or rather a husbds ego that too infront of their people. They become more dominating in front of their family and keep taunting just for the sake. lol...thats why the other day I enjoyed when T did not even look at his eyes but kept on ignoring.
Husbds never ask a sorry directly, antha word mattum never comes from their mouth (atleast 90% i wd say) and u know what would be the answer when we point out their mistakes...athaan u know right i m at mistake aprom enna...??...When their wife are at mistake, they just make it big. But one opposite quality is husbd forget the wife mistake and their mistakes as well...but a wife never forgets her mistakes and keeps taunting when time comes in favour of them, at least using their kids mistake...lol...

Originally posted by: Jan50

In my opinion T should finish her studies without interuptions from Gw , La etc. that is possible only if Ta lives alone and his mother is barred from entering his house or stay separated from Ta until she finishes studies. By then she would be a stronger woman with age, education and experience an will b able to handle and put Ta In place if h is getting out of hand. Though Chaaru matter is out, I am not sure if it is really over. What if she escapes from hospital and joins Gw to take revenge on TA/T? Usually in psycho movies , when we think all is clear suddenly the mental case is back with a knife.

@shubba, Gw and La deserve to rot in hell. Why should they not be left un supported by the 2 sons? After her creating so much damage in their lives. The sons should just give her some money to support herself every month an have nothing to do with her. I don't want Nit and La to get together also. La has been given so many chances. Even now she is arrogant. Nit should servevthevdivorce papers .

@Jan - I want TA and PA to live happily in front of GW/Lav and see how her daughter-in-laws made her sons life all happy and how she made her dters life miserable...After this incident I bet TA/PA will never listen to any blame against her in-laws...ROFL TA himself was supporting Sudha, when GW was staring was an example...😆...So this would be the best treatment for Lav/GW...lol...They did not ditch their mom, same time teaching them(GW/Lav) a hard lesson.😛