Posted:
Personally, I'm not watching any of the episodes, but Hrideyy is keeping me up to date on what's happening every day. So thank you for that! <3
Now, as for what happened today, I'm NOT happy! š³
Here's why:
Kunj's lack of belief and trust in Twinkle at this stage of their lives and relationship is unacceptable. These two have risked their lives numerous times for each other. Whether Kunj is poisoned, his family is kidnapped, they're placed in a gas chamber, or in any situation they have put their lives in mortal danger, there has been an irreplaceable trust and faith in each other.
Situations like these do not break relations. They increase the strength in them and solidify them to face even harsher situations for the future. They harden so that they do not break so easily due to the bad weather around them.
Here?
They have made it seem like as if all those events had never occurred.
Just recently, we saw Twinkle not care about her life, her dignity or reputation when it came to her sister. The sister who hates her guts. How can Kunj believe that she would so willingly tarnish the Sarna family's name like that? That to against the very father-in-law who was the most eager to bring her to this house, and has treated her like a daughter? Not to mention, this is the same woman who made herself sick by praying at the gurudwara to alleviate all the problems that had fallen onto their house.
How could Kunj just forget that?
Granted, it is his parents. Granted he has gotten a shock knowing that his dad has gone into a coma and Usha just threatened to kill herself. For a moment, he had to face the risk of losing both his parents at one time.
But does that justify his reasoning behind not trusting his wife? The wife who has done more than she should have to not only save his life but to better it?
Just a few episodes ago, we saw this man risking his life to save Twinkle's when she went underwater. If he does not love or trust her, then why would he do such a thing? Shortly after that, we saw him making full efforts to restart their relationship on a clean slate, without any of the negative complications that had confounded their marital journey. Why would he do that if he did not wish to spend the rest of his life with her? Why would he do that if he did not see something in her that made him think, yes, this is the woman who will love and respect not only me but my family as well.
Just... what is going on in his head when he goes against Twinkle?? The justifications never tally up with his actions, and frankly, I feel like they are butchering his character this way.
And Twinkle.
This woman has endured SO MUCH abuse and yet she sticks around for this bloody, ungrateful family. Now that she's gone, I want her to STAY gone. Like, I want her AS FAR away from the Sarna's as she possibly can.
I want a divorce. And not some metaphorical bullshit either. A legal, court ordered divorce.
Kunj should use this time to focus on his studies and build himself a career. With Manohar out of the way and unable to guide him, Kunj needs to start figuring his shit out. He can't busy himself with all the kitchen politics when he has a family to care of financially.
Twinkle should start regaining her identity as a strong and independent woman. She needs to learn how to build up her self-esteem, her self-confidence and the will to fight against family members when they ARE wrong! Not silently take in their crap and let it all slide.
Make her focus on building up her own career and give her a direction, purpose and motivation to do something that is OUTSIDE of the Sarna family. That is outside of regaining her sister's trust, her winning against the evils of the Luthra family or even outside of KUNJ! Lord knows, this guy doesn't deserve any of her love as of yet.
Let these two grow at their own rate into individuals first before they can be tied together. The whole basis of their marital relationship was wrong and that is the root cause of every wrong thing that has happened in their life. I'm not talking about the Farmhouse Misunderstanding specifically, but the whole concept of them getting married to each other against their will. They didn't have trust in each other nor the want to be together. Yes, they have fulfilled their individual roles of being a husband and of a being a wife, but those are two separate roles. They have never been together as husband and wife.
They have always remained at this stage where they try to build a relationship with hollow words and empty promises. When it comes to enact upon them, they never work out, especially from Kunj's side. More so than Twinkle, Kunj has been the one to make these grandiose promises of being by her side at every step of the way, supporting her in every fight etc. But when it comes down to it, he just never lives up to those words. He never gives Twinkle the benefit of the doubt, or try to listen to her defense. He always assumes the worst of her and then goes back grovelling for forgiveness when he's proven wrong.
I really don't like this dynamic between them as it signifies an unhealthy relationship.
Twinkle is abused, cries, is accused and abandoned by Kunj, fights to prove herself right and then Kunj comes back to apologize. Yes, there are moments and times when Kunj is by her side, supporting her. However, how meaningful is that support when he is doing it half-heartedly? Is he by her side because he has to as he is her husband or is he with her because he wants to? Who is Kunj doing all this for? Is it for Twinkle or is it to quench his doubts and find a reason to trust and believe in her?
When he acts in relation to Twinkle, it is never entirely selflessly. There is always an ulterior motive - how much can I trust her?
Remember, this is the girl that kept her affair with Yuvi hidden from her mother. This is also the woman who refused to believe in Kunj's integrity and accused him of raping her.
She cannot be easily trusted and no matter what Kunj says, he will never, ever fully trust her again.
I'm going to end this off now as it is getting extremely long and a more in-depth analysis can be done on the motivations, and insecurities of both those characters - especially Kunj's.
But the fact remains that I strongly stand by the suggestion of having Twinkle and Kunj get a legal divorce, build themselves up as individuals, become stronger and more comfortable, and more confident with who they are, and then proceed to see if they work together as a single unit. Because the way they are operating right now, highly says otherwise.
Debate Mansion
Hindi TV Shows
