Mujhe Divorce Chahiye - Page 6

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I get that Twinkle was wrong in hiding the truth from Kunj.

But here's my issue. Kunj's actions are speaking otherwise. Did he not hide the truth about Twinkle's father from her? Granted, Twinkle's parents had asked him not to, but he still hid it from her. It does not deter the fact that he hid a vital part of her life from him. This level of anger and resentment is wrong. If he wants to be upset with her, fine. He can go right ahead.

But to not stop your wife from leaving the house? What does that say about him? The love and trust is not strong enough for him to even maintain a superficial relationship with her at this point.

This is another thing that is bothering me. He says that Twinkle means a lot, that her life is vital for him, that her reputation is equal to his, but yet he abandons her whenever she needs him the most. This is in reference to the time when he left her on the street shortly after she was almost raped. No matter what justification you give me, I don't care how many times you tell me "but he came back", it will NEVER, EVER excuse the fact that HE LEFT HER.

I so wanted to raise my point but as you said I totally agree with the bold part gur.

He left her at a vulnerable time, when she needs a strong support the most. He has shown that if he is hurt enough, he WILL leave her without taking in regards to how she may feel. What if something had happened to Twinkle in the brief time that Kunj had left her? What if she got kidnapped? Or actually raped this time around? Whose fault would it be then?

I have noticed it and it has happened many times.There have been instances when they have been toghether but that was ll when Only one of them was hurt but when when of them are emotionally hurt they always part ways,I just want them to be there for each other in thier vulnerable times.

Even the setting for that abandonment was a demonstration of his volatile anger. It was in public (outdoors), in the middle of the road where she is stuck in between two places, unsure of where to go or which path is right for her. He leaves her in a void where she begins to shrink in on herself.

For Twinkle, what I want most from her is to realize that she is going through abuse ever since she has met Kunj.

1. Yuvi = physically, psychologically, sexually
2. Usha = physically, emotionally, psychologically, verbally
3. Kunj = physically, emotionally
4. Cherry = physically, sexually, verbally
5. Anita = psychologically, verbally, emotionally
6. Surjit = verbally
7. Leela = verbally, emotionally
8. RT = physically, verbally, emotionally
9. Mahi = physically, verbally, emotionally, psychologically

Almots everyone has did thier part in hurting her in some way and she has always took it and forgiven everyone like nothing happened,I am once again saying no One Means no one has a bigger heart than Twinkle for me Atleast for now.

This woman needs to break out of this sacrificial status and start focusing on herself.

So no. I don't think divorce is harsh. Especially when you have a family like Kunj's.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Hey,

Thanks for the comment on the OS but you chose a really bad time to introduce yourself to me. (Not really in a particularly good mood.)

Actually, I am being lenient on Kunj. I have a really deep and emotional connection with this fictional character and I have always supported him. However, this time around, he is in the wrong.

His anger on Twinkle not trusting him enough to share a vital information about his father with him is one thing. But to have him not support her when everyone is blaming her and putting her in the wrong is another. To have him do this not once, but multiple times is what's wrong. To have him go against his words and promises of being by her side, and protecting her from each and every harm is wrong.

He may not have told Twinkle to leave, but he didn't stop her either. What kind of respect does that show? Is that how much value he has for his wife? At this point, I'm not talking about the one-on-one relationship that Twinkle and Kunj have. They have a different understanding of each other. But what matters the most in situations like this is how relationships are perceived by the public - i.e. the family. They cannot treat Twinkle like she is in the wrong every time she is accused of something. We had RT humiliate Twinkle in public when she was accused of throwing acid onto Mahi. Now, she has been accused of sending those photographs to the media. What reputation does Twinkle have in the family? On one hand people think that a sister threw acid onto her younger sister because she couldn't see her happy. Now, we will have people gossiping that a daughter-in-law sent vulgar pictures of her father-in-law to the media.

What does that say about Twinkle? Everyone is so concerned about Kunj and Twinkle's relationship in its unity, but what about Twinkle as an individual character? You can't be a strong unit if the foundation that the relationship is standing upon has been crumbled from the start.

Originally posted by: joe10

Divorce is way out of the league... But I dont know CVs what they have in mnd... they could do anything in the name of TRPs...

And your take on Kunj... where is he not trusting her... he did... he did trust that the girl in the video is not her... despite the family blamed her... despite the shock he just faced...

And he just got to know... what big secret she had kept from him... how would he over come that...he feels like cheated... yes Twinkle did what was right and all at the moment... but how would he able to see all that in clear light... so early when another shocker comes to him... that Manohar is in coma... does any1 understands... he could die any moment... any moment... I just dont understand why every1 is not giving Kunj a break... I too am... pissed off at him.. but I still understand what hes doing why hes doing...

Dont u all remember the FarmHouse MU... how Twinkle lashed out at him in the name of RT... out of the blue... that kind of thing he, that kind of insult he forgave her in a day... but here his fathers life is at stake... yes Twinkle did not pierce Manohars heart with a Knife... but right now he is just seeing she hid the truth...

Originally posted by: BeingAnonymous

Are u from India , curious 😆

Let get this India people are married at 18 heck have kids by 21 and they grow along commit blunders and get back a lot of shit happens not so easy as people in west have it 😆

I am sorry if it is offending but fact Indians have long way to go on this when people are married shit happens hae seen lot and ppl pull through , this is just a small matter bigger shits happen in real life and ppl still stick together like nothing happended

Originally posted by: kabirslover

OMGGG NAHIII!!! LETS NOT TALK ABT DIVROCE YAAR WARNA ILL HAVE A HEART ATTACK LIKE MANUHAR--KUNJ BABY IS JUST FRUSTRATED :(

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I'm not actually. I'm from Canada.

While this may be true, I still advocate that people should give their mental health importance. If they are to work in a harmonious unit or live in a prosperous family environment, it is vital that the individual mentality is functioning in a healthy manner. If these issues are not dealt with, relations will become more toxic.

Again, I am not speaking of this one incident alone. But rather, as a culmination of all events that Twinkle and Kunj have gone through.

Originally posted by: Phycho

Frankly speaking i love kunj a lot di but now i seriously feel that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH !!!!!!

Yaar how many times will we face the same thingy ''TWINKLE ALWAYS HAS TO PROVE HER INNOCENCE'' like seriously CVs...

I'm really frustrated...this girl has done countless things for HIS family...just think KUNJ...why on EARTH will she try to tarnish ur family's reputation???? WHY.

AND even when she hid the TRUTH she had REASONS behind that and the main reason was that she PROMISED he FIL that she won't tell anyone about this whole thing!!!! But NOOO u will always find FAULT in her...areey she also this bcoz she did not want to create more RIFT in between u two!!! which u already had with ur DAD!!!

Gurleen Di now i seriously feel that they shud get DIVORCE and person to give the papars to the other shud be NONE OTHER THAN TWINKLE TANEJA!!!!

It's high time now CVs seriously do something and that to FAST!!!

BTW WONDERFUL POST DI!!!😳👏

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Yup!

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

The family point:

His family no longer consists of biological parents and siblings. Twinkle is a part of that family whether Usha accepts it or not. Twinkle has down so much for the family but yet she refuses to accept her! Even Bebe pointed this out to Usha. Twinkle has done so much but yet all Usha can do is find ways to crib about her. Usha had replied saying that all the problems that have been caused have been because of Twinkle. While that may be true, it is wrong to think Twinkle purposely committed any wrong against the family. Whatever wrong or ill deed may have been conducted against the family because of her, Twinkle has tried to rectify.

In Usha's case I could not agree more with you. She time and time again has failed me whenever I think there is a chance she will believe Twinkle. I believe Usha is a major reason for this problem and a major hurdle in Kunj and Twinkle's relationship.

Kunj cannot postpone his decision in accepting Twinkle into his family because of Usha. If he does, then Twinkle will never get to be a part of that family because no matter how hard she tries, Twinkle will never be able to earn a place in Usha's heart.

This I agreed with in my first comment. I said he needs to accept and realize her as his family asap.

The secrets point:

That point of yours has made Kunj into a hypocrite. You say that he is a man who does not like secrets, but yet that is all that he has ever done. His desire to get married to Alisha - a secret. Him keeping Twinkle and Yuvi's relationship hidden - a secret. Him keeping the truth about RT from Twinkle - a secret. How can a man claim to hate secrets when he has so many of his own?

Ok so i get your point. But in my POV these secrets are different. He was forced to keep them. Twinkle and Yuvi's relationship he had to keep it a secret for Twinkle's sake. RT's secret he was forced to because of Leela (RT issue I actually do hope Twinkle brings it up if they have a heated discussion). By a man who does not like secrets I meant that he does not like it between them.

Winning her back:

Twinkle isn't some prize that has been lost and needs to be won back. He needs to earn her trust and respect and have her voluntarily come back to him. Out of HER own will, not because he manages to please her for a day.

Thank you for actually pointing this out, my bad for the wrong choice of words. Yes she is no prize I agree. I am not disagreeing with the fact that he needs to repent. He needs to he needs to feel bad for what he has said to her. I am just saying at that situation that reaction is expected. And I think Twinkle needs to show a piece of her mind too.

Divorce:

So how far do you want things to get? Until she's dead or almost raped again? Lord knows this man has failed to protect her from harm when she needed his help the most. And I'm not talking about physical help. That anyone can do. What I'm talking about is the emotional and mental support that a husband and wife need to maintain their relationship. They misunderstand each other on the littlest of things and the lack of communication between them blow things up in huge proportions.

Oh god no. But I do not think he has failed to protect her from harm. I think he has been there for her as much as he can. Countless amounts of times he has saved her. We cannot forget those so easily. Emotionally he was there for her during the whole Mahi jaap. He was the one there to console her each time something went wrong. Lack of communication is a problem between the two I accept. But they have been married for what 6 months now? And it was not out of love it was forced we all know the situation was their marriage took place in. So from there to now they have made an immense amount of progress with A LOT more to go in my eyes.

There is no point in having a destructive love that is only going to give an eternity of misery and a few days of bliss.

If we're talking about Kunj, then I am the biggest supporter that he will ever have. Today is the first time that I am calling him out on his shit because what he has done and is doing is wrong. And I'm not going to stand back and have everyone gloss it over as a one time thing because it's not.

I just think he is a flawed person like the rest of the characters and I think we are hard on him more than others. He is doing something wrong but at least he trusted her with the video leakage, that has to be taken into account right? This is the second time it has happened but what is different this time is the fact he loves her. That is why I am hopeful with this track that it can take forward their relationship in a holistic sense. And if in the future in the track he does not trust her completely and blames her more and thinks she is the reason for the pictures to leak then shayad I will be on the side.